since my last post my game has come on massively and Im now able to work a room with relative ease. during a night out a girl asks me for my number as I have known her before and she seemed to be impressed with how I had changed or she wouldn't of asked. any way I get the num and text her a couple of times during the night.

me: meet up later at... (next pub)
her: yer deffinatly, is it busy there??
me: dunno yet
her: not there yet x
me: no heading there now I hope
her: let me know how busy it is when you get there? x
me: Busy x
me: Im outside if your gonna say hi

I already know that my textings crap but I don't know weather to call or text her about going out somewhere etc. but the question is what should I say, have I already lost her and call or text?

any help you guys give will be greatly aprecciated

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Actually, the texting doesn't sound that bad. It makes you come across as cool/indifferent, yet you DO give her an ounce of interest by actually trying to meet up for a little bit.

I usually make the call if the other person and I are relatively close (near or in the bar), otherwise you may have the "so where are you" "oh...I havent left yet", which makes you seem like you are waiting on her etc.

Great advise mate. I see what you mean about the interest so how would I approach it on the phone as you suggested to meet up later without showing to much interest? How would you consider I handle it from here? Its been around a week since those texts.

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I think it's totally fine to just be like, "Hey you gonna be out tonight?" on any given night.

She'll respond yes or no or maybe. Regardless, you can play it by ear and meet up with her at hers and YOUR convenience. If she's flaky on it, don't be pushy. If she's going to be in the area, be proactive. Both will result in you being secure, and she'll presumably assume you are out with other friends anyways. If you go and meet her during this, she'll feel a bit "special" and thats a good spot to be if you are actually interested in her.

If you want to be direct and set up a date, you could always go with the 1 hour date.

Tell her you want to meet up, she'll say yes or no, and put a 1 hour cap on the date so that you look busy and active. After the hour you can either leave, or if things are going well, you can stay and just tell her your friends postponed or bailed, up to you.

Putting a cap on the date forces her to try to get more out of you and accelerates the rapport process if things are going well.

Of course, you can just ask her out straight up. If she's interested, she won't care THAT much whether you are showing interest.

Good luck!

Thanks Ruri that's some great advise

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