So backstory:
Last summer met this hb English tourist. We met twice for coffee in my city, I did very light kino but no kclose, she's seems to be a bit on the tight side. I said I'd be relocating soon to UK (where she lives now) and since then she FB me a few times asking if I moved to UK ((haven't yet).

A month ago she FB messages me saying she's going to this really beautiful seaside area in my country for 5 days and I should "come for a day or for a couple of days".
She tells me the hotel she booked and that she can cancel the room in case someone joined her.
What??
She explains that she had booked a room thinking a GF of hers would join so she would have cancelled the double and booked another room with 2 beds. GF not joining her anymore (making me second choice I guess!)
So I am a bit confused now as to her intentions regarding room- is her invitation to also share room with her and split costs? Which is cool by me of course both moneywise and funwise
But not sure of her intentions. I feel she also wouldn't mind saving some money if that is the case for her.
What is best way to ask her if I can split the room with her without at first sounding like I have other motives or coming off as I can't afford my own room? Also because can't afford room on my own so..it would come off as really bad if she says she prefers her own separate room!

Guys, feedback appreciated!

I'd ask her:

"So you'd like to cancel your room and get a 2-bed room?"

Regardless, you will be alone in the same room. One bed or two, what's the difference? Just escalate as much as you can.

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One bed to have fun in and one for sleep. She's asking you to share a hotel with her. Obviously she'll be out with you and getting into bed at the same time and place as you. It's a sure thing. Play it cool. Build up tension, then pounce.

More importantly, she's the one hitting you up. And she has a vagina. These two things = SHE IS INTERESTED.

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Well, I asked her straight out, before confirming that I am joining her, if she was considering sharing room and she said, yes would be good idea to share room to cut down costs.
But when I confirmed that cool I will join her for sure she changes her mind and says she will keep the room to herself to give herself a nice holiday gift, and will I get a room in the same hotel or another one?

SO CONFUSING and frankly annoying. Now I don't know whether its worth it to go because I can't really afford my own room, unless I go for couple of days, and clearly there is no interest....I feel I just be going to keep someone company as a travel companion.
any ideas, appreciated as I need to make a final decision asap!

Girls can be so fucking weird, man.

That's a bullshit flip-flop. It's like she was gauging your interest and as soon as you showed your cards she got her validation and is trying to push you into your own room cause she knows you're into her and then there's no pressure for her to put out.

I do still think she has interest, though. She reached out to you for this... She invited you. If you don't have the cash for something like this, though, then that's a shitty gamble.

You could try pushing it back at her in a playful but firm way:

"Woah there, princess! What about my holiday gift?! I'm down with hanging out and having fun while you're here, but how about we share the room, take the extra $ and have fun with it."

Just an example of course, but something like that?

If nothing else her response should tell you more about where she's at.

Good luck!

Yeah man, total flip flop.

Thats a great response to throw back, unfortnately its too late, a week or more has passed and I told her I'll look into hotels and let her know. Still haven't confirmed. I can do it two ways I guess now.

One way is to say I am coming for 1-2 days only because I can only afford those days, and now I will be committing for those days can't turn back and cancel, and maybe she might say oh ok, we can share room or change her mind after 2 days if I make her have a good time and ask me I can stay for the other days in her room. By going no matter what even for a couple days I'd at least get 2 days sight seeing at a place I never been to before.
Or just say straight out, sorry can't make it, saving money and couldn't find a cheaper room. To which she would reply, ok cool some other time then or she'd say lets just share the room then, which would show that she is at least interested in having company no matter what.

Why bother? Why put so much effort into a girl who is showing disinterest? Is this the best lead that you have? Would it be more efficient for you to generate new leads? Would it be more productive for you to generate stronger leads?

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