About 10 months ago I was experimenting with text game on an app called kik messenger. I was getting random usernames from another app and trying out text routines to see what would work best.

I had no intentions of forming any sort of relationship outta this but long story short I ended up hooking a famous girl out of LA. I didn't know who she was at the time but we've been "together" in a very odd way for a long time now.

The issue is she is 16 and believe it or not this girl is actually nervous of me. I'm trying to get her to video chat right now but she is to nervous to follow through with it. I almost got her last night but she chickened out.

I'm wondering if anyone here has any sort of experience with something like this. This is long distance so it's hard for me to do much more than I have done.

Should I just drop her till she balls up and goes through with it?
Or should I keep comforting her?

Here's some of the things she was saying yesterday

I'm just an insecure mess that's why I hardly show my face in any of my keeks I can't tell you how many times a day I get told I'm ugly

Okay il probably make like 40 videos before I send one because its gonna be so awkward

I can't even walk down the street without being paranoid someone thinking I'm fat or something

Yes you are making me really nervous like I'm crying and idk why and I'm just the most awkward person on earth.



I'm hesitant to offer to much comfort because she is gorgeous and I don't wanna seem like a fanboy
Because of that and our situation I rarely offer any compliments at all

I can tell you she is insecure even though she is beautiful and has it all. I thinks that's why I love her.

Anyways any advice? I don't really expect any of you have been in this situation but il keep my fingers crossed

She has a penis dude. You're getting catfished

Thank you so much for your help man.

So I've been experimenting with random girls on kik. Probably about ten of them. And all of them come up with an excuse to not video chat. It's like girls on here are all insecure about it in fact they all sound the same.

you can say someone is good-looking without going overboard and seeming bought in. in fact, contrary to most of the pua neg-literature out there, I think saying "I think you're good looking" or "you have nothing to worry about" "you look fine to me" - positive - but not over the top. is quite authorative and not at all unmanly or weak sounding

not to dent your dreams but are you sure she's famous? i've heard that line many times from many different girls before and almost always turns out to be way over-exagerated or fantasies

and no offence to you, but 'long distance' relationship... have you actually met her? in person I mean. this isn't really what people mean by relationship

I really don't care whether you believe me or not that's not why I'm here.


But I've tried getting about 20 good looking girls to vid chat off kik and they all have an excuse. If anyone else wants to give it a go il tell you what you need to get started here.

There are two things wrong with this statement: 1) she is not famous, 2) you are not together. Someone who is famous, especially L.A. famous, is used to being seen by others, so they would not be nervous for a video chat. Secondly, you haven't even seen her, so you are not together. While she may not be a guy, as an earlier poster believed, it is extremely likely that she is lying about her identity and appearance. Anyway, if a girl says that she is ugly, she is looking looking for attention. Unless you really like hearing about how ugly she is all the time, you should NOT reward this type of behavior with your affirmation, no matter how authoritative or manly you think it might be. So just ignore it and change the subject.

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

I think it's funny you claim to understand a situation you have little to no info about better than I do when I'm the one directly involved

I can say this: if she's denying to prove her identity, or use video chat, she's a guy.

I'm sure decent girls exist on these date sites, but they are covered by a 1:100 ratio of fakes.

Dude, no offense but what the hell. You've gotten advice here and come back bratty for everything.

If you are talking to a girl you met online, and she refuses to video chat, meet, 9 times out of 10 she's a fake. Coupled with the fact that she's "famous" sounds like she uses a famous chick's picture.

It's that simple. She could be a guy, or a girl that looks totally different from her pictures. Do you really think a good looking girl who is famous would have a problem going on SPAM? Youtube catfish stories and ALL sound exactly like this. It sucks, but I can guarantee you she is fake. If you're 16 too, I'm sorry but learn from this.

Really looking forward to seeing this all play out on the next episode of "Catfish." Can't wait to see dudes face when his "famous" girl friend turns out to be a mexican mechanic who's specialty is working on blown out Hemi's. GL

Did ask any of you to tell me whether she's real? Was that my fucking question?

You are clearly here looking for advice.. Everyone has told you what is going on, You Should Listen to the advice Run and learn from this. Focus on Reality instead of Fantasy. GL

This is a troll topic. No one else waste any effort.

Save some money or if you have it already, fly to LA and meet her. This relationship will stale out if you dont meet soon. You have a catch on your hands and if you play around, you will lose her. Dont keep asking to see her online, best to man up and go be with her. If you keep asking her it will just make her sad and insecure so meet her and show her she's beautiful. Leave a post it in your pocket saying "neo87 rocks" so when you turn up in the river, I can show my friends I made the news. Good luck