High 5!!!

on a serious note though now is definitely the time to give her space, probably a good idea to let her know this is what you're doing and leave the ball in her court

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Lol. I was rolling. My bad though. How did you fuck up? Unless you raped her, her reaction shows how she is and to blame you is crazy. I've come to realize that the chicks who are 25 and over with low sex counts (less than 5 at that age) then to be crazy in some way. Anyone else found this or is it just me?

oh lord yes haha

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Let's see here. Her waiting was a really big deal to her. It may take two to tango. But I still made a promise to her that I would wait too. She's plenty horny, so she knew it would be a struggle. I not only broke that promise. I did something that hurt her and she left on that note. This is about me rekindling the relationship down the road. So I feel like this turn of events just drastically reduced my chances of it working out.

LOL dude... You know what you take away from this? Don't have sex with a girl when she is absolutely HAMMERED. Women are emotional enough as it is... Alcohol causes mood swings.

I had a girl drunk as fuck and me and my buddy wound up double teaming her... She freaked the fuck out and ran to the cops saying we raped her! That's not a fun situation to talk your way out of... Just see it as a lesson learned man. You've really got to move on and let her realize that she was drunk and made the decision to take her clothes off.

So, here's how all this played out. I ended up just driving over to her house yesterday and knocking on the door. We spent the day lounging around, watching movies. Ended up at a coffee shop that evening and made plans to see each other for the last time today. This morning, she came over, we went to church. Then basically the same story... hung out at my house, watched a movie, cuddled, talked, cried, kissed, and said our goodbyes. We left with the understanding that we may never see one another again. I made it clear that I'd be here if she was ready. But that the ball is in her court. All I can do now is sit back and wait. It's been a pretty rough experience. But we parted ways with a big kiss, a tight hug and on good terms.

Would I be okay to send her a letter in a few weeks? That's always been one of our things. Usually once a week I'd send her a letter by snail mail. She really loved that. I was just thinking maybe something light to say that I was thinking of her and hoped she was doing well. Maybe tell about a few things going on in my life. Thoughts?

[quote="TheMajikalMethod"I had a girl drunk as fuck and me and my buddy wound up double teaming her... She freaked the fuck out and ran to the cops saying we raped her! [/quote]


Umm...Majikal...That DOES sound like rape though

Umm...Majikal...That DOES sound like rape though [/quote]


LOL she was actually the one who brought it up... Not us. It's a long story. A funny one... But it lead to a long night. Don't fuck around with excessively drunk girls...

Still looking for thoughts on this.

But I wanted to add that she ended up texting me first thing this morning at like 8am

Her- I feel so weird about this. I just want to hug you and cry right now.

Me- It'll be okay. You know you can always come hug me, whenever you want.

Her- Escape to the bat cave. (that's what she calls my place... inside joke)

Me- The door's always open to you.

Her- I miss you so much

Me- I missed you the moment you drove away. I instantly broke down into tears.

Her- me too

Me- Your heart is telling you that this isn't what you want. It's just silly that we both want to be together and we're not. I know... I've heard the reasons of why. It's your decision at this point. But this feels SOOOO wrong for us to break up and you know it.

Her- The thing is though, Brantley, that as sad as I am and as much as I miss you and want to be with you. I know deep down that I'm doing the right thing.

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So I know I'm probably fucking up by saying the things I did. I just left the conversation there. I don't really know what else to do. She obviously wants to be with me. She is very religious BTW and has it in her mind that she needs to do what God is telling her. She seems to think he has different plans for her and that's why there's this nagging feeling telling her to go a different way. I can't just tell her that's stupid and bullshit. I really think that "nagging feeling" is her conscience telling her it's too soon and she's just chalking it up to God's will. I really just don't know how to handle this situation. I can't explain how important this woman is to me. And I'd go to the ends of the earth for her. But I'm starting to think that my own driving motion is what's pushing her away. I just don't want to push her away by being cold to her either.

I don't mean to sound like a dick... But that's how it comes across because I am a dick....

You sound like a big gaping pussy saying all that shit to her. You're not her therapist. And my goodness!! TELLING HER YOU WERE CRYING OVER HER?!?! DAFUQ MAN?!

Man, you really have no business even trying to give me advice here. Everything you've posted has come straight from the mouth of a whore who views women as nothing more than a sex object. Till you have felt true love and compassion for a woman, then really, you have not much to add. I'm not saying you don't know shit. But I don't think this is a particular subject you are well versed in.

Yes, I am being a big pussy here. I have cried right in front of her. This is not just another girl. I've been with plenty of girls that I'd have just waved bye to. This is someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. I've been married, and the way I feel about this woman is exponentially more powerful than what I felt for my ex-wife. This is a woman who I want to grow old with and have little babies with and all the stuff that probably makes you want to puke.

I have a few girls I could call up and go to pound town with within the next two hours. I could care less about that. It's not about the score at some point.

SOOOO.... anyone have something constructive to add other than rape stories and "dude you're a pussy, go get your dick wet"?

I'm not saying go get your dick wet... I'm saying that you are all caught up in ONE GIRL acting like she is not replaceable. My goodness dude... there are 7 BILLION people on this planet. And you are letting your head get fucked up over ONE girl?! Get real dude. Just because you have a great connection with a girl does not mean that you can't have the same fun, great connection and relationship with another girl out there. You sound about as wacky as this chick does.

Crying is the weakest thing you can do. This is probably why she is having 2nd thoughts because you've been acting like such a wuss. You are lucky this girl hasn't dumped you already.

You are too intense. This is what is scaring her off. Calm the fuck down.

The lovey dovey shit needs to stop, you sound like children learning how to kiss, I could vomit if I read anymore. Please tell me you didnt get those broken heart pendants that fit together?? Women fall in love with the guy who fucks them best. This girl sounds like religion or strict upbringing may have fucked up her head. She is desperate for you to fuck her brains out but she has an internal battle with herself and tries to resist temptation.

You just need to chill. You told her the ball is in her court. Be a man of your word and leave her alone. Give her space. Give her chance to miss you. Stop chasing her and make her chase you. You are not a challenge. Disagree with her. Say no to her. Be a man. Lead. If you say the ball is in her court then send a letter 3 weeks later she will know you're not a man of your word.

for what its worth, i dont think you've done anything wrong here.

the whole crying thing well it mightnt be the most manly thing in the world but i dont know your relationship so..

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Probably.

One of the things she says she loves about me is that I don't fall into the overly macho, man's man bull crap. I like chick flicks and sending letters. She was talking to my ex-wife the other day that I was the sweetest man she'd ever been with and I treated her better than anyone she's ever been around. That said. I don't at all let her walk over me. I have respect for myself. The only reason we're cutting contact is because I'm not going to let her friend-zone me. It's either a relationship or nothing. I am very much the leader in our relationship. I may be a bit too honest, and I may have a lot of emotion invested. But I'm not needy (easy to mistake from what I've posted, I know). I don't plan to contact her from this point on. And like I said. We left off last night with goodbye. She contacted me this morning. After speaking my mind, I let her word be the last. We're still friends on FB. I think that will be enough for her to "keep up" with me.