The girl I have been seeing for about two weeks just canceled on a date that we had for tomorrow. No lie, I just kinda had a mini freak out. What are some things I can do to cool down and handle this calmly and intelligently? Would proposing a rescheduling be a good idea? Thank you.

Essentially, she cancelled, it's her job to make a new time. Don't fall into the usual trap of desperately trying to make a new date, whatever you do!

I'd just stop messaging her for a bit, then either on the coming weekend or the one after I'd organise to go out with friends and invite her along. But that would be the absolute extent of it.

Generally, if you've hung out a couple of times and she likes you, she will make time for you. If she likes you she will contact you unless she's lacks a little confidence, hence the invite to a night out. If she declines that, time to move on.

So I am going to be a selfish d!ck and just write about my own sh!t.

It's just that your post reminds me of the time when I lived overseas and had a bunch of numbers. The girl who actually picked me up from the airport was ripped that I traveled for so long and decided to go home after dropping me off at my apartment. I was in a mood to go out. So I just called the next girl who was more than happy to come over. We went out. . . I still remember the motorcycle ride through the city, visiting old hang out spots, night clubs, and after hour eateries; obviously, she stayed over my place that night. If this girl didn't respond, I would have gone through the digital rolodex until another girl did. Not great, not bad . . .

It's your choice. One is not better than the other. You either build your happiness off of a chick or a bunch of chicks. Or . . . you build your happiness off of your place in the World.

Hi,
First of all, what the response you send to her?

If she automatically reschedules, no problem there. This shit happens.

If she didn't, still no lost cause here. This shit also happens. I just had the same problem a few weeks ago. The thing i did was; i respond with ''ahh ok, no problem''. After that i stopped texting and waited for her to reinitiate, she didn't..
After a week i decided to send another text, just something casual and innocent. Then i suggested again to go out and have some drinks. And this time she didn't say yes (it was a case of ''bad timing''), and told me she needed some time. So i played it cool and acted like i didn't care. After 2 weeks of no contact at all she texted me and we agreed to go out, and this time we did.

So my advice;
Play it cool and don't care about a girl flaking, its her loss. Your are the star here, you are the price.
Dont ''chase'' her. (This will come off as you being a needy guy, and THAT,is terrible!).

Remember: A girl flaking doesn't automatically mean she is not interested:). Take your time and play it cool man, good luck!

The-A

Relax man. People cancel all the time. And you have already been hanging with her? It's not even a big deal. Just be like "ok, no prob, let's shoot for some other time" .. and then in a few days or whatever chat her and see when she wants to hang out again. Girls cancel ALL the time. Often it's because they aren't interested but a lot of times it's because they are just like that. It is definitely 100% ok to follow up again down the road to see if she wants to hang out again to reschedule. The advice telling you not to do that is simply wrong.

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Ha Ha Ha so nice, just look in her eyes and say some lovely poetry about her.

My general rule on that is this:

If you've been in every day contact with her, wait two days and reschedule.

If you haven't, wait three or four.

Make the date easier on yourself; have her come to your place and then go wherever you are going.

I've had chicks flake for *months* doing this. They always come around eventually... if they eventually tell you that they are seeing someone else and want to be friends, tell them you'll have to think about it and get back to them maybe five days later.

Op, first off limit every girl to 2 dates if you get the first kiss by day 1 and 3 dates if she is at least giving you a hand job by the 2nd. If none of this occurs then pursue a new girl. Otherwise you will just end up pursuing a girl who wants to hold sex over your head and will most likely try to manipulate the shit out of you until she meets someone who isn't putting up with her shit.

Don't sweat it, it happens to the best of us.

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