Met this chick on tinder, number closed all going lovely, set up late drinks on Friday the same week she flaked and went on holiday the following week.. shes still wants to meet.. reopened after a while with:

Me:Just saw a naked man chasing a dog, standard friday night in tooting

Her: wow, I forgot you live so close, if u wana get dinner sunday leme no

Me: Tried to snapchat.. would have been a beautiful sigh.. You cooking???

Got no reply...

So next day on sat midday said

Me: you being an angel this weekend?

her: bit hungover.

we chatted for a bit but the dinner set up never came up and happened..

so sunday evening

Me: i think its time you took a trip over to clapham for this drink

she : lol u think so?

me i know so hah

Her ha, you have to formally invite me

Me: what are you up to tonight? Im feeling spontaneous?

Her: watching x factor and then bed at 9, tonight is not a spontaneous night

Me: haha yea true

was working till 3 last night and have an assessment day tmo aha

me: ah that sucks well hope that goes well

her: it wont i'm like bleugh. such a waste of time

me: ok well Wednesday, clapham at 8, me you and some cocktails. tha formal enough for you hah

Her: i'm at uni on weds

me : see your the diffcult one lol

her:my next available date will be october 11th

me: thats a long time

her: lol i'm very busy, got weddings, work jay z concerts

me ooo miss popuar

her: its all kicking off

me ok 11th it is then , but you owe me one for making me wait. treat them mean, keep them keen, its worrking haha

her: looool ok



That was yesterday, on sunday night... didnt reply .. was sure what to do.... maybe give it time... flakey flakey...

Where did I go wrong... CAN IT BE SAVED... ( haven't text her in 4 days)

Just a bit I should add, we talk on whats app all the time but have never chatted on the phone... is there anyway to save this???

She's just not that into you. You keep double texting her when you don't hear from her. You basically make it look like you don't have a lot going on in your life and you don't have many women in your life. She can tell all of this just from your messages which is very unattractive.

You're not being a challenge. When you're opening girls in person or online, you should treat it like buying stocks or shares. Sensible investment strategy would be to spread your stocks over different companies, then if one starts taking off and gaining interest, you won't care about the investment that failed.

H'mmm ok, I see what you mean. I have left it a couple of days since I text. Needy is a bad behaviour, I need to work on.

How long would you wait till reopen???

Build more interest, I see little if anything interesting to entice her into showing up!

Nothing challenging, nothing bold...NOTHING sensual.

She seems to have PLENTY of options, you seem ready to pounce on that phone when she texts back, because you have nothing to do?

Get more options (girls)

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That's exactly the problem. You shouldn't be re-opening. Doesn't really make a difference whether you leave it one day, a week or 4 weeks, thats not the problem. The problem here is YOU are the one opening and re-opening HER. She should be re-opening you and she should be chasing you. Stop trying to impress her, stop being boring by asking her out for a drink like every other dude out there. Be different. Be totally cool with the idea that you will never meetup with this girl.

Learning pickup or game is not all about "How can I get this one girl", it's about "How can I learn to get ANY girl".

Stop getting obsessed with this one girl you don't even know.

liked that one. very smooth.

As to your question - I guess she's really busy and popular.
If you text her again to confirm the date, she might flake out again, plus you'll look needy for chasing her.
But if you don't text her at all she'll probably forget about you.

I think you should cancel the 11th before she does, and see if she wants to meet at another time.

Hunter_Foxe has correctly identified your issue. The double texts and the continual accommodation eroded any initial attraction you possessed.

So in retrospect you can see you built some initial value running good game when you number closed. She had initial interest but when she flaked you needed to let her qualify herself and firm up a commitment for a meet up. Instead you kept accommodating her schedule and moods, whilst earnestly attempted to reschedule. At some point she realized you were a try-hard and lost interest.

The fork for good game would have been upon her suggesting dinner (which I would never do anyway) I would have said, "No, but drinks Thursday or Tuesday around 8pm works." from there let her qualify herself or confirm the date, if she acted flighty then I would ignore and let her re-engage, not proactively solicit her trying to run more game.

She's not interested in you otherwise she would've met up with you ages ago. Move on and leave her alone. Can't you take a hint? Not everyone is that into you. She prefers her hectic social life to you so stop making a fool of yourself.

I've got a similar problem bro, but all those answers you got are right. Next time you talk to her, be funny and unique and don't mention the meeting. Act like you forgot about it. If she brings it up, say you've got something planned but you'll check if you can postpone it.