So I have been dating this HB9 for the past 2 weeks. We have a lot of fun together when we hang out, even though we fight here and there but the sex is amazing. But for some reason she told me she is confused and she doesn't know if she is ready for a relationship. I really don't know how to read her there bc she didn't have any problem with showing up to a school party with me as a couple. Can someone tell me what that means and how I can get her to chase me? I don't want to run after her and come off as needy? I should mention that she does get a lot of attention from the guys at school and she tells me about it. I think maybe she says the truth and that this is just all new to her but how should I react to win her over?

This happens a lot wit HB8s and up. They get complacent. They r so bored wit this that they feel they should explore more options. 5 will get u 10 she has her eye on a different guy. Best way to fix this is b more exciting give her challenges. We in the pua community call this cat and string theory. In other words if u give the cat the string they will play wit it for a sec then move on. However if u dangle the sting all the time u can have the cat playing wit the string for hrs on end

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thanks for replying vein. So u are saying she is still considering her options even though she is hooking up with me? I get the cat string theory it's just that she is very dominant and I feel like she is out gaming me in the sense that I need to approach her. if I don't text her she usually doesn't initiate until I do. how do I turn this around? how do u cat string a girl that is gaming u? it has been ages since I was in a relationship and I'm a little rosty. I don't want this to make me come off as needy but I do like this girl.

Her expressing that she isn't sure means that she is questioning your value. She isn't sure that you are high value enough for her. In direct terms, she doesn't want to settle for someone who isn't worthy of it, and she's not sure you're worthy.

If you want her, make her sure. How? Be high value. Let her miss you, don't be at her beck and call. Be polite, cordial, and warm to her when you are together, but when you are not, then don't call, text, and wonder what she's up to. When she comes to you to see what you're doing, or to share something with you, then make it positive and pleasurable, but when it's over, and you leave, leave completely. Let her miss you when you are gone.

Thanks for your advice vhou. The thing is that she is 6 years younger than me (she is 23) and I'm getting the vibe from her that she doesn't like that and this automatically is hurting me. Now I'm thinking the fact that she thinks she has to explore her options first rather than jumping into a relationship 2 weeks after she started her program at my school combined with the age difference is making her confused. The biggest challenge for me is to stop fearing about losing her when I'm taking distance from her (the fact that she carpools with her classmate that is trying to get her doesn't help) which makes me run after and lose value.

She is still very young I think she is keeping her options open. Wat u need to do is close that door for her show her u r worthy by being more dominate than her. When u get round her or ur friends wit her control the conversation barely give her room to talk. Make her see u can handle being her escort. In bed let her b on top. In bed u can tell a lot about where the girl is in relationships. If she choices top it's bc she is a dominate girl wit no outlet for it. If she choices bottom she is submissive in nature. They show there true side under the sheets so that is when she is most vulnerable. If u give her an outlet for her dominance in the bed room then outside the bedroom when it's most important for u to b seen as the dominate one u can do so without issues. Then she will b thrown off her game enough to use cat n string

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She's confused about why the hell you're trying to get her into a relationship if you've only been hooking up for TWO WEEKS.

WAY too fast. Like, MONTHS too fast.

You're just a guy she's been fucking for two weeks. And now you're trying to act like her boyfriend.

How could that NOT be confusing?

Just because you're having sex doesn't mean you're in a relationship.

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Maverick you got this wrong. We have been talking for almost 3 months long-distance until she moved close to where I live for school a couple weeks ago. That is when we started hanging out and having fun. It is not like I'm forcing her into a relationship bc she tells me and her friends that we are dating but at the same time she acts weird. She has a cocky attitude, is very good at not showing emotions, and tells me this is all new to her and she is confused as if she doesn't know how to treat a boyfriend.
It isn't easy to play string mouse with this chick bc she has a cocky attitude, is dominant and quickly shows you the I don't give a fuck attitude. I feel like I'm constantly being shit tested to gain her approval which definitely hurts my value. I'm trying out different approaches and I think I'm seeing what works and what doesn't. When she says something I don't like I just smile and shut up instead of giving her shit and be cold to her. Because every time I give her shit back the situation escalates and it doesn't reflect good on me.

Let me ask you guys your opinion on this. How do you compliment a girl without running risk of making her think that I'm all in to her and I want her so bad that she can pull her shit on me?

You stop complimenting her... Ive been in my relationship for over a year. I only compliment her when shes earned it.

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