What do you think the best response is to the question, "What are your intentions" or "Are you seeing anyone else?"

Background: I'm currently "seeing" 3 girls right now. 2 of them I could possibly see something serious developing (MAYBE) and the other is just fun to hang out with. I want to get some feedback to this question before they ask it. I'm not interested in playing with their heads so I want to be as honest as possible.

What are your guys thoughts?

Thanks!

i hate when girls ask this question because it is completely worthless for them to ask early on with a guy. If you want to be honest, then be honest. Just say you have been on some other dates recently or what not.

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Yeah what I generally do is be honest but come at her with the demeanour of "don't ask this question". Some will run. Some will stay. Some will run and then comeback. Either way who cares.

"Yes"

Next question...

Always be honest.

I would be totally honest with her and tell her how many girls you are seeing. In my experience girls appreciate this honesty even if they say at the beginning that they want something exclusive. Women are attracted to guys who have an abundance of women in their lives and who are able to get other women if they want.

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Absofuckinglutely do NOT do this...

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Depends if this is one of the ones you actually like but if it is I would go with something like this:

"At the moment I don't really want to get into anything exclusive. I have been having a blast with you though and think you are really cool but I'm just not at the point in my life where I want to be exclusive. My bad if thats not what you wanted to hear but I just want to be 100% upfront and honest with you since I actually do enjoy hanging out with you. I fully understand if that is not where you are in your life now but for me thats where I stand."

You should always let a woman know right from the beginning that you aren't a one woman man. I'm not saying the second you open and introduce yourself you should go out of your way to bring it up, but certainly before you become anywhere near "remotely" involved.....Tell her your an open relationship person and your looking or another girlfriend.....that's what I personally do because it's true, I'm an MLTR guy above all else. (Or that your just looking or a friend with beneits, whatever you want her for basically).

I think you are just supposed to avoid this question as much as possible and deflect. There is pretty much no upside to answering this one way or the other.

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How do you get that there is no upside to answering that? It's a great question to be asked. How I would specifically respond to his exact situation would be

"Are you seeing anyone else?" ......... Me: "Yes, I see a lot of girls. I love women"

There's upside in that, trust me. Field test it yourself if you get a chance. I think it's extremely important to be 100% honest about those kinds of questions. I've been doing things this way for a couple of years and I've never had to deal with anything negative because of it. Your just being honest after all, what's the big deal?

Best Responses:

-Duh. (in a sarcastic tone)

-Yeah, your sister (or cousin) (or mother) (or ex-boyfriend).

-Yes, like 30 other girls.

A question like this is called a shit test. You pass them by just evading the question with humor.

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She might also at some point accuse you of being a player. A good response to this would be

"When I'm single I'm wild but if a woman can tame me then I'm strictly hers."

It offers up a challenge for them to qualify themselves while still DHV.

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This. Though I wouldn't go with sister/cousin/family relations. Evade. Do not answer this straight. There is no upside. I have tried saying I'm seeing a lot, saying I'm seeing none, and just evading. Evading works best, followed by surprisingly, seeing none (if they are already attractive, social proof of being a player adds little if any value).

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If a girl asks me any serious questions too soon, I ask her "Do you want to marry me? Tonight? Right now?" or, if she wants to move in with me right away.

She will either say NO! or just laugh at it and then I will say "Good. Then I guess we have a little time until we start serious conversations like this."

Sometimes I may ask her if she wants to marry me then, after she says no / laughs, I ask her "Are you having fun talking to me?" before I tell her that we have time for serious questions, but that is the general pattern that I follow.

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This is a shit test. Agree and amplify, like "ConfidenceMatters" suggested.

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