Went on a few dates with an HB8-9, nice chill girl but seems a little emotional/crazy. She canceled our first date but immediately set up another. The dates went great and her interest was high, she would pretty much initiate texting me everyday (even though I hate texting). She text me one night telling me she wants to come over , I agreed and about an hour later it seemed she was dillydallying and wouldn't give a straight answer on when she was coming over (it was already late and I wanted to go out) so I just told her I had friends in town who I was gonna go out with and that we'd have to do it another night, she immediately played the sad card but fuck it she took too long so I just played it cool and didnt give in to it and talked to her a little more before I went to a party. She message me the next day playfully snipping at me for not answering her message the night before (I was out and didnt feel like talking) than after a little playful conversation tells me I never asked her out on another date. We messaged a little more than the next day she messaged me again, like usual, and I set up a date with her, she oddly didnt message me the day before the date and then canceled the day of a few hours before saying she wasn't feeling good and thought she was getting sick. I always half expect flakes so it didnt really bother me and Idc what any PUA says you don't call them out, it just makes you look like it was your priority and you had nothing else to do, it puts pressure on the situation and will never result in you closing, ever. So I just said it was no big deal and to get better. This girl, after flaking messages me again that night and when I'm semi unresponsive (I was watching a movie with the roomates) she sends me a message saying "talk to me :/". I waited till after I was done watching the movie than messaged her and went to sleep. The next morning around noon she messages me AGAIN, saying I "must not like her very much" when I asked why she thought that she responded that "getting me to talk to her was like getting a toddler to sit still", which absolutely isn't true, I talk to her plenty. So I just laughed and explained that I was a face to face kind of guy and not a phone guy. She said it was hard because of how far we lived (20 minutes so BS excuse) than said she was gonna stay away from me while she was sick but wanted to see me when she was better. At this point Idk what to do with this girl. I'm so tired of texting her its just annoying, pointless and boring but I feel like this girl is just running circles, even though she very may well be sick I think if she wanted to see me she would have considering its been a week and a half since our last date where the momentum/interest was very high. She canceled the first date, bullshitted around before I called off our one date and than flaked our last date, yet shows massive interest. She is shy in person so Im thinking either A. She's not comfortable enough or feels pressured now that were getting to the point where she knows it'll get physic or B. she's keeping me around for text attention C. She really just had things come up. I plan on keeping her in my rotation, no harm as long as she's not a priority, but I'm just getting bored and need to meet in person again with this girl before she annoys me to death with texts to the point where I cut her out of my rotation for the semester (which I'm trying to make as big as possible for my senior year, YEAH YEAH!) just as a side note, she saw my Facebook where I have tons of pictures with girl and she questioned me about if I was a player so that may also have something to do with it.

Sometimes we forget that girls often don't know how to deal with guys they like either. That's what I think is happening here. She's into you obviously but doesn't know what to do (I'm assuming she's young).

Text sux but if you have to and she's initiating just say, "well, just text me when you want to hang out." As you hate texting (I'm the same) you can be clear and firm and say "I really don't like texting. I like you and want to hang out with you but honestly can't be bothered texting back and forth. Just let me know when you want to hang out and ill do my best to make time. " then leave it. Don't battle her, if she keeps texting bullshit after you've set a clear boundary, dump her (no I'm not joking).

^sounds likes sound advice.

Why are you hung up on this girl? It sounds like you are annoyed by her and you don't even like her. AND she flaked on you.

People who flake on you don't respect your time. If you have solid plans and you reserve that time, then you SHOULD value it. Not calling her out makes you look like a little bitch because you have nothing better to do anyway. If you could've been doing something better with your time, and would've rather planned something that would actually happen, then let her know she needs to respect that.

STOP THE TEXTING. Seriously. It's gay. Its fucking gay. You could go suck a mans dick and it would be less gay than chatting up a girl you haven't hooked up with yet via text. People who suck dick don't pull out their phones to do it.

You don't sound emotionally needy, but you are feeding her need with text. FEED IT WITH YOUR DICK INSTEAD! \

Females who annoy you and don't put out shouldn't be put up with. It really gives no value. I'd rather let a cool ugly girl suck my dick than have an annoying hot girl waste my time.

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Good advice

IMO she sounds very odd. Texting you like crazy, even coming across as quite needy, but canceling last minute to actually meet. It's possible she has issues.

May as well follow the advice above, but don't put too much thought into this. She doesn't sound like a good example of a sane girl that you have something to learn from.

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