| eye contact can be tricky. this is an area i've worked hard on myself. i used to be the AFC type guy who if someone made eye contact i'd almost immediately look away. so i've had to push myself to learn to maintain eye contact. it's one of the hardest things for me still. the best way to really learn what's good and what comes off as creepy is just to practice. you hear about the "newbie mission" where you just go to a mall or club and just look at all the girls there in the eye. it's good practice and you'll start to get a feel for how long to keep eye contact before people think it's intrusive. for me, i try to have a cheecky smirk on at all times. meeting someone's eye while they have a smile on is a whole lot more comfortable than meeting and then having them smile. it makes them wonder "what does this person see in me that's making them smile? are they crazy?" and instantly the bitch shields come up for defense. ut if you're already smiling they wonder what's making you smile and are focused on you, rather than defending themselves. i typically don't hold eye contact more than 3 seconds without at least saying hi. i find if i go any longer they think i'm staring and it comes accross as creepy. and while at first i thought maybe if when i first made eye contact and then smiled it might make them feel special and be open, through trial it doesn't work. it's better to have on the smile before eye contact. at least it's been that way for me. but i generally adhere to the 3 second rule with eye contact. if it's the case that they're not close enough to talk to, at 3 seconds, if they haven't looked away yet, do something silly. stick ut your tongue, make a googely face, make antlers at them. wink. oh the power of the simple wink. it's out of vogue where i am, so you get a good reaction here. noone else is doing it. i typically get a blush from it.
with this girl you've seen around, if there's been no obvious IOI's, and lack of expression isn't one in my book, try something more drastic. but i'll tell you if you've been looking at her a lot and she knows you, you're probably "that guy that always stares at me". so have some material to play off of this point, a reason you're staring. something like, "you always have like 3 hairs out of place, doesn't that drive you nuts?". it'll let her know there was a reason you were looking other than that you want to get in her pants. it'll deflect some of her shields, let her know you notice, it's not a bad neg, and also says you do notice the way she looks, but in a non offensive or intrusive way. let us know how it goes.
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