So what did she mean by this? Was she indirectly hinting that she wants the D and not my one-sided, half-assed romantic emotions? Am I right? Was she trying to open the subject of Xpecial demands and see what I'm up to? A boring and long-term relationship, or a fun and adventurous one night stand?


If so, I've ruined one of the best chances of my life by :

1. Hesitating
2. Trying to gauge her interest level and guessing whether she likes me or not just like a high school AFC.
3. Expressing flattery romantic emotions when panicked by the thought of I'm about to lose her.
4. Bugging her with BF-Like attention and continous txt messages.

DAMN, DAMN, DAMN, DAMN, DAMN
My last txt. She got so upset as if I have directly attacked her deepest insecurities. She started insisting that she is not like that and said that shows that you don't know me at all. So any way to fix this? LOL

How should I prove that I'm up for business, Even if it costs 500$

You just made my day. You are so funny mate

hahahahahaha. man, you're a legend.

Can anyone analyze this? What was she hinting at?

thanks guys.


Btw, Folks. Always try to look your best, have a good hygiene and smell nice. Don't say "let's get the numbers now, will wear my best clothes on the first date"! I was smelling like a shit kebab when I approached her and also my clothes were dusty and unclean. My face was full of acne and beards. I wonder why the hell did she(HB12) gave me her n and kept replying and answering my txts and calls so fast??? The first spark wasn't powerful enough to guarantee a date. That's why first impressions are so important.

Lessons learned, the hard way of course

Can anyone analyze her interactions and answers and tell me what kind of a character she is? Was she too easy to *? too complicated? Not into anything at all? Just a pack of headaches and mental disorders?


I really appreciate any advice and opinions. This one person is affecting my life in a negative way. The regret is killing me.

Move on dude! As you become better and more experienced at this, you will look back and be able to analyze this yourself... and laugh.

Train up, and game some other girls. This failure that you are obsessing over will become just a distant memory.
I say failure, it's not. It's a lesson. One of many... good and bad.

PLEASE listen this time. Forget this now.

In the psychology they have a theory about this. All people have their own self-image. Most have a positive one and some a negative. When you compliment people (the ones with a positive self-image) they do believe you and say its true. When you critize them they often just ignore you or say you are dead wrong. People who have a negative self-image do the opposite. If you compliment them on their eyes, it doesn't fit with the way they see themselves, so they will resisent it, or just flatout ignore what you said.

I think you are dealing with a very insecure girl. When a girl ignores your compliment or tells you that it isn't true, dont compliment her more. She simply won't listen to it.

What you should do (cliche) is behave like an alpha. Don't listen to her problems if you aren't her boyfriend. That's why there are psychologists in the world.

As what she said about that guys want more or something. That message you didn't get, she trys to tell you that guys can't be friends with women and that if you say you just want to be friends, you will eventually get feelings for her. This means that she don't want to be hurt again by a guy because she tought he only wanted to be friends. Woman interpret this behavior as deception and betrayal(dont know how to write).

Hope this helps you out a little

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I'm still an AFC but WOW, ROFLMAO. Dat text omfg, I've been laughing for like 5 minutes straight now!!

"You secretive lizard" LMFAO

In all seriousness, you remember me of a situation I was in 1 year ago. It went similar to yours. So priceless, I feel you. You were just mad at her for not letting you fuck her and rage texted her in all desperate hope to cum in her. Admit it.

I was mad at both of us. Nevermind, I found her FB profile and realized she is not a HB12! A HB7 at best. Don't know why I'm still attracted to her. Maybe It's because of her innocent look and voice tone, Don't know.
Actually I wanted to spend time with her while I was recovering from a breakup, and also find better ones while she is around. It backfired.
Very insightful, thank you. Indeed she is very insecure.

Anyway. I've been texting her at least 3 times a week before completely stopped texting her as she totally ignored me after that heavy-handed last Neg text.

I contacted her again after a month to see if she is upset about the last text. Here's the conversation:



Me: Hey, Let me guess: You're walking along the park and anticipating new opportunities.
Her: Wow. You started to text me again. After all those cruel things you said to me.

Me(after 3 hours): I will stop sending this once-in-a-month texts as well, if you wish.
Her: You don't have a GF yet? So you again starting to text me...
Me: You are a mustached, macho guy anyway. I knew since the beginning that you were a male. How about texting you once in a decade?!
Her: I AM a girl, But you boys are so cold-hearted.
Me: Why?

What's on her mind? What do you guys think??

Holy shit dude.

First of all. You shouldn't do that again. Ever.

When you negged her the firs time you completely blewed her more into her insecurity hole. After that she ignored you, what seens logical to me because you actually insulted her. Then when you reply with a once in a month text she wants to stay brave by having a bitch shield. She says that you dont have a girlfriend yet. According to your reaction she has right. Then you insult her with calling her a men.

Dude, what you actually did is randonly text here to insult her. Like wtf.

After this she won't be attracted to you ever. Girls want to feel safe by the man they are attracted to. If she doesn't feel safe, she won't be attracted.

I'll give you the advice to never talk to this girl again and stop looking for her attention. And don't insult women ever. I don't neg girls. Neg's are only for girls who have their bitch shield up, or for arrogant girls. Not for insecure girls.

Only when she starts the concersation you are allowed to talk back, but be cold and ask boldly why she started the concersation

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I need to clarify. I have called her a macho man during a phone conversation in the past, and she laughed loudly.

So it was an inside joke from the "good old times"!


As for her GF comment, I guess she was kinda curious. As I asked her to be my GF during the first month of our communication!

Why?

honeslty this thread is started to sound like the posts made by whysoskinny. he is only hearing what he wants to hear. then asks advice on the same chat again. and honestly you call it negging when your actually bashing. negging is teasing.

you prolly think this is a neg "woah don't eat too many of those french fries, you won't be able to wear that dress again"

She said:
Her: You don't have a GF yet? So you again starting to text me...

This says that she feels like she is a second choice. "You haven't found another girl so you come back to me"
People don't like to be the second choice. And i know you are going to say that she was your first choice blablabla, but she rejected you. When she rejects you, you don't have really any reason to stay unless you want a platonic friendship...

I don't need girly friends. I already have male friends. Male friends are enough to me, don't need girl friends. I only want a real girlfriend, because male friends can't give you that unless you are gay.

And why? Because she rejected you, so you don't have to be al nice and dandy as if nothing happened. Plus, when you react boldly you express dominance and react like an alpha male

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Well, She is my Clingy GF now. Everything changed when I sincerely offered to help her with her university research project, since I said I know a foreign language (DHV?) and can gather and translate quality articles for her project.

When she saw me for our first date, she was shocked and acted insecurely. She didn't expect such a gentleman . She said "Are you sure you are the same guy whom I gave my number?" So remember guys, always look your best and fittest.

We've been together for 2 weeks and exchanged over 1500 txt messages. She's been the one initiating almost all of the conversations. Her sister told me she loves you in front of herself and she blushed, and finally she confirmed that same thing last night.

Don't know she is sincere or not though I'm not sure if she is a cheating B using me for the things I am offering her:

Taking her out to "fun" places.
Helping her with her uni project.
Paying money on ice cream and crap like that.


Last night I jokingly told her to wipe her lipstick. She said why? And I replied: Because I don't want your lipstick on my lips!

Im gonna hang this above my bed. Past few months I have lost over 10 girls on text or fb chat with going from alot of interesst to getting needy with the meet up and they go ignore me. I never learn..