| The only thing mysterious about PUA is how stupid people can be about it. It all boils down to confidence, knowing what not to say, what's a definite DO NOT GO NEAR/SAY and knowing when your conversation transitions from phase to phase and how to act accordingly.
PUA is, essentially:
1. Do something most guys wouldn't do: Approach a woman and say hello or use something to hook them into the conversation.
Use a line that's designed to get a conversation going that distracts/disarms the target(s) and makes them think about the actual question you've poised to them.
2. Dress confident. It can be anything, any style just as long as you're confident in how you present yourself just don't come across as threatening(Like a bum who could potentially stab you for your wallet).
This helps with approaching and it shows that you're comfortable in who you are, something women find attractive.
3. Learn to identify each phase from approach to closing. There's three main stages: Approach, mid game and closing.
Being aware of each phase helps keep a conversation going which generates interest. Once you have a certain amount of interest you can start manipulating the conversation, dropping hints that she should pick up on and train her thought on something sexual.
4. Don't be afraid to close on a woman or test where things are going.
Don't be a pussy. If you're talking to someone test her. Use kino as a test, if it goes well escalate it to the point that you know she's into you then you close.
It's not magic, it's just some psychology. This is the main truth to it, really. We're all social creatures, we're all susceptible to suggestions and if pressed for it in a way that's not threatening we get used to the idea and soften our stance on it. We also take on group mentality, as in we adapt to those around us. When we become part of a group we begin to share similar interests and opinions, not of one persons but of the group as a whole and gradually we slot into specific roles within that group. This is the same with women except they follow the queen bee so to speak, lesser women within a group will try and find the most alpha of males, the person they perceive their queen to be impressed by. So, if you want a girl make sure you impress the leader of the group and all other women in the group and surrounding groups will be more than interested in you. It's once you have the leader hooked that you can easily grab anyone else in the group and pick them up with little to no resistance. To get the leader you generally have to lower her value with a neg because she will be on a high horse and why not? She'll most likely be one of the hottest women in the club and get attention from guys all the time. She's not looking for some average joe that stammers up to her shouting "Yer pretty, luv!" she's looking for a guy who holds himself well, sees himself as high value and isn't afraid of women. She wants the kind of guy that's a challenge for her. The difference between men and women is up until a certain point men are picky but women are picky all the time.
A lot of people don't know squat about psychology or social settings. Unconsciously we follow a specific set of rules to operate within a social environment. These are rules we establish as we progress in life and are exposed to in everyday life and it's mostly trial and error as to how we pick them up. PUA is learning and understanding those social rules. There's triggers within male and female minds that work to put us at ease with one another just as there are triggers that make us see others in a lesser light. Clapping a guy on the back is intimidating so we do it to DHV over an Alpha, to others it looks friendly but unconsciously it's a demeaning gesture that places us higher and it's something others are unaware of that makes them view the guy as being lower value and more submissive.
Instead of people seeing PUA as some sort of secret underground movement that lets you get in peoples pants you need to start seeing it for what it is: Self help. Everything in PUA is designed to teach you about the world and social environments and how to improve your confidence. Hell, there's even a direct jab at looking after yourself by linking both inner and outer game together saying that if you have good inner game your outer game is a reflection of that and if you have good outer game you should have good inner game.
If you realise that it's just social rules you're learning off you'll find PUA much more easier to follow. It doesn't have to make sense, it's just how it is. The #1 rule of being social is that to garner attention and have people want to be around you you need to be confident and fun. Having people around you demonstrates that you're a fun and confident individual with high value because people want to be around you. Everything else in PU that isn't the set of social rules is basically learning what's acceptable to do, how to read SOME body language and some lines to help you with various phases when you talk to a woman and how to proceed from phase to phase.
Touching on body language, kino is important because when you use kino it's easy for you to gauge how a woman naturally reacts towards your touch. This reaction is generally predetermined upon first meeting you but if the target feels comfortable around you she won't react in a bad way. As I said previously if we persist in a non-threatening fashion we become more accustomed to the idea and this is also true of physical touching. The more softened we feel about a friendly touch the easier it is to escalate because the target is already used to being touched by you. Step by step you can work your way towards something much more intimate but given the window a PU will usually escalate it rather quickly. With kino we start off friendly, non-threatening, show that we're not going to be a threat to them and then escalate to something more intimate, something people normally wouldn't do. As Richard La Ruina demonstrated you can touch a woman's body and use excuses to do this, this is something no man would do and it's a huge indicator of what she feels or thinks of you. If you come on too soon with this type of kino you have an excuse for it and don't ruin your game because of that excuse("Wow, that's a really nice dress, let me see..." "That's a really nice ring, where did you get it?" Or play the ring game). Then we escalate to something deliberately sexual. We've worked our way up from friendly to sexual in steps and along the way the target has become desensitised to the touch so it feels natural for you to be touching her which in itself prepares her for an intimate moment, she gets used to the idea of something intimate and close with you and begins to anticipate it. From that moment on it's just built up lust that makes her feelings for you stronger and stronger.
However, you can't just randomly touch a woman so you need to be able to speak to her and keep the conversation interesting... That's where routines come in handy.
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