Ok guys when you're in a relationship with a girl, how much talking do you do? And what do you chat about? I've recently just spent 4 days away with my first ever "proper" girlfriend (always just had casual or one night things before now) and we talked quite a lot, but there were also long periods where we just sat pretty much in silence.

It wasn't particularly awkward, but looking back I sort of think that the girl almost seemed to lose interest a bit after the periods of silence.

I've never really had a proper relationship - so how much talking do/should you do? How do you handle/avoid the silences? What sort of stuff do you talk about when you come to a quiet moment?

This is one technique that applies to the 18 to +40 age range. All girls I've been in relationships with love it. It's role playing.

For instance, this HB that just left my apartment a few minutes ago likes to play the let's get married theme. She role plays us getting married in 1,000 churches dropping via parachute per church.

Another HB role plays into a businesswoman managing a fleet of buses that run on bicycle pedals. I role play as the bus driver while she pushes the bus so it gains momentum for decent speed.

You can role play into anything outrageous and both of you get the shits and giggles from ridiculous scenarios that will never happen in real life. After a role play theme, a pillow fight and then good sex usually follow. The pillow fight is typically a result of a fun argument on who gets to do the harder chores like who folds the parachute or who pushes the bus.

As for the intellectual level of women, this technique works well with chicks who only finished high school, those with college degrees in the sciences and engineering, and a few with post graduate studies.

In short, girls just wanna have fun no matter what their educational background or intellectual level is. I hope this technique will work for you and will fit your personality to a tee.

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Useful enough Hellhound, but not really something you can use all the time. What else do you talk about during a day with your girlfriend? How often do you talk? What about those silences?

Silences are the perfect moments to build sexual tension...eye fuck her brains out, but hold off initiating anything sexual with her until you can tell she is getting turned on

In my mind, time together should be spent together. If there were silent times, unless you were watching a movie, that likely means you weren't together.

You're only "together" when your attention is focused on one another. It doesn't matter if it's serious, deep, intellectual conversation, light, fun conversation, or just no conversation while you engage in work or play activities together.

But to just sit in silence letting your mind wander, is not great. What I do in those instances is try to initiate something, conversation, or say let's go do "x." If she declines, or is not open to it, then you are free to occupy your time doing something you enjoy without her.

That's my 2 cents.

You're right 7000. You can't use this technique all the time. Otherwise, it gets stale and boring.

Breezy86's nonverbal communication advise is also a good technique. Vhou812's let's do x thing is also one good way to build happy memories and common experience that only the two of you can share and remember when you're apart. Shared common experiences are powerful relationship tools to keep girls committed.

To elaborate further on Vhou812's idea, what I personally do is to engage girls I'm in relationships with in personal projects where we team work from something small to something more elaborate.

For instance, you can organize a a cook fest. Start with something small but special enough. Something like, Spanish seafood paella. Both of you can shop at the wet market for fresh ingredients and then get the olives and other ingredients at the grocery and so on. You can divide the chore up and teamwork on some of the activities.

Shopping for ingredients and cooking the special meal alone can keep both of you occupied and talking for several hours. At the end of a small project like this, both of you will also tend to be fulfilled and satisfied for something both of you accomplished.

Projects can be anything like planning for a tropical beach vacation, mountain hiking, assembling a twin bike, or organizing a simple picnic at the park where both of you get to enjoy special meals and good wine.

Btw, too much availability tends to kill the attraction so manage your together time well.

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This is good advice.