Hey guys what's up? I usually don't get this question asked of me because "people are sure i've been with different girls".

Truth is i've always been very picky with girls and if i can't see myself having good conversations with her and learning from each other...looks usually don't make up for that...but then again i've never met pam anderson look alike.

I've had a few girlfriends in high school who i've got to give me head as many times i want a day (typical boring day 5-6 times)...but relationships were just too short and never got to sex because i figured i just loved blowjobs.

Granted i've had a lot of opportunities to have sex...i just always felt for SOME reason...i want to have my first intercourse experience with someone i really LIKE and respect. Not one of the girls who think i'll be a good fuck and want to try me out. I mean...if any of these girls said "well ill just blow u"...then i'm all game...but sex is different idk why. ANYWAY.

If i'm asked "so how many girls have you been with?" should i be honest and basically tell her exactly what i told you guys? Or lie about it? A big attractive quality in guys is pre-selection by other women...so i'm not sure if i say "i'm a virgin"...and they don't "buy" my story which is unfortunately true...it may cause an opportunity to slip away...what do you guys think? I'm 20 years old

If she asks you "how many girls have you been with?"

Maybe some of the other guys can say how they field this type of question... But saying you've been with 100 girls, I think, won't help you.. It comes off like you're bragging and is DLV, imo.

On the other hand, I also think it's bigtime DLV to tell them you're a virgin.

you could always turn there question of how many partners you have had into a neg... for example(and this is off the top of my head) "enough to know that your not going to make the cut" ... which i guess something like that would also work as a push/pull statement.

i really don't think there is a specific number that will be good for every woman, and in my opinion giving a specific number is a lose/lose statement.

well, i read an article in maxim lately that said girls will almost always lie about their number, and the average is seven.

just say, "well i know you won't tell me, so i won't tell you."

it's as simple as that.

It really depends on the girl to how she will see this, most will see it as DLV, but if they really like you that much, they wont give a dam, trust me. So dont bring it up, if she asks dont tell, but the problem is they will probly be able to tell that you are a virgin when you have sex, but its no big deal, she wont mind. And being a 20 year old virgin is nothing unusual, so she should understand.

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I think saying you banged two girls thats all the DHV you need. But being twenty and a virgin is a dlv

you know what i feel from past experiences that girls get turned on from learning that the guy whos been gaming her has a high count. it shows her that u have a high social status and makes her feel like u dont need her to get laid. my step brother one time told a girl his count was in the early one hundreds and they had this big conversation about it and she seemed actually more into him after the convo was over. but if u do try to pull this off confidence is a large part of it.

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Simple... If anyone asks you how many girls you've been with, just say "enough to know what im doing". The end

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Confidence is the key aspect, period. Confidence is what gets you laid. You don't have to have a high count in order to raise your social status. You could have a count of just a few, but have those same girls hanging around for more, BECAUSE you're confident AND good in bed, and your status will be high just from that.

It's all in your confidence, which is your inner game.

hey thanks for all the replies so far! I can see myself leaning towards just not giving a straight answer or playing with their heads as being most beneficial.

As someone said in a club setting, where no one knows you and you come out saying your a virgin...it will probably be interpreted as me being undesirable. But if i change the context to my college campus..having girls talk about me sexually(to their friends) will seem to show credibility of me being pre-selected. So if i choose to respond with an honest answer...will my stance of "not being too hasty" be interpreted as having enough options that i'm critical of girls and don't devote my attention to just anyone?

OR...should i honestly fuck as many HBs as i can just so word spreads i boned girls within the clique/campus. I don't know how much i'm gonna hold out to be honest because even though i personally know i can literally walk down the hall...ask her roommate to leave and fuck her friend. It's annoying to think that guys are getting more action than me even when their friends would prefer me but settle for him. I guess it's my fault for not trying to cold approach more interesting looking girls.

But then again...maybe it's an insecurity of being judged on my performance and getting back to other people, although i've always felt confidence in my ability to make girls feel good via fingering/massages/oral. But my conscious mind doesn't think that's the reason haha. Thanks again.

you don't want the word to spread that you a whore, you want to have one or two options in your dorms and thats it...

Girls are afraid of as being thought of as sluts. If a girl asked me that question, I would tell her I don't share that information. This shows you don't need to brag about how many if you're confident about it, otherwise it could seem like you're embarrassed about it. And more importantly, it shows her she doesn't have to worry about you bragging to your friends or her friends about boning her.

It all depends on how you portray it as. The way you know if being a virgin is a DHV or a DLV is simple.

DHV: Are you a virgin because you want to be? (indicating nobody was able to earn your sex)


DLV: Are you a virgin because you can't get laid?

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Thanks for more replies! It's a DHV in the sense that i chose not to have sex with multiple possibilities. But in a more "primitive" way of thinking...a woman may be confused as whether or not something is wrong with my reproductive process or lack of intercourse experience = less suitable mate. But anyway...i'm just going to stick with "i'm keeping that a mystery" and have the confidence and sexual energy to make her unsure as to why i won't tell...might add suspense? idk