We've been dating for about 2 years, then she moves away for college upstate and i decide to end things because i dont like long distance relationships. She was really upset. Even though she moved away i told her that i would still be her bestfriend. We talk almost every night on the phone for about an hour.

the reason i ended things is because i know she will start drinking and i dont want a long distance party sorority drunk girlfriend.

We talk how shes excited for me to visit in 2 weeks( visiting her and my bestfriend) and that how were both trying really hard to get over each other but we cant. and how we just love each other so much. we facetime more than we call or text.

Then she tells me she hooked up with a kid in her dorm a couple weeks ago, and she felt really bad, and she was just trying to get over me, and cried all night. and then 2 days after that she hooked up with another kid, same reason, she was just trying to get over me, she feels bad, blah blah blah.

i tell her im disappointed and heartbroken, and that mentally and emotionally i feel we never broke up, she says she sorry and then starts to break down crying on the phone. i tell her its ok and that were not dating ,and she can do whatever she want. i tried really hard to show no emotion and stay alpha throughout the convo.

what should i do now? do i keep talking to her everyday? i really don't know whether or not if i should just cut her off from my life completely cause i feel like it will happen. i still feel cheated on but idk.

btw thats how i met her, she just got out of a relationship and i was the rebound. it was easy cause she was clueless and a emotional wreck

i know she sincere with her apology..but i still cant even stand the thought of her with these other guys. I told her when i visit that i will see her but she wont be my priority like she was orginally.

She didn't technically not cheat, she didn't cheat. You broke up with her thinking that if you weren't together when she found another dude it would soften the blow and it doesn't seem like it worked. I think its to late to be salvaged, she already slept with two dudes telling you it was just to get over you. She says she is sorry but if she was really sorry would she have done it the second time?

You can either cut her out of your life completely or continue to talk to her every so often and keep her as a friend maybe with benefits? Its really up to you. I personally have learned over the years its best to remain friendly but not friends with an ex. No need to burn bridges and you never know maybe down the road you to will realize it was meant to be....this actually happened to a friend of mine that broke up with a girl for four years but remained friendly, there paths crossed again and he later married her. Only you can decide this but as far as a diving back into a relationship with this girl again I would say it would be doomed to fail. Mainly because it is long distance, she already hooked up with two dudes(which will always be on you mind) and you will find yourself worrying when the other shoe was going to drop. GOOD LUCK

she never slept with them, just a kiss.

and i appreciate your thoughts, definitely gonna do some thinking..

Just a kiss definitely changes things, if in fact you believe her. If she is telling you these things and is being honest and added to it you two aren't technically together I definitely wouldn't cut her out of my life. Just my two cents. GOOD LUCK

She didn't technically cheat. The whole situation is dumb, because you broke up with her, then still did bf things so what was the point. All you did was continue to be her bf without the title and you didn't hook up with anyone in that time (I'm assuming, if so that's another issue). Decide what you want. If you're gonna talk everyday and not see other girls you might as well be her bf.

Exactly you can't be her best friend after being her boyfriend, this really doesn't work when you talk to her all the time right after the break up. If you really want to break up with her go no contact, but you don't.

Quit being a pussy.

Ok you made a decision to breakup and yet you talk every night for an hour? You didnt really break up then... lol. You have to stick to your FRAME. Either you break it off and stop talking.... or you continue with the relationship. either way make a decision and stick to it...

"We're broken up but we're not really." "Oh.. you fucked two other guys in two days... I feel like we're still together. I'm heartbroken..." "It's okay, we're not actually seeing each other but it feels like we are... I'm hurt. Woe. Is. Me."

Dude, listen to yourself! You've been nothing but beta about this whole thing. You had zero game when you broke up with her. You broke up with her because you didn't feel you could trust her. Either you couldn't trust her because you have no trust in her or because you're afraid and feel she'll find someone better than you... and you know what? Thinking like that then yeah she is going to find someone better than you! The first step to being awesome is believing you're awesome!

Just keep her as a fuck buddy and get over it. Make sure you wrap up though, she's not your girlfriend anymore!!

that is exactly what i decided im going to do.

I don't want to put all the blame on you dude. You were wrong for continuing to talk to her every night and this is what happens. But IMO, she's not a good girl or friend anyway. Hooking up with 2 different dudes while talking to you every night? "Technically" she didn't cheat but IMO it's still dirty on her part. You made a dumb decision but she had the responsibility to know this would hurt you and to either not do it, or to tell you upfront. She didnt technically cheat, but if she did this while talking to you every day, trust me, she will cheat or has cheated. You'll get pulled back and eventually you'll get hurt worse if you continue. This is the type of chick who if you have a fight and break up one day and are back together the next day, she's already slept with someone else on the technicality. Personally, I only make a girl my gf when I know her faithfulness to me isn't based off of a title of "girlfriend"; its because she doesnt want to be with anyone else and she cares about me enough not to mess around even though she could. Your "ex" doesn't care. Walk away...sometimes you gotta leave someone completely before they keep pulling you down.

Do you think you can keep her as a fb and not get hurt? You were talking to her everyday and you got hurt. Can you sleep with her and not get hurt? I think not. Walk away and find someone better

Hiiiiighly doubt this. She fucked them. I've been down this road before. Girls, especially younger ones, will lie about their sexual history and especially about an event that can ruin a relationship or the chance of getting back together. In her mind, she told you something happened, so she's in the clear. I'd wager she fucked at least one of these guys.