I was dating a girl but now we are just friends. My fault. I became her emotional dump and we often see each other, sometimes just the two of us. She initiates conversations on Facebook. But still friendly.

Yesterday she confirmed that she was dating another guy and they are going away again this weekend. There were three of us on this occasion. The other guy was a friend and know nothing of our history. I was getting anxious so I hastily made my good byes and left. Later she sent me a message asking if everything was ok since I left so suddenly. I neither replied nor show that I read the message.

Now, I'm ready to cut ties with her. I cannot accept being relegated to a friend. My first instinct is to simply ignore her and not respond to her message. That is what I would normally do, but I don't trust myself, so I'll do the opposite. I'm considering making a response and make it clear that we can't see each other as friends anymore. I'm not sure about the right thing to say. But maybe I'll write:

'Hi (name). Sorry I left so soon but I couldn't stand to be there any longer after confirming that you are seeing the other guy even though the yogurt was delicious. You have a strong will and it was one of the things I liked about you. Follow your heart as I will follow mine and it should lead us to where we belong. We cannot be friends though as you want it. I will not be your emotional tampon. This is the way it is.'

That's what is going on in my head. It is needy because I can't think of a better one as of now. I just think I should send a message to clearly state my intention, while at the same time play with it as a parting shot.

I have two options. 1) Ignore her, or 2) Send the message above or better-I don't really know what to write.

I think I should simply ignore her and let the absence do it's work. But it seems like running away which may not be good. I always do it anyway and it hasn't done me any good.

What do you think?

I think I should simply reply, "Everything is fine. My afternoon was great. How was yours? Enjoy your trip. I'm glad to see you are having fun."

Keep positive.

Although, I want to add, "We can't be friends though. I can't be your emotional tampon. This is the way it is. So take good care. Just follow your heart.

But that seems needy and negative so probably not.

Also, I would write int he beginning, "I would have preferred it to say this in person before you leaving but there isn't the time."

I have deleted her number. Should I 1) unfriend her on Facebook, 2) put her on the Restricted list so she doesn't see my profile, 3) do nothing on Facebook, and/or 4) hide my online status in the chat?

My EX GF downgraded me to friends with benefits as well, but your case seems much gentler. My EX GF is an unhealthy person.

We went back and forth for a long time, (she dated like 3 to infinity amount of dudes while this was going on claiming to love me or some other bullshit sluts use) and then finally I had enough one day and refused to ever see her again and here I am many months later telling you the story. She tries to reenter my life via her sister's phone (who I am still friend with) but I stand firm. Why? I chose my mental health over her presence in my life.

And that's what it comes down to, trim her out of your life as much as you need to keep yourself healthy. For me, it is a fact I cannot live with her in my life and have removed her from everything, and always refuse her when she tries to lure me back into her scumbag lifestyle.

You're clearly not over her.

You're speaking out of a ego.

She's not interested in you, nor was she at any point under any obligation to you

Learn to let go. Move on. Enough energy has been expended for no good reason.

Behave masculine.

You're behaving like a child who's upset because he didn't get his way. It will only hurt you in the long run if you can't end relationships like an adult. Don't burn bridges. Be a gentleman about it. Keep her around as a source of social proof. The more girls you have in your life, the better off you will be.

-Wolf

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I unfriended an ex, then I was afraid that she was going to see that I unfriended her and know I wasn't over her so I deleted my whole facebook! COMPLETE BITCH move I made spur of the moment. Don't let the same happen to you, don't unfriend her just stop looking at her profile you can also block her posts so you won't have to see her with another dude. Do that if anything. Learn from my mistakes, don't show weakness and like the above poster said, be a man....move on.

Also I wouldn't say anything in message back that was negative like the other guy said keep it positive. I'm fine etc. maybe make an excuse of why you left so suddendly

All the above posters are right in that you want to say something negative because you are hurt, and you want to hurt her back.

Wolf is right, having her in your life in some role doesn't hurt unless you simply can't get over her. This is strictly a choice of your making, you can either decide to get over her and take action to do it, meaning start gaming other women, or you can choose not to. The latter likely will never make her your friend, nor your girlfriend. Seems like a pretty easy choice to me.