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One other thing you can do, is just be who you want to be. Focus on that, don't worry about anything else. If you don't want to react shitty when she throws a shit fit, focus on not doing that. Find a way to not get dragged into it. You might be surprised how she reacts to your new mode of operation. I can almost guarantee if you are successful, eventually she will ask you why you changed, how, etc. And I can almost guarantee she will be more attracted to or more invested in a guy she can't piss off. Getting pissed at her or getting drug into the fight is like completely giving her your power, she has control over you and can put you in that state whenever she wants you in that state. If she cannot do that, it will blow her mind and make you more or less irresistable. I think this is because you're so high value that you are at different levels of value when she is having a shit fit. Since she can't drag you down and take away some of your value, she is forced to demonstrate higher value and come up to your level, and the triggers in them the sense that you are GOOD for them. As such, they never want to let that go and will go to great lengths to keep it.
I appreciate your response. This really hit home with me. Being who you want to be and really focusing on maintaining that person is one of the toughest things to do; especially when you begin to merge your life with someone else's. I find a lot of couples end up being codependent. On the flip side of that a lot of people here say that in a relationship you need to be independent and play the game over who has control and not to give in etc. When in reality if you are going to be in a successful relationship you need to be interdependent.
Anyways, thanks to all for all the advice. As hard as some guys here find it to approach, chat them up, hook up, make them want you, etc; it is nothing like having a good healthy relationship. It is easy when you are on your own but when there is someone else involved that you truly do love and care about it gets a lot more sticky. So all I got to say to that is when you are asking how to make this girl your girlfriend, just be careful what you ask for!
I really appreciate your openness and honesty. A question for you if I may.
What is that is really bothering you? Is it the fact that you are being "told what to do" or do you have a feeling that you need a new sex partner? Is it strictly the sex part that you seek, or do you think that more "freedom" and being more in control of actions is what you need?
CHAT