Problem #1 Opening up means basically telling her about your life. What's going on with you, share a lot of sweet and some not so sweet memories with her. Just let her to get to know what kind of person you really are.

Problem #2. Reframe the situation. Use it to your advantage. Secret relationships are always exciting because there's the risk of blowing your cover. Start appreciating this feeling of excitement. I don't think she is ashamed of you, I think she has some good reasons to keep it a secret. I don't know what are they, but it seems like that.

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with what instinct and don said earlier she told you her problem was you don't open up more. they are right not to let it all out at once cause it comes off like you did it because she said so.

with the second problem. yes secret relationships are very intoxicating, for some its the idea of getting caught but the big reason its so strong is the your sharing a world that others can't see. basically your in yalls own little world. that why "catfish" relationships (ones were people are intimate only online) are so strong

This is the simply matter. I am also in this situation but don’t get any effective result. What should I do?