An asshole is someone who is hurtful and insensitive. It is either their way or its awful. It is either what they think or it is stupid. An asshole makes you earn respect and if you can earn it you feel like its oh so great when you deserved it to begin with. It is hard to get love out of an asshole.

A maneater is a girl who gives you her attention. She flirts with you then she does not care about the feelings you develop for her. She is hard to get . She pulls away, she flirts with other guys, and it hurts. You try hard to get her. You put in work. You buy stuff, you give her time, you give her endless compliments and it seems to make no dent. Its like the easier you are for her to get the less she likes you. Then by some miracle you happen to impress her and you get her and you feel very accomplished but when you think about its like she was not worth all that effort and heartache.

Self-respect means to value yourself as a man. You're worth something and so people should treat you accordingly. You're worth something so you act accordingly. You don't let people disrespect you. You behave with dignity. Ideally, this means the woman works for you. You don't work for the woman.

Ego means to have an inflated self-image, such as thinking of yourself as a King or Queen, or thinking of yourself as a superstar, or as superman. People value what they have to work and sacrifice for so what is hard to get is something that they probably value highly. If you have a big ego you probably want what is hard to get, but what is hard to get sometimes puts you through shit so it hurts your ego while pursuing it. Then more shit you get put through makes you feel inadequate and the fear of inadequacy makes you desperate to validate your ego. Trying to validate your ego means you are Arrogant & Insecure You have an inflated sense of self and you are afraid of losing it, but you're willing to take abuse to take validate your ego. For instance...hot girls always dating ass holes. A guy said something about girls that like assholes are codependent and that is precisely it. These girls hate what they go through, but because they are ego driven they want to get the guy.

If you ever read the story of Great Gatsby you have a character that was rejected by a girl because he was poor then he goes on to become rich just to get the girl. Its all about her. It takes great self-esteem to achieve greatness, but it shows little self-respect to put in all that time and effort for just a person. He submitted to her. Its like she's a queen and he's her servant. Arrogant and Insecure. However, this happens all through out life where you are trying to earn someone else's respect. Its like the gang member doing wild and crazy shit just to be a part of a gang.

To key to avoid falling into a vicious cycle trying to validate your ego is to have perspective. I have talked about romanticism again and again. Pussy is just a warm meathole. Sex is just entertainment similar to an xbox. Love is a strong feeling, but so is gas....

The important points of this post:

1.) Hot girls are often ego drive. Arrogant but insecure.
2.) Ironically, seeking ego validation can make you submit to people.
3.) Assholes make your earn affection so they are naturally attractive to Ego driven individuals since we value what is hard to get.
4.) Complimenting an ego driven person only makes their ego bigger and can make them more confident to go through bullshit for a person. Insulting them only makes them feel like more afraid of their ego being proven untrue and may make them desperate for someones attention out of fear of losing their ego. The only solution is to believe you are too good for bullshit. Feelings like you're too good for bullshit ends codepedency

That's one definition of the ego... but the more common definition of ego that we go by on this forum... as written by Mods like pumpington, chief, rye lee, and even RSD talks about this one as well... is the need for any attention. It's more based on not needing any validation of others... Eckhart Tolle, as well as a slew of other authors... quite similar to the buddhist concept of Ego.

Self-esteem didn't make that guy a success his ego did, his need to show himself to be more. BIG FUCKING DIFFERENCE. When you do something for someone else that is ego orientated. Self-esteem is doing things for you.

Self-respect while a part of self-esteem is not the same. Respecting yourself is more living with personal integrity... which means a life that falls in line with your own beliefs. Now Self-esteem is pretty much what you said about self-respect.

Note: Your so keen on this disrespect... ironically this is the ego you just lectured on... demanding you be treated with respect is quite similar to what a king or queen does right?

The funny thing is I agreed with so much of it... it's just your ridiculous uneducated thought on self-esteem.

Once again a decent post ruined by you not being educated enough on a topic and speaking out your ass speaking your non-sense opinion and ignoring the facts of what self-esteem really is.

