Hi,

my FB has proven to be insecure and flaky. She is always talking about her ex - even though she says she doesn't want a relationship with him - and at the same time telling me we have the best sex she ever had. One evening I really lost it. Her ex had told her there was a movie being made in her hometown with an actor she liked. She went there and - oh surprise - her ex was there with a friend.

He ignored her the whole evening until she started crying and then talked to him the next morning. Now she realizes she still has feelings for him but doesn't want a relationship, or perhaps she does. She's really moody and flaky. I told her he was simply mindfucking her, because this freezing and push/pull is nothing but bread and butter game. She got angry that I dared smear her ex. We got into an argument because I was frankly fed up with this bullshit. We still had sex.

The next appointment gets cancelled by her. She doesn't want this anymore, I am too close etc. pp. We had a good talk where she calmed down a bit, but still she wasn't sure if she would want to continue this. I am dating other girls, because either way I don't want to rely on this flaky girl anymore.

I am now stuck. Should I wait some more time before contacting her? Or is one week enough? I know she will not contact me because of her stubborn pride. Or is she gone? I would like to reactivate her as a fuckbuddy as she's a pretty good one.

You need to back off. As we all know, scarcity is key. But not so much for attraction in the case. It really is to separate yourself from that situation. I think you could do a little better thinking by stepping back, letting her dwell in that emotional cave and getting your rocks off somewhere else. You will not stress your daily thoughts based on interaction with her. If she comes back to you (which she will if her ex is done with her, he holds the cards) then great, if not then great as well. Everything a new experience and lesson.

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Thanks for the clear advice. I had figured this out but there is always the impetus to do "something". I must confess that I felt disappointed because I had thought that great sex was the best superglue of attraction and I know from her that the sex with her ex was good, but not great. So it also was a matter of honour, as stupid as it sounds. But as she is a very complicated and troubled person it really isn't worth the effort. Though the sex was great

why is a conversation about a fuckbuddy in a relationship forum?

Because fuck buddies are one type of relationship.