So...

Yeah I really have the hots for this girl, and I don't think my messages disguise it very well. I know she has a boyfriend but I don't know him so whatever.

I messaged her on Facebook this morning and this is how the conversation went:

Me: "I get invitations to play Candy Crush all the time, not sure how to interpret it coming from you though..."

Candy: "Sorry about that lol... I clicked everyone! Also - sorry I didn't reply before, I'm afraid I cant really chat anymore... I'm well aware this will sound mental, but my bf is really possessive, reads msgs and hates me talking to guys. He cant see people are just friends and that is all there is to it.

Please don't reply to this or mention this msg on my wall etc as I'll get even more hassle, but I will check in with u on our respective walls every now and then. So sorry about this."


Firstly I feel like not replying would be lame, I need to show I'm not bothered by her boyfriend's possessiveness even if she is.

This also seems like a good opportunity to call into doubt her belief that we are just friends and perhaps make her wonder about what could be.

I'm happy to leave it alone cos I don't want to break up a relationship, and by the sounds of it he's digging his own grave...

I just want to leave her with something to think about, so that when she does break up with him, I will be on her mind and I will get an "innocent" message from her "just wondering how I am"

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do not reply, do not waste time, next.... Simple! she is not interested, she is not sexually available, she is no receptive, and she is telling you to go away...

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Okay mate, thanks for the honest answer

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Yeah, this girl has absolutely no interest in you at all.

She knows what you are trying to do, she does not care, she is not interested in the goods you are offering.

Thank you. That kind of honesty always put a smile on my face, even if the news is bad.

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Although I shouldn't really call it news, I've probably always known this but it was hard to accept because she's so FIT.

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My guess is that you came off as needy/clingy to her too.

Let me guess, she gave you a little bit of attention once, and from that scrap, you tried to build a connection?

Haha that's a pretty good diagnosis actually. One time I asked her for a drink and she knocked me back, at which point I started playing it a lot cooler and at that point she started initiating more. But then I blew that by showing my cards too much. I think the trouble is I met her a while before I knew about game and when I was in a vulnerable place and I didn't really manage to revise the frame of our interaction (or indeed next her as might have been easier).

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It is likely a waist of time. BUT (there's always a but) I would have left that one littler seed of doubt.

I would have replied "He sounds perfect." and leave it at that.

That will eat into her mind like battery acid.

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I agree with the other posters that there's no interest there, but this is good and if it were me I would send one last msg like this and if nothing came of it at least I got a laugh out of sending it.

That is harsh but funny. I still have the option to send something of course but it might be better to take the lesson here and move on.

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Do whatever you want. If it were me I'd send something of that nature just because I'm a smartass.

THIS

^ i like this!

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Okay, I sent that (with the full stop! lol). I was fighting myself over it because I've got into such a pattern of being nice to this girl and thinking I'll be rewarded for it, but I asked for advice and you guys gave me it so I ought to give it a try. I'll let you know of any comeback.

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