Theres this girl I was with. We met online on a game and quickly exchanged pictures and phone numbers, begun a relationship. This lasted a year, we spoke to each other every day and told each other how much we love one another.

somehow she became more distant over time. i read online that chasing would only make things worse so I too became distant. another year later she contacted me through facebook i perhaps welcomed her back into my life too easily and in a week she already had a new boyfriend. ( a bit odd, almost like i was her number 2 guy) During this I sent messages to her a couple of times on facebook and got completely ignored.


two or three years later (and earlier this year) i see their relationship had ended. I told her that I told her I'd like to meet up with her for first time ( it was long distance you see) . she said yes and i asked for her phone number. no reponse. ask again, no response. i had a go at her and said she should not disrespect me, she then said she was too busy to respond.

its been months since I asked her that and I still miss her. paultheking blog had inspired me to do the waiting game, whether that will take months or years ... what do you lot think? i hate waiting. thanks a bunch for reading.

She's not interested..you creeped her by sending her 2 messages without a response and telling her off..move on..maybe a couple of years from now you may have a chance but right now..she doesn't feel any romantic feelings for you..I just got done dealing with this myself..trust me.

You've already lost her 2 years ago. Drop it, you already wasted too much time.

Thanks guys. My problem is I don't get to meet many other girls so I get too attached to this one. Wish there was another approach I could use. Is it not worth saying to her I'm talking to another girl (harmless lie) and I'm not mad at her any more?

Myx I found your topic helpful. I'm glad for you moving on. My situation is quite different in that we are a lot more distanced (messages are often months and years apart) and never talked about why we split up. I am 21 now.

Edit - Okay I've messaged her. Kind of like a last message thing. Said i wasnt mad at her but didnt like how she dealt with it. said goodbye forever (i did not word it like that but I did try to imply it)

if she was so destined to be unobtainable its worth one stab in the dark .. I shall keep you posted if I am succesful.

Your best bet is to get a new girlfriend. If you haven't had one this whole time, she likely feels like she can have you if she wants, thus you are low value, and she doesn't want you.

You should not be waiting for her to come back or act differently. You should be living like you've accepted the fact that she is not going to and you have moved on. Getting other women will help you in this regard. Get friendship and support from some, get sex from others, get it all from one place. Whatever works. But don't just "wait" for her to initiate. Move on, and if she is too slow to do so, it's her loss.

I have removed my facebook account and changed the password so I shan't be worrying about her any more. I have grown out it anyway. I find this is the only way to move on.


My problem now is I dont know how I can meet other people . I don't feel like going out much because of my emotional and physical state. Actually this has been a problem for years.