Got a call from the ex, she said one of her friends saw me out with a few different girls and wanted to know how I was?

I DHV with some things about me gettign a new job etc and that she'd actually interuptted me when i was doing my weights.

I negged her a few times and stopped a couple interupts then told her about this girl was telling me that xxx has the best coffee she's ever had and that I was going to go there and she should come to.

She paused for a hmmmm then said yeah ok, come over mine first and then we'll head down there to which i replied "I'm a busy man i cant spend the whole day with you! jeez, I'll meet you there at three, don't be liate I wouldnt want you to miss out on any quality time with me.

She laughed and said ok and thats that.

Now, I'm interested in getting back with my ex.
We broke up because she had some mental health issues and i didnt think she was taking them seriously so i initiated a break, but 2 weeks she coems back and says she needs time to herself to sort this out and wants to break up until shes sorted.

So i figure its some bullshit line so she can spare my feelings but over the weeks (we broke up in december) ive heard from mutual friends, family that she does love me and wants to get back together but shes not 100% yet.

So even though it's 50/50 I'm figuring cus this is a special case I should go slower and maybe not go for a k-close on this little outing?

What do you guys think? I know how a lot of you feel about one-itus but ive dated my fair share and this one shines out loud so I'm willing to re-visit

Is this a good approach? Or should I treat her as if she's a normal target?

what ever reasons you two broke up for are not gonna go away, there will be less tolerance for each other if you do get back together and the next break up could actually be worse.

its your life so do what you want to do. I personally would turn over a new leaf or woman

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ya i was about to say what skittlepimp said. it doesnt sound like she has taken care of her issues. I would address it if i were you. You still care about her, so inquiring about her health is completely reasonable. if she hasnt done anything, remind her that you think she needs to do something about it. but dont get back with her if shes in the same state she was in.

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She had diagnosed anxiety and borderline anorexia.
She seems much happier now and has put on weight.

The problem wasnt that we stopped loving eachother or sum1 had done somethign stupid, it's just bad timing and she needed to focus on this and I agreed.

Like I said, a girl like her can't just be dropped to a stigma that doesnt even really apply that conventionally.

If anyone here has been in a similar situation i'd love to hear your thoughts or anyone elses for that matter.

well then if she has anxiety then i would have to say she needs stability in her life, something constant, someone she can count on and trust. if this is the route you wanna go then by all means go and i agree with prettyboy41 on not getting back if shes in the same state

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just talk to her man. you can get advice from whoever and wherever but it all comes down to what the two of you want. ask her if she has taken steps to help herself like a psychologist or nutrician, anything. If she really wanted you back, she would have taken steps to prove to you that what you think of her and about her really matters to her. and if she has anxiety, maybe coffee isnt the best thing for her? just a thought. but i agree with the meet up. find out what shes about, if she wants you back, if she thinks you guys can make it, and if she does really take her illness seriously. then ask yourself what you want. if you guys both want eachother, then theres no reason to be apart.

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Hey guys, success.

Met up, big smile when i was her, big smile back.
Used several DHV stories (Woman on cellphone with baby in arms crossing road, the guy walking down the street starts taling to HB10 and let fate decide then plague, talking about how beauty is common and 3 things attracrt energy, personality, outlook) and during them i've never seen a girl pay such intense attention to me, hanging on my every word.

Knocked back 3 interrupts, negged her 7 times (HB9+ 2 hour session).
She kept asking to do more things (started off with coffee, then drinks at a bar, then ANOTHER round even though i was gettign ready to go then lunch! she invited me back to "play some xbox" but i said i have plans and then said "I was gonna have a meal to celebrate my success, you should join me so you can shre in it " and she agreed.

So unless she flakes, I think things went ratther well.

She initaited kino a few times as did I, she also itched her hand a few times, played with her bracelot a lot and stroked her hair so godamn much i thought it was gonna fall out.

We hugged as a goodbye and i said it was nice to see her and she said yeah and got this kinda warm smile going on.

I'm happy lol.

mental health issues. lol.

they all do.

Congrats man

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Cheers, but the hard part is yet to come lol

I'm going through reasons for her to come back to mine after a few drinks.
I havent got anything new to show her etc

I'm trying for a K-close, i think a F-close might be a bit too fast for what i want to acheive.

I might call her and tell her im changing the plans to just drinks, that way i can just pick my local so its only like 2 mins away.

I'm trying to think up some DHV stories that arent too corny.

If any of you have any advice as always i'm all ears!
I'll let you know how I get on.

I called her with the change of plans, told her I'm having dinner a bit earlier with a friend so she can just be me some drinks later on.

I suggested the plan of my local and she said
"Ok that sounds good, but we've been there a few times now, shall we just have 1 drink there and then head back to yours for some more drink?"

I replied
"Oh I see your game missy, any excuse to get me back to my place!"

She laughed and I said I'd think about it and text her later.

So interest?
Or perhaps a nightmare derailment into the friend zone!?!

Who knows!

K-closed!

Having dinner sunday.

Ta-da!

Update;

Uh-oh, talked to her the day after, she said she didn't mean to make the wrong impression and we shouldn't have kissed!

So f**k it, she's getting NC and I'm gonna keep practicing my sarging!

Thanks for the help though guys!

She said you shouldn't have kissed? Did she put the LJBF line in there too? Maybe she was trying to justify her feelings that it was a good thing that you two kissed and wanted your reassurance. What was the context?

She said she didn't want to give out the wrong idea but she really enjoyed herself.
She said "I'm not used to posh drinks and maybe I just needed to see if i could still kiss!".

I was pretty bummed but i just acted non-chalant and said id see her around.

She's texted me a couple times since asking how ive been but ive not texted back.

I figure the attraction isnt there for her anymore.