Hey everybody, new to the PUA scene and think you all might be able to help. Here is the situation:

A couple of weeks ago my AFC cousin calls me, tells me he wants to meet me out for drinks and that hes bringing along his new "girlfriend" who lives in the same city as I do. Apparently they have been on a few dates when he comes into town for business and he wants to carry on a long distance relationship. I felt bad bc I hadn't seen him forever since hes such a tool bag, so I said agreed to meet him out. Didn't have anything going on that night so I thought what the hell have a few drinks make my family happy and maybe do some sarging.

I show up and see my cousin at the bar sitting by this gorgeous woman (my cousin usually dates broads that look like gorillas) and I introduce myself etc.. etc.. She seems interested in me and I'm trying to keep the flirting on a low lvl. so as not to piss my cousin off. (even though hes a douche he's still family) We have a few drinks and about after the second one my cousin gets up from the bar and his HB girlfriend scoots over and sits next to me. She starts telling me about how much my cousin is "overwhelming" and how she has doubts about dating him. I try to change the subject so I don't fall into the LJBF zone and she starts throwing me tons of IOIs. After my cousin comes back from the crapper he says that they are going to leave and she says no lets go out while looking at me.

We end up going to another bar and my friend shows up and my cousin introduces her to him and says this is my "girlfriend." She shoots me a startled look and mouths "no hes not." I could of totally been the alpha and knocked my cousin out of the set, but hes family so I didn't. She payed attention to me for most of the night while my cousin was physically pulling on her to pay more attention to him. She ended up telling me she wanted to hang out with me sometime and gave me her phone number right in front of my cousin. While doing this some keno went on between us and we parted ways.

The next weekend I txted her and said me and my buds were going to a bar and she ought to meet up with us. She didnt, wanted to stay in or somethin like that. No sweat, pulled back and didnt stress it. The next weekend I txted her on a Friday and she said she couldnt go out that night bc she had work but she wanted to go out the next night. Next night I decided to wait and let her get in touch with me to go out, which she did so that was encouraging. So we went out that night and things went fine, tried to keep the convo. out of the friends zone, tried not to talk about my cousin too much. They are still dating, but I found out she just broke up with her boyfriend of 8 years, so my cousin must be a rebound guy. All said and done she ended up staying at my place, but once again I stayed hands off because of my cousin.

Thats the situation with this HB. My goals with her are this:

1. Wait until my cousin smothers her and they quit dating
2. Stay out of the LJBF zone while they are dating.

Can anyone help me out? Should I hang out with her frequently or once every two to three weeks so I can string it out until my cousin and her break up? I feel like i'm off to a good start, but I'm in a situation that could easily end up in the friend zone later on. I just need to hold the string in front of her face long enough for my cousin to stumble over his own feet. Any suggestions would help. Thanks. And as a side note I will be using this site a lot in the future as I get into this PUA game. You guys have me hooked!

Yeah man I have a cousin's who's gf is pretty hot and also shows alot of interest in me, but unlike yours, he's a really gd guy and more like my bro.

Leave it for a few days i reckon, your a really "busy and interesting guy." And then id call her (thurs) and make your intentions clear you wanna take her out on date using the word "date" specifically, but you don't wanna do wrong against your cousin, but all in the same sentence. I reckon that'd put the emphasis on you being a straight up guy, and from the interest she's shown in you already, she'll probably say yes.

But i dunno?! I'm new to this game too! I welcome constructive criticism on my advice. I'm trying to get past the whole "text" part of arranging a date, as its real impersonal methods that's troubling me.