HI Guys,

Rejection in inevitable from time to time. But what to do if you are rejected by a girl that you have known for a while, with whome you have friends in common, that is on your Facebook, etc...

When i get rejected by a female friend, especially by a girl that i really liked (like on one-itis levels) i HAVE to delete her from FB, delete her number, never ever see or hear her again. And move on to the next girl.

However. Every time i do that, the girl obviously figures out that i do it because i liked her and usually her reaction is: "Pff, you are such a pathetic cry-baby!"

Now, how do you delete a girl from your life, without coming accross as a pathetic cry-baby, or love sick puppy?

Obviously, one should always keep his emotion in check, and never get one-itis in the first place. But hey, give me a break! ;o)

Easy, don't choose to feel like a love sick puppy. The only one responsible for your emotional state, is YOU.
Think about that.
This is an opportunity, your closing the door anyway, say whatever the fuck you want. Why would you care how she would respond?

Example; "So does that mean a blow job is out of the question?" In your best 'bedroom voice' Then give her a hug, and grab her ass while your doing it.

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Thank you, Heywood!

The thing is, it's when you are not really rejected in person... It's when during the date you figure out: 'this girl isn't at all interested in me', and you don't bother trying to kiss her, anymore. You end the date, go home, feeling bad and disappointed, and decide to delete her.

How do you handle that, WITHOUT coming accross as a complete dickless fool..?

You show up with another Girl next time you see her. No winning the break up so to speak is a weak approach. I recommend you watch some lectures on inner game. I had a lot of my self worth dependent on external factors and it slowly tore me apart. Knowing where you stand from the core means you can have dinner with her and her friends the next night and not care. That is real cocky funny.

Dude, there's no reason to delete them from your life. As a pua you want as many women in your life as possible. With girls come more girls. If it doesn't work out with one of them, just deal with the situation amicably and keep them on side. In time they'll introduce you to more girls. I have to say deleting them of fb etc, is very immature. No need for it. Keep the women for taking with you to clubs.

honestly If you can't come up with 10 legitamit reasons for why "shes the one" then more or less its a "what if girl"

A "shes the one" has alot of the same interests as you, chill well together, has personalities you like, looks you like etc

a "what if girl" OR (WIG) for sure is one where you didn't make a move or try something.

Neil strauss had his girlfriend in the book as his One Itis because he DID make the moves, they just didn't work, but he still got her

WIG's are when your brain wiggs you out

Uh. You don't delete them from facebook or your phone or whatever. When you delete people from facebook as some sort of punishment which usually screams of nothing more than pathetic neediness for attention from them. When it's over, it's over. It's tough to accept, but these games don't EVER work to get someone back, just move on, leave them on facebook, leave their number in your phone, who cares.

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why don't you actually try to make some female friends for a while, and do yourself a favor and actually try to game your girl friend's girl friends

might be a cool eye opener for ya

Thank you for all the reactions, guys.

However, staying friends with a girl you want to have but can't... Sticking around, hoping she might change her mind... That's living on her terms, and i don't live on anyones terms. Besides, i don't need her to introduce me her female friends, i do a good enough job introducing myself.

I don't like to be friends with women. I either want to bang them, or not, and if not, they're actually useless. Women make crappy friends for a man, that's one of the things that i learned over the years.

The girl that last 'rejected' me, i've known only for 9 weeks. We went out together (with other friends) on the first 5 (weeks) and had three 'dates' after that (every Saturday). Though the three dates didn't go as i would've preferred, she made it clear that she wanted to see me again and again and again... Making plans for the next week, every time.

She is extremely shy and quiet, so i gave her the benefit of the doubt... until my patience ran out.

After the last date, i just deleted her, then wrote her a message: 'Is it because of 'X' (another girl, long story) that it doesn't click between us? Then let me know. If you don't want me because you don't want me... Then that's just fine and i wish you all the best.'

Her reaction was simply: 'You don't have to be so fatalistic all the time', after which i basically told her to fuck off...

Don't sweat what she thinks, that's how. I am still friends with my ex on Facebook, and have her # but won't go out of my way to send her a card for her bday and could care less who she hangs out with. Need that dgaf attitude.

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I stay friends with chicks who've rejected me if they are real friends. If not, I shut them out of my life. I don't need flakey fake friends.

I used to be a little bit like you, so I know what you mean. However, people have already told you what to do, it's just a matter of time and/or experience to leant it by yourself. As you've been told before, erasing her from your life is not only useless to "get her back", but shows a very immature side of you. It's like a tantrum or a paddy.
It's easier to say than to do in your situation, but your best option is to just move on with your life. You can't blame her or get pissed off at her for not liking you. Just focus your energy on someone else.

Heywood all the way!

Oneitise is the problem here. If she was a friend and you just thought she was cute or something you wouldn't care if she turned you down. Take the steps to lower her value in your eyes. She's a human, she's a woman and there's millions more like her out there. She's not so special, man.

If you erase chicks from your life, you actually do have a better chance of getting them back if you run into them at random than if you keep in constant contact. That's not a good reason to eject chicks from your life. But again, if they're not actual friends and you're not getting somewhere, give them an unsanctimonious ejection from your life. You'll feel a lot better about it and improve your odds. But if they are actually friends, do not do that.

It's immature to care if people think you're immature.

[quote="Bertsky"]During the date you figure out: 'this girl isn't at all interested in me', and you don't bother trying to kiss her, anymore. You end the date, go home, feeling bad and disappointed, and decide to delete her./quote]


Well there is your first problem. IF a date is going bad DO NOT just give up.... Go as far as you can, if your mentality is that you will never see her again, then just talk to her to improve you PUA skills and fuck that hoe, WHO Knows she might actually start to like you once you start practicing and stop feeling self conscious. Girls smell that shit!