I'm going to be very blunt in front of the rest of the guys here because it's tiring to read your nonsense and most of the experienced guys feel the same:

Honestly do you have any technical knowledge on inner game? NO... so stop talking about it. Find something you know about. Which lets see the list at this point doesn't include women, self-esteem, self-confidence, self-respect, kindness, what else are we going to find out you don't understand?

I'm tired of having to dissect your uneducated posts... many people feel you're an idiot. I've heard you called even worse things when complaining about you based on your ignorance and not having a fucking clue what you're talking about.

I'll say what I said in my PM: Please leave the forum. You're publishing information that can hurt a lot of guys long term and can literally leave a life long mental crippling.

We discussed this through pm... YOU DON'T KNOW SHIT ABOUT SELF-ESTEEM... GO READ ABOUT IT and stop talking about it. Again these aren't my opinions or made up thoughts on self-esteem.. So stop fucking thinking that... it just makes you appear that much more ignorant and awfully arrogant for guy to be lecturing on it.

Arrogance being something you feel you have value on when you don't... so when your belief in your abilities exceeds your actual abilities such as your knowledge currently.

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You sound so paternalistic its sad.

I tell you again and again this is just your interpretation of self-esteem and you sound terrified of admitting that's just your opinion. You sound afraid of being wrong that's why I believe you are insecure. When are you going to learn some humility and respect the judgment of others. This forum is almost cult like. If someone thinks differently you ridicule them and push your ideas on them. Come on guys, y'all are better than that.

Self-esteem and self-respect are very similar.If you look up a definition of respect you'll see it means to hold yourself in positive esteem. At this point I believe you are arguing over semantics. Maybe you've read alot of books that doesn't mean you are right. There are many doctors that give people pills when they just have a confidence problem. Self-esteem is essentially feeling worthy and deserving and not settling for bullcrap. Self-confidence and Self-esteem comes from a positive self-image, how you think of yourself. The thing is this. People may have high self-esteem in one area doesn't mean they have high self-esteem in another area. For instance just because a guy feels like he is good enough to be a star baseball player doesn't mean he believes he is the prize with women. There is nothing wrong with having an ego, thinking of yourself as royalty, if you are aware that you maybe tempted to validate yourself and know how to handle that feeling.

As far as demanding people treat you a certain way, that is part of self-respect in my mind. If you let people verbally abuse you eventually its going to lower your self-esteem. Self-esteem is a feeling of worthiness and its built stronger over time. Abuse can lower self-esteem so you have to demand people treat you right. it must be done.

Self-esteem and Self-confidence....feeling worthy and capable may stop you from being affected by the words or actions of others. The feeling is so strong that it drones out negative words. Still You have to protect your feelings, you can't just let people talk to you any kind of way because that will eventually break you down emotionally. But, generally if you think about something positive it will make you feel good and if you think about something negative it will make you feel bad. So being sensitive is just a part of being human.

My self esteem could beat up your self esteem.

^^^Here is a PM from this guy.

He's here to teach us about the ego, insecurity, and arrogance. Talk about irony...

LOL - I find it absolutely abysmal that this guy is trying to educate us on avoiding insecurity, understanding the ego, and Arrogance.

His entire first paragraph is a combination of the 3. Fucking hilarious that he wants to teach us about it.

I'm not scared of being wrong (is being wrong going to kill me or something? that would be a pretty irrational fear). I've been wrong 1000s of times. It's inevitable that this happens and it will happen again. It's almost as if he's projected his own feelings on to me. I'm 100% about the truth (which is why I did secede that point on cultures killing females in our last conversation).

The fact that he is so stupid that he doesn't realize experiences are painted by the glasses we wear... our beliefs being these glasses which helps build our perspective.

I've never read a philosophy book and he won't believe me lol... simply because I've read books that had a bit of influence from philosophy I must have read a philosophy book. Is this really coming from a guy who just wrote an essay on self-esteem based on the Great Gatsby? FUCKING JOKE!

Never came across a doctor that said take a pill to give you confidence, anti-depressants or pills for unhappy people yes.

