Hi everybody, here's to explain a weird situation that recently happened...

I was in a pretty exclusive club in Paris last week, I notice a very cute girl but given the abundance inside the club I didn't focus too much on her, postponing the action.

Anyway... Few minutes later I'm walking around with a drink in my hand when she comes close, takes me and we start making out in the middle of the room (mind, I was in a quiet part of the club with noone around me, it wasn't the typical dancefloor situation...which makes everything even more peculiar).
Needless to say I was surprised to say the least. I take her to one corner of the club, we get very phisical (I was probably TOO phisical...)... She then tells me her name, I answer in english and she seems to be extremely disappointed... She asks me where I'm from, to which I reply in a relaxed and cool manner. But I still have the feeling she took my not being french as a major DLV, as if being a tourist (which I wasn't, by the way) and not a parisienne was a major disadvantage.

We make out a little bit more and then she says she has to go out for a cigarette.

She came back to the club few minutes later but totally ignored me, despite me trying to have her attention again (not too convinced, to be honest... I didnt even go to talk to her). I then saw her with another guy, the thing didn't affect me much and still don't, but I'm still curious to hear your opinions about it...
Especially about the reasons why I couldn't maintain her interest.


What could I have done so wrong to turn off a girl who started our interaction making out even before asking my name?
It may be just another bitch looking for validation from different men all night long, but I'd still like to have a bit more control in these situations...

FLAKE.

it's happens, who cares why she lost interest. You can't be every girl's cup of tea.

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I'm not shocked because a girl is not interested per se, I'm just wondering if I've done something strange to change the situation so quickly and so negatively...

i got a very similar case,made out with a girl for the whole night but when we were talking on facebook next day,she seemed completely uninterested in me when i told her where i live.its the distance apart,she probably wanted a local guy not a foreigner but that was harsh of her to completely ignore you when she comes back from a smoke.sorry man :/

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"Life is a chance,take all the ones you get".

Just a sloppy makeout.

A makeout is hardly a guaranteed sex mutual contract.

Sloppy make outs can actually do more harm than good. Keep the tension electric.

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There was a lot of phisical contact, I even touched her pussy in public (altough I think nobody have seen us) she didn't remove my hand but that could well have been creepy...

Again.

Kissing/ kino / telepathy

You can do everything and still not get laid, it's not a guaranteed system, shit happens.

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is that the right order?did we miss a step or something important?? because the girl i was french kissing with seemed to be very into it.

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"Life is a chance,take all the ones you get".

Did you fuck her?

This is seduction. Not makeout.com

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You say she was dissapointed you weren't a Paris native. By curiosity, was she also a native English speaker or was she French?
The reason I ask is because a lot of women associate Paris with romance, to many, it is the city of love.
There's a common fantasy about meeting an attractive foreign stranger and knowing just by eye contact that it's going to be an erotic and sensual connection. It's the basic plot premise of like.. Half of cheapie erotic novels, aka chick porn.
I'm wondering if you didn't encounter another traveler who, far from home, was dead set on living that fantasy into reality and was crestfallen and maybe even embarrassed when it didn't go according to plan.

Do you think that it might've been something like that?

PEBBLE: you're writing some of the most useless answers known to man.

Ebomb31: thanks a lot for your reply.
given the kind of club (non touristical, expensive and fashionable) and that it was full of Paris natives, I don't think your analysis is correct. The girl was definitely french, if not paris-born at least studying / working there.
I think that the club was attended by a small parisienne elite which likes to be a closed an exclusive community, and to be a stranger results in a major DLV.
Mind, I'm not saying this to deny I probably fucked up on my own, indeed I opened this thread to hear opinions about what I could've done wrong.

Yeh sometimes people cant handle the truth

U mad bro?

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Ah, Pebble, if you thought for more than 1.3 seconds before typing, you'd have realized (assuming you're not retarded) that the possible explanations I gave were more pessimistic than the ones you gave.

So, your "can't handle the truth" argument just doesn't make sense. If it were for my personal convenience as you say, I may have just thought that it wasn't my fault at all.
As you can see, to assume my responsabilities for a failure is not a problem for me and I don't need to become a fatalist to justify something that went wrong.

What I think, anyway, is that what you wrote and the way you wrote it is a classical example of useless and false-confident message that has no scope if not that of boosting your ego.


Maybe all these structured long sentences are creating you troubles, given the level of reasoning that you've shown so far. Sorry if this is the case.

Too long didn't read but I'm sure it's a cool story bro.

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Well.. I'm kinda on Pebble's side: Shit happens. And sometimes you can't explain it.
If you turn it around - as I think most guys here should do occasionally, especially the friend zone thing.. how many girls have you not "friend zoned" and no matter what "techniques" she'd apply you wouldn't sleep with her?

..anyway, have you not made out with a girl and then, just thought: "didn't turn out what I thought it to be, forget about it - move on". Now you wouldn't give that much importance would you?
That's just what might have happened to the girl.