This is my first field report. I am just beginning this seduction stuff.

I went alone to a dance club tonight. The place was loud. The bottom floor was well lit, and the upstairs was a dance hall. The group of guys I had befriended (this is easy for me) were wondering if this cute girl’s name was Sarah. So I reached over and asked her. Her eyes lit up and she came over to me. I asked if she thought my friends were cute, and she looked them over. “You’re cuter,” she said. It was like I had DQed myself, so she felt safe to open up.

She and I then went on to talk for fifteen minutes about each other, where we were from, etc. It was a lot of nuts and bolts, details about life and where people grew up. I flirted with her, and she warmed up to me quite well. It was actually a lot of fun.

I could have flirted more, given her more emotional involvement. Instead I relied on the nuts and bolts. Which was, to some degree, quite boring.

At one point, I mentioned how the drink I was drinking was alcohol free because of my health condition. She took a taste. I think this freaked her out. We had talked about how I was 30 yo and she was 23, so maybe me being sober was hard for her.

Eventually the conversation seemed to halt awkwardly, and I asked her if she wanted to go upstairs and dance or give me her number right there. She said go upstairs. But as we were walking up the stairs her body language changed and she cooled down to me. I had trouble getting her attention, tried befriending her friends, but they didn’t want me either. Finally, her upstairs leaning against a wall, disinterested, on her phone I told her “Come dance with me!”. She said, “No thanks, I’m ok.” I said goodbye to her and left.
Lessons learned: I was older (she was 23), and this was exciting, but as soon as she realized I wasn’t drinking she felt endangered. Then, when I tried to move things to the dance floor, she wasn’t warmed enough for the change of venue.

I think I rushed asking her for her phone number. I was excited and thrilled throughout it all, she was so beautiful (HB8?). I sort of lost my cool, and I think this over pressured her and she shut down.

Finally, I think I should have had better goals in mind. I was there to meet and talk with girls, and both our friend groups had moved to the dance floor, so this left us alone downstairs. She was there to dance with her friends and meet guys, so it was a complicated setup. I wanted to keep talking, to get her in a corner and light her world up. But it was hard to hear each other, and her friends had already gone upstairs to dance.

This shit happens, Especially in club environment, lots of stimulation and distractions.

Sometimes a simple case of letting her take the lead can suddenly make her cold with you, happened to me a few times.

Her "Just wait a sec, just have to send this text"

*then you are stood there like a lemon*

Sometimes you just need to be intuitive and handle the shit.

For example, introducing yourself to her friends and be cool as fuck. Then telling them you're gonna be borrowing her friend for a few mins if that is ok with them.

Then take your girl and make the solid close. Even if it has to be a phone number. Her friends will say goodbye to her if they can tell she wants to go home with you. Don't alienate her friends by trying to drag her home.

Phone numbers are under rated , sometimes it's best to just take the number then continue when you're on the date.

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Thanks for the response. I think the problem was the loud distracting venue, plus not enough attraction had been made on her end. She was into me, thought I was good looking, emotionally connected, but it simply wasn't deep enough (15 solid minutes of talking).

Try non verbal game bud.

Read 60 years of challenge

Did I mention escalation is non verbal too?

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I don't know what you mean. Resource/blog on non-verbal and escalation?

google "60 years of challenge, non verbal escalation"

Or just check my signature

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Quite interesting... That hand caress technique... I wonder if you could approach with that?

"Hey, show me your hand for a second.*Caress hand*"
*She caresses back*
"Oh, I like that. What's your name?"

Thats the wonderful about dancing

You can literally just up to girls and play with their hand. Because during dancing, you have to get close.

i used to do the high 5 spin, then keep ahold of her hand and then play with her hand.

now i just do creepy eye contact and then go in and hand shake her hand and say my name, then just keep ahold of her hand.

i will also be getting close and looking at her very sexually. multiple streams of sexual tension, you will get alot of fast makeouts doing this, or even fast pulls home.

But most people i know just never seem to get past the 'doing everything verbally stage' so it is quite hard finding wings will do it with you.

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