sinn stoped posting on his blog at sinnsofattraction
which means i've started reading his emails
and they are so awesome i decided to post some of the best ones here
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Jan 7
Hey,
Today I want to talk about routines.
Why should you use routines? Well, first of all,
you shouldn't only use routines. You can't just
stack them up and hope that you've got one in
your repertoire for every situation.
It's good to have this repertoire to fall back
on or to get ideas early on in the conversation,
but you'll want to develop other skills.
But routines are really important because they
give you something to talk about. Lots of guys
have trouble coming up with things to say.
They may not be experienced enough to improvise.
Routines take care of this for you.
The Benefits Of Routines
A good routine gives you anywhere from 30 to 90
seconds of material that you can recite to keep the
conversation going. That's the main benefit.
They're also good because they get a specific desired
reaction. If it's a good routine, you can count
on it to get that same reaction each time. What
are some examples of reactions?
One reaction is when the girl laughs. Another is to
prompt her to ask a question. It might be something
where she touches you.
Routines are also good because they create weigh points.
This is a set point during the interaction where you
know something has to happen to move it forward.
In other words, they move it along to the next point.
4Routines are also great for transitioning,
demonstrating value, demonstrating personality,
leading the interaction, and a whole bunch of
other fun stuff.
These are the little things that move the
encounter along to its final destination. This
is why they're good to use when you're learning
techniques on how to get laid.
Hope this helps,
JS - The King of Content
Hey man,
Pick up artist techniques are about more than
just what you do - they're also about what NOT to do.
When it comes to your opening, you should be smooth,
cool and confident. 'Sticking points' are those
awkward times when things suddenly aren't going right
and you're wondering what to do.
There are 5 really common sticking points that
you need to avoid like the plague.
1) Not Being Loud Enough
This is a huge mistake I see lots of guys make
all the time. If you're going into bars to meet
women and you approach them with the voice of a
mouse, you're not going to be heard and you're not
going to look confident.
2) Hovering
This is when you inch up to the girl half-approaching
and half-stepping. It's one of the worst things you
can do because it's creepy. If girls think you're
creepy and you're wondering why, it's probably because
you're hovering.
I'll give you the other three tomorrow!
Best,
JS - The King of Content
Hey man,
Yesterday I went over two of the worst opening
sticking points for guys. Today, I want to finish
up the list so that you know exactly what to
watch out for...
3) Not Smiling Or Being Playful
It's really important to smile a lot and be playful.
For guys, it's a big deal to get your courage up
and approach a hot girl to make an opening.
For her, it's just another guy hitting on her.
If you don't look like you're relaxed and having
fun, you're in serious trouble. Girls don't want
to be approached by serious guys.
4) Leaning In
When you lean in, you're compromising the girl's
personal space. It makes her feel threatened and
physically uncomfortable. These are definitely
not things you want to make women feel.
So, leaning in too close is really bad.
5) Not Getting Her Full Attention
In my opinion, this is the most common mistake
and it's also the most deadly. When you want
to start a conversation with a woman, you need
to get her full attention right off the bat.
Sometimes you'll have to be rude to do this and
sometimes you'll have to force it. But you've
just got to do whatever you've got to do in order
to capture her full attention. You can't rely on
finesse to get a conversation going; sometimes you
just have to blast in there and take charge.
Sometimes when you think a girl's not interested,
it's just because you haven't gotten her full attention.
These are serious problems that every guy should
watch out for. No matter how tight your pick up
techniques are, if you're committing one of these 5
deadly sins in opening, you're in trouble.
Best,
JS - The King of Content
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