I don't mean to offend anyone but I'm just gonna call it like I see it. I don't have an exact definition of a slut but lets just say a slut is a girl who engages in any sexual activities more than the average girl. You decide what that means. I'm dating this girl(21yo) who has told me she has been with 4 other guys, she lost her virginity at 19. That is 2.5 guys she is with a year. She has had vaginal sex with 2 others excluding myself and just fooled around orally with the other 2. Just to be clear I'll be her 5th. Is this a slutty trend? I don't mean to get too analytical just curious of ppls opinions.

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I know 14 year olds who've fucked ten guys. You shouldn't really care anyways.

But I do. I know it's illogical but it makes me jealous. I see her body and I think it's fucking wonderful and amazing but then I think about it and I realize 4 other guys have been there before me, and it honestly grosses me out a bit. FYI she is my first, maybe if she was just another girl then I wouldn't care.

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So you label her a slut because you feel inadequate about your experience? Don't be crazy dude. 99.99% of all girls that have been called sluts are not sluts at all. The desire for slut shaming stems from either jealousy, inadequacy, or misguided puritanism of the the-female-body-is-a-temple-and-her-virginity-a-delicate-flower kind. You appear to suffer from all three of these afflictions, so purge your mind: there is nothing wrong with having sex, and women like it just as much as men.

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I don't think she's a slut, but perhaps a bit too active. These could be guys she may have had genuine feelings for after all.

Women have sex before they even start menstruating these days. That being said, you should give her a break.

Also, unless a girl has had sex with like 10+ guys at that age, the jealousy is pretty much your problem, not hers.

I know I come from a puritanical background, and I know that all women love sex just as much as men if not more, it's just hard for me to understand that completely; I know I need to get rid of these thoughts and treat these girls like the little fuck buddies they so desperately like being. It's probably because it seemed like it took so much work to get this girl and thought she was a virgin when in fact she has been around. I just felt kinda stupid but that is on me.

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I don't really care, our relationship is not dependent on what I think... I'm just gonna ride this pony for as long as possible, literally. I just felt like a bit of a fool because I thought she was a virgin so I was being really sensitive and easing her through kino and shit, then when I fuck her I see her doing all these nasty things and she's told me she has fooled around with 4 guys. In conclusion, she is going to do what she wants, I will not condemn her for her desires, it's just now I see her differently almost in complete opposite of what I thought before. Moral of the story:


The shy, quiet ones are the freakiest, nastiest girls around. Find one at your local community college

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So now that you've been with her does that make you "used goods" for any future sex partners should it eventuate? How would you feel if a girl thought the same way about you in the future because she is not your first?

You need to get over this way of thinking.... AND QUICKLY! See someone if you need to.

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You're going to be in for a real shock when you date more women. Girls like sex, girls can get sex easily. Thus girls have sex. Get rid of your close minded thoughts, it's for the best.

I don't know if I mentioned this but she is my first maybe it wouldn't bother me as much if she was my tenth. I would definitely understand where she is coming from if she couldn't love me because I am not her first, but hate to say it there is a double standard and she should be lucky that she is getting a preselected man.

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What the fuck is this sort of thread doing on a site like this?

There's no room for insecure men who negatively judge the sexual activities of women among pickup artists.

And that girl you're describing is practically a fucking virgin according to the numbers you think you know.

Get rid of the word "slut" from your vocabulary, along with any and all notions of sexually oppressing women with your misogynistic insecurities and your madonna/whore complex.

That is what I like to hear, I think I just need to sleep with more girls, as for close minded I have to disagree. I like to believe that I am fairly open minded I can see the opposing belief and I understand it but it is not what I feel SPAM. It really is just jealousy of her other partners. I get jealous at the thought that other guys have been where I am now, I think it's just because I care for her, oh well I got to get mines in.

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My bad chef, I will admit that I maybe insecure and definitely jealous but I still feel these things. I think it stems from my lack of experience and the fact that I was a virgin until the age of 23(she is my first). Whatever, I know for a fact I might think of her as a gem if I was in my 100's. It's all relative.

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Maybe she isn't marriage material for you- I can understand that. But 4 isn't that many, especially if she is good looking.

How many girls would you like to sleep with in your lifetime? I am guessing it is a hell of a lot more than 4. By the time she is 30 she will maybe have had sex with 20 guys, I'd say at her age to have only been with 4 is pretty conservative considering some of the girls I know that will sleep with a new guy every month.

If you're still worrying about whether or not a girl is a slut, you clearly have a lot of work left to do on leaving your AFC perceptions behind.

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