Hey guys,

I would really appreciate it if you could read through this post and offer any suggestions on how to change this girls mind.

We have only been dating for a couple of months. We get on really well, but we both have a problem of partying too hard, drinking too much and fighting when we're drunk. My friends have caught her flirting with other guys, which i let slide because I didnt catch her doing it myself. But over the weekend, she was going on about how hot this one guys body was with her friends, and I was present. She also goes on that her co-workers have so much 'swagger' and is always telling me how awesome these guys are. I mean WTF? Why? Is she just being a bitch or trying to test me or make me jealous or something? Shes also very critical of the things i say and just the way i am.

Anyway, on saturday night we had a really heavy fight after coming back from a party and really mean words were exchanged and in my anger, I called her a brat and I asked if she was a slut. Massive fuck up, i know. So she sent me a message last night telling me that its not working out and shes ending the relationship. The thing is that i have fallen for her in a big way and I need some advice on how to fix things. I already told her i would stop the excessive drinking and partying, but i also told her that she needs to sort some of her shit out too... this was over email last night. She hasnt replied yet...

What should I do if she doesnt reply? What is my best plan of action from here?

Thanks in advance.

Swagger? Really? Why do you want to be with a girl like that? She's definitely a brat, you had 100% legitimacy in calling her like that. Also I don't know about you but when I'm wasted drunk with my girlfriend we're having sex not breaking up. Something is wrong here... I truly don't understand why do you want this misery in your life. You really need to find a girl that is worthy for you, and meanwhile you should work on your drinking problems, because not a single girl will take this for long.

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Thanks for the reply man

Yea, I know its bullshit. But apart from what Ive mentioned here. shes really sweet, generous and supportive of the things Im into, we get on really well for the most part and shes always willing to try out the things i want to do in bed. If she'd broken it off a month ago - I wouldnt feel this bad. But she ended it right as soon as I started having genuine feelings for her... We have had some amazing times together and Im just really bummed that she would end it like this without even trying to work things out. (She wouldnt let me go see her yesterday - hence the email I was forced to send) Oh - another thing that she did was kiss one of her girlfriends in front of me at a party the one time... How big a deal is this to most guys? Im not sure how to take that because she was drunk and it was a girl. TBH - when that happened, the term 'threesome' did enter my mind... but i still think it was kind of wrong.

I don't know what to say to that. You know and you set your own boundaries in your relationships. As for me my girlfriend is not allowed to kiss anyone else except for when I tell her the other way, but that usually doesn't happen. A threesome looks much cooler in porn and in your fantasies than in reality.

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First of all you shouldnt changed for this girl, or for any girl.

2 - she doesnt deserve your respect.

3 - Yeah she is brat, who cares if she is testing or being just bitch... who the fuck cares

4 -This will happen time and time again when you guys party. Go find someone else you can be fucking when you two are drunk

5 - Never give her too much Power , which you did when "i will change please comeback", dont be a fucking doormate

6 - You shouldnt let it slide if your friends warned it was serious,

7 - Your best plan is going no contact... trust me go on with your live find hobbies, go flirt with other girls, when you raise that self esteem and see that girl doesnt deserved you perhaps she will be knocking on your door and you can make a decision going for the same shit.

8- Girls have tendency to comeback when you just ignore if you send her sappy txt drunk or normal trying to fix things will only show her desperation , and you will just push her away´.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Thanks for that man! Yea, i think im actually being a wuss after hearing your opinions on this. Im just gonna get on with my life and forget about her. My major regret now is that i have sent her that email. I should have just ignored the whole thing completely. Oh well, you live and learn... Peace

I'm skeptical. You have a good list of complaints with her. I suspect that instead of her ending it right when you had feelings for her, you started having feelings for her right when she ended it.

It was a 2 month relationship. Start blowing a nut inside some other chick for 8 weeks and then tell me if you're "starting to have feelings" for the new chick.

Then tell me if you give 2 shits about the chick that just dumped you. My guess is it will take 2 days of being with someone who doesn't treat you like this one did for you to say, she can do whatever she wants because you don't give a rip.

^ I have to agree with this one too. A few months can not be enough to develop deep feelings. You can start feeling some connection but unless the girl has been the part of your life for a long time, or you have absolutely zero social life apart from your gf, there's no way you should be falling for someone so badly so early.

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I know. Its not like i was in love with her, but it still hurt really bad when she broke up with me. Maybe its a bruised ego more than anything... I think i liked the idea of her more than herself actually aswell. Anyway, this weekend Im going out and will hopefully score with someone else... Thanks for your comments dudes!