Met this girl 3.5 weeks ago, seen her everyday and slept over most nights since. We get along very well, only a couple minor disagreements we worked out quickly.

She's the best looking girl I've seen since we met, ambitious, confident, stylish, high class. All good things. We have plans for starting several businesses and generally I think we could have a good life.

My fear is its a little early for me. I was just getting good at pickup. For two years now the girls I find have only been getting better and better quality, every single time I next.

While I acknowledge I was becoming bored of random lays, I never ticked the 3some box and that's going to be a real challenge. As far as I can tell its out of the question with the new girl. Furthermore, she wants kids before thirty (partly so she retains her beauty, bless her!). I'm not sure if I want kids, and if so I don't think I want them nearly as soon as her.

I know many good relationships where the woman has inspired the man, maybe that could be the case here. But I must admit, I'm compromising my values to some extent, such as my freedom. We're moving in together in a couple weeks since we spend so much time together anyway.

Definitely scared. I've not had any commitments for 5 years.

What does having a 3some mean to you that makes it so important?

Just depends on how bad you really like this chick. Sometimes ( and IT DOES happen on the forum) some guys are only using game to find a quality woman in their lives to settle down with. Me personally; i want a Solid 10 with a great personality to have a Long Term Relationship with however i need constant gaming and meeting HIGH social value people to get there as well as aligning with 9s to show preselection so she knows that "women arleady think I'm a catch"... I mean its a TOUGH one... you could KEEP gaming and eventually get your threesome but who knows if shes willing to wait that long before she decides to move on ... so it varies

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Its more than JUST picking up women ........ its picking up a LIFESTYLE.

This sounds stupid but, given my reputation and the amount of effort I put into this, conceptually I wouldn't ever want to be at a table when someone says "Never have I ever had a 3some" and not be one of the ones drinking.

Another theory would go that I'm just using the threesome as an excuse to continue engaging in my usual behavior. That being said, I got into the game to get a quality chick. One night stands have little appeal any longer. I suppose after spending 25 days with another person, you realize they aren't perfect. My gut tells me keep gaming you'll find one even better, while my brain says this girl is an extremely rare species and maybe its time to turn a new page, put my energy into business or something else.

I was very honest with her about my feelings and she suggested a couple days apart for me to think about it. I agreed and I am considering pitching 6 more weeks of pre-relationship status for me to emotionally prepare for a relationship. Unfortunately she's been texting and emailing like crazy during this two day period. My gut gets suspicious why she is so head over heels, and my game brain says "DLV."

I realize this is a milestone for myself, my game has come to the point that I am willing to lose a girl like this. I know that, while it may be difficult work, I can always find another. Realizing now that while this is one of the holy grails in game, that it's a double edged sword.

I do not understand this topic at all. You don't want to commit to anyone, you want to have threesomes, commitment compromises your freedom, you're not in love with the girl, and you find her being in love with you unattractive. Why in the hell are you even considering a relationship if you feel that way.

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

If you're already thinking about kids 3.5 weeks after meeting someone, something is wrong. Relax, it's not that serious

It really depends on your goals. What are your current goals now or past goals? Depending on that, you may find your answer. If the girl meets your criteria for a girlfriend, then it couldn't hurt to get experience with a relationship. Some relationships can be rewarding and you may learn a few things along the way.

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~ASmooth