I'm particular picky when it comes to choosing girls so when i like a girl I always end up falling head on and have a really hard time letting go. I am a seriously analytical person, analyzing stuff into fault, yet whenever i like someone emotion trumps over every time. I usually start with a playful mindset, like lets have fun with this girl but it quickly turns to me being into her and then I just cant think of gaming other girls, and am really not myself when i'm really into a girl.

For instance This time, i met a girl a couple weeks ago, we hung out a couple of times made out on the beach till sun came up (2am-6am making out touching hugging) she opened up to me displaying all these nice girl qualities that made me view her as relationship material. Then things went stale and as i had to go away for vacations. We didnt communicate for a week, cause i didnt want to appear needy. I only called her the night before i left telling her i wished to see her before i leave, but she said she had an early wakeup and because i didnt want to pressure her, i calmly told her "ok then i'll see you when i'll come back". When i returned she had an "in relation" status on her facebook (of course she didnt mean me). This fucked me up. I tried running every scenario, found reasons why she is not good enough for me, yet every time i reach out for those reasons i feel good with myself for about 5 minutes and then i go back to feeling empty inside that things didnt work out. What the fuck is wrong with me. Why do i invest so much on people? I've read every pua material there is, psychological articles about emotions, brain physiology in relation to emotions, but i just cant help who i am. I have deeply programmed myself into having strong belief systems into seeing the best in everybody, and have faith in humanity, and i dont want to lose myself and assume a different identity.

Is this the reason Where all that neediness come from?

This is just the latest example. It happens most of the times when i start with a girl. How do i remedy this. Even if i have to be less picky and try things with 3s or 4s instead of waiting to go for the rare opportunities of hitting up 7s and above I still dont think this would help.

I also would like to here some advice on this topic.

Although I am by no means an expert, here is my 2 cents:

The best advice I can offer is from the onset look for certain qualities in the women you spend time with. Determine if she is girlfriend material or just a girl you want to have sex with.

If she is just a girl that you want to have sex with then focus on physical escalation and dominance. Try to get her aroused early on, and escalate quickly. Have the mental frame that there are plenty of other attractive girls that I can have sex with, If this girl rejects my advances I will go get another.

If she is girl friend material then focus more on building comfort. Be touchy with her, and maintain physical dominance, but come from an angle of physical comfort not arousal. Still push and pull, remain unpredictable and keep her on her toes, but make sure the girl knows that you think she is special and like her for more than her body. Mix teases her and arousal with comfort building. Try to understand her personality and find they things you like about it, and then tell her.

Here is my last bit of advice. As my homegirl always used to tell me, "don't go looking for love in the club." For the most part the girls that you meet at bars and clubs will not be girlfriend material. Depending of the type of party that you meet women at, they will not be girlfriend material either. Many people go to these type of events with the intention to find someone to have sex with.

As for your emotions, I will tell you what works for me. Before I go out to a bar, club, party, etc. I make sure that I have the mindset that I am going out to have fun, and that the girls I meet are simply there to have fun with. I manage emotions and expectations before I leave the house. My mindset is that I will likely never see these girls again, at least not for a while, so if me and a girl can have fun and hookup then both of us benefit. If I do not score, I can go to the same place and do the same thing next week.