I am an introvert and in parties i like to stay quiet let other guys do most of the entertaining and talking.

This actually works to my advantage as sooner or later a girl approaches me with one of the following

So you seem awfully quiet?

you dont say much do you then or

how come you havent said much?

something along these lines

What would be the best reply to this?

talk more

Push the envelope. She will not progress any further until you open up, somewhat. Make her feel like you are super carefree, and outgoing and that she just wasn't around when you were entertaining everyone else.

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I'm kindda like him. I let others talk and people/girls would comment the same thing, what would you guys suggest are good answers to this? Im thinking those are shit test

Don't give them the chance to say it. Own that conversation. You will accomplish things. You will ooze of an extraverted personality, gain social proof and actually enjoy your time man. Make good connections with the guys and the women will follow. Act comfortable with people off the bat.

Great advice I received from this forum was to approach women like you have already had sex. Would you be awkward around a women you banged? Didn't think so.

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The are not shit-testing you they are opening you...

Just give a honest reply: "I enjoy listening and just talk when I feel it is important to express myself, I'm ___ what's your name? have you ever dated a good listener?"

You've gotta talk more. Quiet people creep other people out.

They're not shit test. The women are interested, which is why they want you to talk lol.. a shit test is when the bitch tries to DLV us..

I recommend that you guys just tell them the truth. Tell her that you're shy around people you don't know to well. You could also try to talk more. You don't have to be slick rick or anything just "act normal" which is what women really want. A man who is normal & not all weird.

Also learn how to get out of your head & into the present moment, which means eliminating your mental avatar & stepping into your body. For example, it's one thing to fantasize about have sex. It's another thing to be physical present & becoming the action you desire.

I think at your mates party which has mutual friends.. The girls asking why you are so quiet is a IOD even if they did talk to you.

Where as in a club with strangers it would be a defo IOI.

Man up. Just tell them the truth. That you are an introvert

take the charge and lead it somewhere though! Don't just answer questions with one word answers.

You could at least try to be part of the tribe.

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I like this response.

Firstly there is nothing wrong with being quite. Have you ever heard the expression strong silent type.

Remember 90% of communication is body language. You need to make sure if you are not saying much with your voice you are saying lots with your body. Don't use closed off body language and don't learn in trying to listen to people have people come over and talk to you. Don't not at everything they say but dropping out the occasional signal that, yes I am still engaged in this conversation works great.

Ok now when the girl or anyone else for that matter opens you. You need to project that you are not shy or unable to deal with that interaction. Immediately gain control of the frame if someone asks your opinion on something try and use it to move the whole conversation onto a different trajectory that way the other person is now in your frame or the group if there are more than one of them.

Remember to speak slowly and confidently and a tip from the book how to make friends and influence people( a really good book to read) show genuine interest in them.

The ideal situation is to have the girl putting 80% effort in and you can just learn back and listen and occasionally use your 20% to reassert control of the frame.

Raven

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