What's a general rule on how long to wait before texting a girl back as to not appear needy? I got this girls # she is a KO she's into me. When we were talking I played it cool gave her enough to keep her wanting more then ended the convo. We haven't talked since its been 2 days. I am pretty sure she'll txt me but if she doesn't I figure 3-4 days will have me well out of the needy zone. Also we're both boxers there's an event coming up I think she would like which would make a good date so I am thinking I'll probably see if she wants to go. Any views, opinions,advice would be appreciated thanks.

I believe 3-4 days is a bit too long. 2 days is pretty a good number but there is no definite rule and it can vary according to the situation. There's a lot of articles on how to text on this forum and others... Have fun reading!

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Cool thanks mate! I usually give 2-3 days. I was thinking of waiting longer to see if she txts me Iam usually pretty good at playing it cool and have girls after me. Although sometimes I play it a little too cool lol.

While you're trying to not appear needy, I figure out a place I want to go to and ask your girl to join me.

Don't structure your life around playing fake games with girls. If you're not busy most of your time and don't have other things to think about except for this girl, well, maybe you should concern yourself with other things than women. Get your head straight and then you won't think about "general rules for texting."

If you have an idea of inviting her somewhere then invite her. If you want to invite her somewhere everyday then once again, you need to look deeper into the problem than "faking that you have something to do besides text her."

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The very fact that your asking how long should you wait before texting her back to not appear needy is ironically very needy.

I see where you guys are coming from and appreciate the input. One of my main sticking points is worrying about looking needy/creepy here's a little background info into it. I went out with this girl we went to the movies then out to a bar/resteraunt good time I teased her we made out went well. The next day I texted her said hey what's up I had a goodtime last night just a regular follow up txt. Then before she answered I noticed she left her purse in my car so I txted her again about 2min just said hey you left your purse in my car do you want me to drop it off later. A cpl hours later she txts me and is like I got all 50 of texts what's your deal? I txt her back what? I texted you twice. She's like whatever drop it off I won't be home. I found out later she told her friends I texted her repeatedly and creeped her out. That kinda stuck with me since then I try my absolute best to not appear creepy/needy. Its just a sticking point that was just a bad experience because a follow up txt saying hey I had a good time last night then hey you left your purse in my car want me to drop it off later doesn't strike me as need/creepy. I shouldn't let that bad experience limit me like that though, but I was younger and a lot less experienced at the time. Hopefully you guys see what I am saying.

Firstly, in my opinion it's the role of the girl to say" I had a good time last night " It just doesn't seem very masculine to me to say such things. Secondly that girl that snapped at you for two texts is a crazy immature bitch . Too bad your inexperienced because a good response to her would have been " thanks for letting me now your a crazy bitch this early on, peace "

Being non-needy means to be less invested in the girl than she is in you and that's just the way it is. Be your most attractive self and if you feel like texting a girl than by all means do it, just don't be needy.

Hey man,

This little rule is bullshit and I'll tell you why.

The guys that invented this wait ex amount of time before calling or texting a girl back did it because they were " afraid " to appear "needy". But in all actuality, if you aren't needy and you have other options any girl you talk to will be able to feel and sense that in everything you say and do. I can tell a girl " I love her " on the first night because it really doesn't matter if she accepts it or not. I have plenty of other girls who already have and a load of other women scattered across NY who will if I give them the opportunity.


There is no designated time to wait before hitting up a girl, but it is important that you have a productive busy life that assures you won't be sitting around clicking away at your phone all day.

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You're right and I agree with you totally. I have a lot of things on the go and a lot of other girls I can call/txt anytime whether its to hookup or go on a date with and she knows that. Thing is like I said in my above post worrying about looking needy is a sticking point with me even though I am not a needy person. I also think I have a bit of a distorted view on what makes someone appear needy.

Hey guys thanks for the advice and the verbal kick in the ass to get on my game and get going. I am talking to her now its going well. Its just a quirk I have I over think things but when I am in the moment actually doing it its no big deal.

You're talking to her now? You didn't do anything wrong with your previous text, and she verbally harassed your soul into pointless awkwardness with no fault. I would have told her that she can get her purse herself, it will be in my front yard waiting for her.

Keep us, or me, updated on how it goes with this girl.

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No no mate I am talking about 2 different girls the girl I was talking about in my 1st post is one I've just recently started talking to. The one your talking about is a dirty sl-t I went out with when I was 17 and inezperienced. I only posted that story as some background info as to why I have a sp about appearing needy. I have more self respect then to go out with her afyer she pulled a bitch fit like that.

Ah my b for the ignorance. Best of luck with the boxer girl- remember to watch the left hook.

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No worries mate. Thanks she's good she'll keep me on my toes lol.