Hey guys,

Here's the whole situation... There's this girl I met already a year ago at someguys house. Just came in to grab a slice of pizza, didn't really notice her at all, but she did notice me. To cut it short, she was interested but i didn't make a move of any sort at the time.

Just when i was about to, she got back with her ex. Which triggered somekind of obsession from me towards her. I don't know, i'm kind of fucked up guys...It's as if my interest in her peaked after she chose him over me?!

A year passed, but she was always somewhere in the back of my mind, even though I hadn't seen or spoke to her. And just recently, I learned she definitely broke up with her ex for good about 2 months ago. I thought this was my sign so I went ahead and began to speak to her again over Fb.

She was glad i did, she said! She told me she wanted to write to me several times but never did because of the way things ended. Anyways, we chatted over Fb and by text a couple of times, and had one date since then which went pretty well even though i didn't kiss her at the end.

I'd like your advices here guys, I'm clearly in a case of oneitis here... I'd really like this to work out between her and I, I mean she's great in every way and I feel like we connect. But I'm always the one who text first and ask about her...I know I'm the guy so its part of my job, but I'm afraid she'll feel like its not ''a challenge'' anymore so she loses interest or something like that...

What would you? and any idea for a second date? i live in a small town, so there's not much to do
thanks for the help guys

I doubt you will get much advice here as this post is against the subforum rules (i.e. "Posts about how to get a girlfriend will result in a ban."). You should repost this in general.

-Wolf

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You've already fucked this up Mr. Fantasy Land.

You posted this in relationships, and it should be moved, that's how mind fucked you are.

This dream girl is the girl you think you wanna spend the rest of your life with. shes super beautiful and sweet. when ever your around her you get butterflies and wanna hold her so close to you and just listen to her heart beat sync with yours. In your mind this girl you will grow to love almost instantly.

It just doesn't work that way.

Even if she won’t admit it, she likely knows that you see far too much potential in them and are not seeing her in reality.

You have hit your flush handle.

She IS NOT SPECIAL! There is a million more just like or better.

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yeah you're right, I needed to hear this, thanks Heywood. Makes me laugh to see you've described exactly how I felt haha

tl;dr you met this chick, barely acknowledged she even existed. Eventually, you resolved to make a move as in "hey it's pussy might just as well bang it". When you decide it might be her turn eventually to get a little taste of your dick, she picks her ex boyfriend. To be noted that since you didn't make a move, as far as she knows, you didn't even exist on her sexual radar. Not even a faint remote presence. So, she goes back with her ex (she didn't pick him over you, really, for the above noted reasons). Then you're like "WTF? I was about to hit on her. Why didn't she wait for me?" and your ego got all bruised and now you wanted the toy. Sounds like you fell for petty PU trick, a petty PU trick she didn't even think she was playing on you, even better.
Fast forward. She breaks up. You text her a couple times. Hang out with her once. Repeat: hang out. Not as in you tell her you're "hanging out" cause a date is too much pressure. You literally hang out as there was no mention of kino or anything sexual there.
And you believe she is your "dream girl"? What can I say? ROTFL

What you should do? GFTOW.. as in Fuck them. For real. I bet by the time you're midway through this, your "dream girl" won't even be a faint remote presence in your pussy radar. And then, maybe, you'll get to actually bang her. And find out she is more passive than an inflatable doll

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