I said they were similar, self-respect is a PART of self-esteem. Seriously go read about self-esteem and stop using dictionary.com you might actually gain a clue.

Demanding those treat you with respect is simply another form of validation. Another form of insecurity. Where you feel you need that to be "valued" in other words your opinion of your value matters less than someone else's opinion. This is what those educated on self-esteem refer to as LOW SELF-ESTEEM as soon as soemthing bad happens so does their opinion of their value. Self-esteem is a constant it shouldn't change with your accomplishments (though self-esteem leads to amazing feats) or lack of accomplishment. You should hold yourself in high esteem regardless.

Experiences are always up for interpretation. That's all we do as humans is interpret and react. However interpretations are simply influenced from our own PERSONAL BELIEFS(created by interpretations of experiences) especially if you have chose not to educate yourself elsewhere (and we know you haven't chose to educate yourself look at this bull shit you consistently write).

The reason I enjoy reading is because I love gaining new perspectives, so you're way off when you say I'm not open to different shit on a topic, what's funny is in all the perspectives I've learned yours doesn't even get close to hitting the mark on shit you "know" about with your "vast knowledge".

See there is this aspect you keep missing. NOTHING HAS VALUE. You assign it value. A person calling me an idiot or a person saying you're uneducated has no value. Your beliefs create a value that you assigned it. That is the thing. I refuse to give someone that POWER over ME. Why should I? Why should I allow someone to effect me?

This is the thing you are missing. You can't be offended if you give them no value. Have you ever wanted to insult a guy and kept going at him and all he did was smile and say "thank you."? It's impossible to influence his frame, he is in complete power of the transaction by not doing shit.

Honestly I am out of here. I just wanted all the other readers to see you for what you are: Ignorant, Uneducated, Arrogant, Egotistical, Insecure person.

Which thank you for demonstrating it several times so everyone can see it. What's most entertaining is that you've yet to gain much if any credibility after how many of these things? It's almost like you're trying to destroy it.

We aren't against thinking outside the box. We are against you making up bull shit that will hurt some members long term.

Peace and Love,

Vic

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Poetic, I think he's just a troll with waaaay to much time on his hands. I've yet to see one good post from him.

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I contact you by privately to discuss the problem you have with me like men. Then you make it public like a drama queen. Step your game up playa.

You sure write me some long ass responses to say you don't care if you're wrong. Think about that son.

You call me a troll but that's a joke to me because you can't disprove a damn thing I've said.

lol the forum still hasn't lost its fire

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Warped doesn't need to prove it, I did all the work and anyone with common sense knows you're to say the least ignorant.

I brought it into the public eye because I'm not scare to put shit out in the open. Why should I be? Why are you afraid of publishing our conversation?

In PM I was nice until your ego, insecurity, and arrogance showed with the "vast Knowledge" to start a PM. Then that last PM well that was straight fucking irony with this thread lol... So I felt obligated to show your "inconsistencies" as you lectured me on "my inconsistencies" you hypocrite. You lecture on something you yourself are... I suppose it's best to get it from the source right? Or were you trying to show us what arrogance, insecurity, and the ego looked like via a PM to me.

Why don't you post all if it? I don't fear my PMs becoming public. This is due to me and my focus on limiting my big ass ego (yes I know I also have an ego). That is a bitch move that you are taking. What is this Drama bull shit? I'm saying shit the way it is but you're so arrogant, uneducated, insecure, egotistical and I'm starting to assume you have a learning disability now... that you can't see how retarded you are coming across with consistency.

I care about the forum members here that is why I rebut you. I care about what happens to these guys, as you said I'm paternalistic about it. I don't want these members to be hurt because some idiot doesn't know shit is trying to teach that can hurt them long term.

The saddest thing about all of this... You don't have the presence to actually step outside of your shoes and learn. You'll always be this person even though it's a completely easily fixable situation, yet you want to lecture other people how to have fucked limiting mindset like yourself. GO AWAY!

Peace and love,

Vic

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