True. Best advice you'll hear about a woman from anyone on these forums is just to forget about them and not be needy. Makes everything so much easier.

Has anyone posting on this topic actually dated, I mean LTR dated, a girl that had been double teamed multiple times? I think many are on this high horse right now, but presented with this sitch and a girl you actual care for, you may sing a different tune.

havent dated, but banged a few with one of my buddies. i would not date these girls. if they are young, and are up for shit like that, then forget LTR's. id either put up or shut up. why worry about her past? i could give a fuck

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Yeah I walked, but still thinking about the situation. The threesomes were over 6 years ago. She's 25 now.

if i was in your shoes, personally id say "What happened before my time stays before my time
". and date the chic provided that she still doesn't have any carry-on from her past. that's just me. if shes now a good girl, then who cares. im from NZ. by the time girls hit 20 around here, they are expected to have over 10 guys under the belt. fuck it. im a slut. so who am i to judge

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Nope. I wouldn't even consider it. That's not LTR material.

Bro...for the sake of not being hippocritical here. Girls are allowed just as much fun as us. like other have said, this is 2013. sure i wont LTR them. i'd continute to bang them and put em on my top 5 bench. this is what OP should have done.

however, this might be too late. she has a good picture about his way of thinking. pretty sure once a girl sees a guy thinking of her as a Slut, her attraction drops.

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This is why I advocate don't ask/don't tell when it comes to the past. Many girls are way sluttier than you may think; there is no value knowing about their history. Try to be oblivious next time.

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Oh I agree they can have fun but she's just not a keeper. I'm sure he would've like to have been oblivious but pretty sure she announced it. I might bang this girl if I was 100% sure she was clean but that's all. I value myself too much. Just being honest. I'd have to ask her to leave as soon as she told me. Shows she's about as smart as a rock.

I bet if a girl told you she liked you but wouldn't date you because you had threesomes, you'd be less understanding, and still blame it on her... just saying.
Intelligence and sexual behaviour doesn't correlate. Probably the only difference is that stupid people are more irresponsible and don't use protection...

Also, you guys are all bitching about "He didn't ask. Why did she tell him?" Think about this... how would you feel, if you got this information from a third party? Perhaps that's what the girl was thinking. It's better if she tells you, than someone else. Things like this can't be kept a secret forever.

No offense guys, but I'm starting to think that this girl is actually smarter than you... This narrow-minded, judgemental mindset is not a quality of a true pick-up artist for sure.

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You can't really take the moral high ground here because you advocate NLP, which is hypnosis to get women to have sex with you. The guy has the right to next a girl if he wants. It's not what I would do in his position, but it's up to him what his boundaries are.

I'm sure if your long-term girlfriend turned out to be Queen of Buk'kake Movies 2011 and all your buddies knew about it, you wouldn't be too happy about it either (Trying to think of something more extreme to see how far a girl's past would affect your current opinion of her)

You know nothing about NLP. And in the meantime you're pretty much hijacking the thread for bringing it up.

And I stand on my case. If my girlfriend used to be "Queen of Buk'kake Movies 2011", as long as she has the qualities that I look for in my LTRs, and doesn't violate the policies and attitude which I expect in my relationships, then I don't give a fuck.
I absolutely agree with this. What I don't agree with is the advocating of double standards in this thread. I will make it simple:

"I can't live with the fact that my girlfriend used to do several threesomes so I dump her" --->OK

"My girlfriend has done several threesomes, so she's a slut, and also as smart as a rock"--->NOT OK

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I said she's dumb as a rock for announcing it. Some things are best kept to yourself. Don't ask don't tell you know. I have no double standards. I honestly wouldn't participate in a threesome if it was offered. I don't have that desire. Quite frankly the idea of it turns my stomach. I get nothing from seeing people have zero respect for themselves. That's just my view. You've all got your lines. This crosses mine. I stand by my statements. Number of partners doesn't matter but number of partners at the same time is a whole different ball game.

Then again this is what you should think over... Which is worse: If your girlfriend tells you she had done something in her past, or if someone else tells you she had done something in her past?

I can understand now that for you, in this case it wouldn't really matter because you despise threesomes all in all, but OP's gf couldn't have known that OP feels the same. It is the honest and logical way to tell him things like this before he finds out another way. It is in fact, a more intelligent way of handling the situation, then keeping it to herself.

Moreover, I disagree with your self-respect views. You can say that you don't want them, but it is way to highly generalizing to say that people who have threesomes have no self-respect. There's simply absolutely no correlation. That someone is not as conservative as you has nothing to do with self-respect.

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Thanks for all the advice dudes. Sucks, this chick was real cool, but fuck me I just couldn't sit with those facts swimming around my mind.