| Hi, I'm Alex Veit.
I've been working on my personal development for the past couple years and I have developed a strong sense of self confidence compared to prior years. I've been reading something on the order of 2-3 books a month, ranging from Napoleon Hill's “Think and Grow Rich”, to Jeff Olson's “The Slight Edge”, Rhonda Byrne’s “The Secret”, to the biography of Albert Einstein, as well as other great authors such as Ray Kurzweil, Malcolm Gladwell, Fred Alan Wolf, Jack Canfield, etc.
It’s incredible how the phenomenon of compounded information can change an individual’s view on life. I even wrote an Android app to keep track of all my reading sessions. I have read 7009 pages in the last 8 months. That’s more reading that I’ve done in my entire life.
With this major leap in confidence, leadership and understanding about human behavior, I began to investigate the PUA community. I've had good sexual experiences with average girls in the past, on the order of 5s to 7s. My last girlfriend was an 8 in my opinion, and she really loved me. But I broke up with her, not so much because I didn't love her, but for other reasons such as age gap (I am 26 she is 40) and the fact that she has a 16 year old child with mental disability.
Even though she was the first woman that truly enjoyed sucking the love nectar like a porn star, I am not sad about the breakup; in fact I bounced back on the same day. I was ready to learn the PUA way.
I began to read “THE GAME” by Neil Strauss.
I've learned about many notorious PUAs some witch I believe post in this forum, such as Sinn.
I thought I had some game but the more I learn about the game, the more I realize there is a lot more to be learned. I need to get rid of old self-defeating neuro-pathways and create more useful, Game synapses.
I have good conversational experience, I've been told by my peers and college instructors that I have good communication skills.
I thought that would be a good head start in the art of attraction.
Here is an instance where I was a bit lost.
There is a cute fake blond in my calculus class. On the 4th day of class I had made the commitment to approach/open her. I used pure instinct, no routines, mostly because I don't know any. Our math class has a 5 minute interval half way through the class. The target got up and went to the ladies room. Luckily it is right beside the water fountain. I casually walked to the water fountain and before I could drink the water she asked me:
Target: “Do you know if the ladies room takes more than one person.”
Me: “I'm not sure; the man's room handles more than one. Is it locked?”
Target: “Yes.”
Me: “Well... It must only take one person or it is under maintenance.”
I drank water.
Me: “Good luck with the restroom. I'm heading back to class.”
When the class was over, the target quickly put her ear buds in and went down the spiral stairs. The old version of me would have interpreted the ear buds as: “I'm busy listening to something, don't talk to me.” But I disregarded that idea this time.
As I walked out the building I saw her sitting at a bench listening to her music or whatever, so I immediately thought: “Why would she just stop at that particular bench right outside the door if not for me to slap my dick on her cheek?” But I took a more subtle approach. As she was sitting looking at her phone, I snapped my finger close enough to her face for her to hear the snap over the ear buds and see my hand.” And the following proceeded.
Target: “Oh hey, what’s up?”
Me: “Shit... getting killed by math.”
We chuckled.
Me: “Any luck with the restroom?”
Target: “Yes. Something something, this that, then I got in.”
Me: “It’s good to know we got working bathrooms.”
We chuckled again.
More small talk took place.
I still have not developed the technique of memorizing exact word constructs to use in sets for future improvements, but I did my best with what I know.
Me: “Do you already have a study buddy?”
Target: “No.”
Me: “I know they got some tutors in the math building, how about we study together some time.”
Target: “Yeah that would be nice.”
More small talk
Me: “Well I got a TCOM class I need to be in, how about we exchange numbers so we can figure this study thing out.”
Target: “Cool”
After we exchange numbers I lit up a cigarette and I was on my way to the next class.
I exchanged a few text messages with the limited phone game that I can muster. She replied every text, sometimes with delay (I imagine because she was at her restaurant or nanny job). There was only one instance where she took the whole day to reply, but she replied at the end of the day. She said she was busy the whole day with something pertinent to one of her other classes. I don't know if there is a PUA interpretation for that.
Today was the day of the study meeting.
Text messages:
Me: “I'm trying to find a tutor. Some girl said they stay at the student center on the bottom floor. I'm heading over there.”
Target: “I'm heading there now.”
Target: “Did you find the place?”
Me: “Yes I did. I think it's called the 'ATIC' in the student center.”
Target: “OK.”
I walked into the math lab and there where about 9 people in the room which really made it seem crowded. A female friend of mine was there and she gave me an excited look when she saw me, but she was talking directly with the tutor. I smiled and said hi.
The target arrived. I was in the middle of a math problem. We greeted each other verbally and I instantly proceeded to tell her the page and problem I was on. I quickly realized I rushed straight into the subject matter and did not build any rapport.
She expressed her opinion about the problem and we went to the next one.
I was the only one taking notes.
About 8 minutes later the other chick came over and said: “Heeeeey!!!” I didn't even have time to get up as she hugged me and accidentally buried my face in her massive tits... I'm not sure how much social proof that implies to my target given the fact that the other girl is considerably over weight.
So we did more math.
At one point I spent about 7 minutes with the tutor on a problem while the target waited patiently.
There is a lot more fluff to the story, but overall we both maintained a very neutral verbal and body language, with a few sporadic chuckles. I made a point of making fixed eye contact whenever she said something. She also maintained good eye contact.
After 30 minutes of total realization that we both sucked at math I told her:
Me: “This stuff is not so easy. I think I'm reaching melt down. Are you getting burned out also?”
Target: “Yeah. I need to go get something to eat”
Me: “Where are you eating?”
Target: “I'm going to a friend’s house.”
Me: “Cool.”
As we walked up the stairs I asked her:
Me: “Would you like to study again this week, or is this too much for you?”
Target: “No, let’s study; I'll be free Thursday at this time.”
Me: “Awesome!”
Target: “I’ll text you Thursday. See you tomorrow (Wednesday) at class!”
Me: “See ya.”
This is a long ass post I'm realizing.
How do I take the focus of our meeting from math to something more casual?
Should I invite her to go out for a movie or something?
If you read this far into my post please let me know what’s up!!
Like...
“Dude, that one thing was OK, but never do that other thing”
Or…
“Try this line when you see this trigger.”
I got thick skin; I need the bluntness so I can fix my flaws...
Something else that is worth noting is that I roll solo and I believe that is hindering my game. I don’t know anyone that has the same desire I have to become a PUA. I don’t have any one that I can truly say “this is my wing”, “my partner”, “my boy”. I feel it is necessary to have a partner to create my first PUA mastermind for improvement. Is this true?
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