Hello Gentlemen - As always in advance, much appreciation for the feedback. I'll try to keep things as short as possible.

I know there are tons of shit test threads but wanted to bring my example to the table to get some clarification.

My HB10 GF(22) is starting to shit test me with things she knows I will not tolerate on a regular basis. We've been living together for almost a year now and things are well out of the HM phase and starting to get real difficult.

She keeps coming home drunk from bartending but is getting better since she knows I barely can't stand her anymore and am ready to drop her ass but that's another story.

She's been bugging me to take her to see her friends at the river for two weeks. Yesterday I tell her I'll drop her off to see her friends, she complains until I agree. She just wants to have a beer or two say hi and leave blah blah. We get there and I already know it's an older guy, she has tons of guy friends and orbiters so I'm used to it. She knows I'll drop her and get something else instantly so I'm cool. We meet the guy at the bar, he meets me and walks over to his area. She immediately follows and looks back motioning for me to follow. I act aloof and completely ignore her as following other men isn't my style.

After a short walk around I make my way over and she's sitting next to him on a chair and theres only two. I sit on a bench nearby bc I'm not going to walk up and stand next to a guy and my woman with my thumb up my ass looking like a jag. She's still expecting me to walk over and socialize with them. This is where she really pissed me off - Either of them could've made an effort to NOT hangout practically alone even though there were tons of people around. I go do my thing and can see her stairing at my every move from 50 yards away. She comes up twice over the course of an hour or so, tells me what she's doing (cornhole etc.) and tries to kiss me and I practically ignore her. At this point I'm insulted she hasn't gone out of their way to include me.

I get bored, and endup leaving to jump in the pool, he offers to drop her off which is fine with me since I'm annoyed with her anyway. This guy is older and not as good looking as me and if she fucked around I don't want her anyway so I'm not really concerned.

Am I being fully betaized here because I'm a monster Alpha through and through? When we go to social functions and I don't pay attention to her she complains about it for two days. This girl expects me to marry her. I snapped on her after telling her she basically had me drive her to jock some guy in front of my face and I'm not going to tolerate it.

What's the best way to handle your woman paying attention to other men? Especially when she knows I find it rude and classless and will find someone else?

She definitely knows I find this behavior unacceptable. So it really seems to me she did this intentionally. She couldve had him get her at the house or let me drop her. She makes the eww face in disgust when I suggest she go home with him because I'm not going to tolerate her disrespectful behavior.

She attempts to say I'm turning insecure. I attempt to explain (poor move) that this is a respect issue to me. No woman I'm with is going to show up somewhere with me and hang (figuratively) on another man the whole time unless it's a close friend of mine or family. She tells me she understands how I feel but that she doesn't agree. Which is somewhat respectable..

It just not the type of behavior I'm interested in having in a partner. For some rediculous reason I expect my woman to want to be by my side and figured she would've made some effort to move to a table or something. I'm really losing interest in this chic and would like to figure out some way to rekindle even MY interest level in her.

Sure I didn't hande things properly here but she would straight up wigout if I did something like that. She's super jealous freaks when I talk to or hit on other women etc.

This relationship is going down the tubes and we both want to salvage it but don't know how. I also need to to majorly reframe myself, would appreciate tips from the pros. I'm cleaning up my act, working out more, getting sun, talking to other women, not being clingy etc.

She swears she wants to save this too. This girl used to continually confess her undying love and willingess to communicate and work things out now just says she does'nt want it to be over when she knows I'm losing interest in her and about to move her out of my room. I'm telling her to move in with him and have him drive her to work because I won't put up with her behavior and she says she's not going anywhere because she's still in love with me.

Advice please.

Thanks again!

MTN

Since you live together it's a bit harder to maintain your edge, but there are options. Instill dread.
1. Flirt more with other girls in front of her. Make sure you do this covertly rather than overtly. Also, make sure she understands you're a wanted man and if she keep on disrespecting you, you walk away.
2. Soft next her if possible (you live together, might not be an option)
3. Be 100% willing to walk away and let that be known through actions instead of words.
4. Ignore her shit tests or call her out on them but do treat her like she's a 5 years old if you do this.
Nuclear option
5. Turn off your phone and dissapear for a few days. When you return act like nothing happened and she's just over reacting. You just wanted some "me" time away from everybody, went fishing or playing hide and seek with sharks or something involving a hobby of yours.

I just got out of a 1 year and 6 month relationship. Beautiful Hb9 girl so i feel ya and this whole disrespect thing got to me too. I think once your in a relationship dynamics are different and all this pua shit goes down the drain. Of course freezing her out and stuff still works and its important to show you wont tolerate her shit. I failed at that and I learned.

What made me get out of the relationship was this article I read. I cant find it so ill summarize it from my mind.
Its some deep shit.

Why are you truly with this girl?
are you with her for sex?
because she makes you fell happy?
because she helps you not feel lonely?

pretty much all these reasons have one thing in common theyr things that you as a person are depending on her for. These are things that wont last forever. looks die out, you start fighting and you become unhappy, what if you have to work abroad or go on a business trip you'll feel lonely. blah blah blah. relationships based under such variables are ment to fail.

Good marriages and relationships after alot of thought I have personally concluded come down to having a partner that is along the ride with you through your journey of life there to support you and you to support her.

My ex didnt help me with shit, i helped her life along more than she helped me. I realized as much as i said i loved her, the only reason i couldnt break up with her was because she had become one of my absolute best friends and it was just too comforting knowing i got to fuck a beauty everyday. But end of the day she was a leach. She was not along for the ride of my life she just needed someone to fix hers.

This begs the question that damn as a dude you gota figure your shit out . You have to figure out what path your journey through life will take and your end goal must not be a woman a woman must be there along for the ride to your ultimate purpose (Read The Way of the Superior Man).

You have to look into the more spiritual kind of reason of why you truly are together. I mean shes a HB10 it feels good to be dating such a girl but is she helping you and your life goals?

Thats how I analyzed my relationship after my ex had to move away long distance for a job and she would not give me any of her time. she would not even call me for 10 min, butt she had time to go out clubbing. for me like you said if she cheats on me idc at least i know shes not for me but being so disrespectful as to pretend she was too busy to not even add to the relationship realy pissed me off.

so I guess just analyze your relationship and think about it good, look at more spiritual stuff i guess this pua stuff is just about being a player, not so much for the long term bitch(the wife) lol

after you analyze your relationship you'll realize what you truly need in your life even if its not what you think you want.

Good luck mate!