As I was writing this post, I've been 6 months in the forum, and this forum is how I became aware of the concept of the inner game and all techniques required to pick up a girl successfully. I've even had a girlfriend for the first time ever in my life thanks partly to this forum, you can my whole sarging story
here. As for the methods, they're all in the forum and everywhere else to see, and while I don't say you don't have to master all these methods, I would opine that you shouldn't put them above everything, since inner game is what matters foremost.
If you've been here and in the pick-up scene in general, you know what inner game is; it's how you feel about yourself, and girls are such sensitive creatures they can tell if your vibe is there and will behave accordingly. You've heard about how you should perceive girls and the pick-up activities in general. Yet I bet some if not many of you're probably wondering why you still feel anxious and insecure around girls even as you've mastered all the mindsets and techniques required for a successful game.
I was in the same camp. I was wondering how my game didn't improve despite me internalising all the materials posted here. At one point it was so bad that I suffered from erectile dysfunction. At 25.
WTF? I thought that was due to the fact that I had been overthinking about the issue, or because I haven't got a job that I got naturally stressed. So I stopped thinking about them for a month or so. Nothing improved. I was so desperate to find out the cause that I spent days browsing the internet since I found it way too embarassing to get myself prescribed a Viagra to solve the cause. The search ended as I was typing something in Google and it generated
a link from Psychology Today about the correlation between porn and erectile dysfunction. I was intrigued to find out more about the issue until I across websites that offer extensive information about the problem; that more and more men report about it especially after the arrival of high-speed internet in their life, allowing them to masturbate towards multiple 'girls' that aren't even real, to which our brain will eventually get exhausted in the long-term. And this exhaustion manifests in the form of erectile dysfunction and other psychological issues since the hormonal balance becomes essentially disturbed. This revelation eventually led me to a website called
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com, where the accounts of people recovering from it are documented from across the net.
I've been in there since I was 16. 10 years now. There have been people suggesting me to get the hell out of it but I simply laughed at the suggestion because I thought masturbation actually helped me become calm. Only after that article came to my attention did I change my perception.
As for my progress, I'm into the third month of my recovery now; the earlier you start your internet porn binge, the longer it takes for the recovery to 'normal brain' take hold, but there's no point to get back. I feel calmer, the bad thoughts of my past that I have to manage so as not to affect my life suddenly become a thing I can easily ignore, and the most important stuff is more girls check me out that I feel obliged to approach them, and one of them is my girlfriend now. For the first time in my life. At 25. I still haven't fully recovered, but definitely I won't slip back and I feel compelled to share this finding with you guys.
It's not that I'm against porn. Porn can be a good thing to stimulate you and your partner, for example. But if excessive porn watching encourages you to have sex with yourself rather than a real girl, then you may find yourself in trouble in the long term. That's my point. It's like how you behave with alcohol I'd say.
Take care.
CHAT