Hi,

I am in Asia currently. I met this girl in a nightclub (She was in a mixed group & I was with a PUA friend sarging). We hit it off, start dancing & eventually intense makeout on the dance floor, which was a bit "forward" for the city I am in.

She's a proper party girl, and is out clubbing almost 4 days a week. She was very much into me, the next few days also, regularly texting and all, so next weekend comes and we decide to meet. She tries to invite me out to hang out with her group which I was not at all interested in. She does this friday night & I cancel the catch-up with an excuse, on Saturday night, she is once again out clubbing with her friends but as she was really into me, I clearly tell her, either just me & her go out together (after she is done clubbing with her friends) or I have other plans with my friends. She takes my offer and agrees.

When I reach the club (she was like you at least have to pick me up because I am a little drunk) she tries to invite me in saying its her friends birthday and I should join for at least 1 drink. I was prepared for this, so I tell her, my taxi is waiting and she needs to be real quick. She needs to go back in and get her handbag & she returns with her "girlfriend" who apparently has her birthday & brings her along.

We go to a bar (its almost 2am now) and they order tons of expensive food. At this point, I am even more pissed off, because while my only intention to see this girl was to sleep with her, I am thinking, the trade-off is getting a bit too much. My Queston: "What would you do at this point"?

At that point, ideally I should have ejected & I knew it too (but the temptation too fuck got the better of me) but I just went along with it and hoped her friend would eventually leave or we can drop her friend and then I can take the girl back later. We were really on, making-out and all, even while the friend was there and it got even more intense in the taxi. But eventually her friend played "sick" and asked her to "stay with her". Which, of course was a drama. Reflecting on this, here is what I have decided I would do in this situation next time, as this situation is quite likely in Asia. Go to bar, at the most order 1 drink, talk to her friend more than the girl (in a non-flirty way, ignore the target so she feels insecure about bringing her friend next time) and after a while, eject, saying, I really need to see my friends. Of course, if they act cheap ordering tons of dishes they cant even eat, I would eject earlier, not because its a financial thing but I would feel "used" in such a situation. What would you guys do?

If they ordered that food and expected you to pay, that's an auto eject/insta-dump for me. If you are unsure what they expect, flat out ask them. Set boundaries and do not waiver under and circumstances no matter how badly you want them or how hot they are. If they expect you to pay and you REALLY want to make a point, find out what the bill is, hand them the cash (you may need to find an SPAM) and walk the fuck out. You can even say "enjoy your meals" and give them a clearly fake/forced smile. Unless they are brain dead fools they will get the point instantly and will feel like absolute twats.

Never lose your cool, ever. Be calm, make your point with your actions, not your words.

That being said, if they are cool, and are just hungry and don't expect you to pay, 3some is on. Not joking either. Escalate both girls, flirt with the friend, kino her a lot, alternate attention as evenly as you can.

I'm yet to pull this off and it's hard, (at worst you lay the first girl) but this is how you get them.

Ah,

Believe me or not. Last night, all of a sudden, thinking about this, I just realized I missed the signals for a 3some. I was focusing too much on isolating my target that I didn't realise that at one point my target had asked me to kiss her friend and so we did. There was also decent kino with the friend, which I didn't escalate. Oh well, lessons learnt, now I need to get these chicks back, they are great 3some potential.

Lol, no I believe this. You live you learn.

Remember, don't take things so seriously. Set reasonable boundaries and if she knows you want her and brings a friend, this is a GOOD thing.

I think the free food theory is much more viable then the squandered threesome hypothesis

Who knows, this is why setting boundaries is so important. Had he found out they were taking advantage and looking for free food. Standing up and leaving would have got the point across hella fast.