Here's what I mean by "specific":
"Do something that I want to do, dressed the way I want to dress, by myself or with others, at least ______ times a week/month." - What you wrote isn't quantifiable or identifiable. What I wrote is an observable event.
"I want to weigh ____ lbs. I want to have a physique that looks like ______." (Better shape can mean anything right?) So be more specific with your other statements as well. You'd like to be motivated in which areas of your life? What do you want to achieve with your motivation?
A career doesn't begin when you want it to begin. Read the stories of successful people. You don't just turn on 'success' when you want to turn it on. For successful people, there is no switch. It's just full time on. Turn your dream on now and write it down. Work towards it.
Which country. When. What. "Why" is important but you can keep it to yourself. "How" is the plan that comes later.
So how would you make ^this more specific?
How many numbers is that?
There is no special trick or secret. The idea is to go out and pick up the ladies and have fun. If you'd like to try this out, then begin with openers. Figure it out

Boom. Hit my targets . No pictures of my testicles need to be uploaded (saying I would do this actually really helped me. There were times when I felt like I couldn't get that final approach but, as a man who keeps his word, I knew I needed to).

I was in-field for a total of one hour and forty five minutes, a bit longer than I'd have liked, but still, that's irrelevant. It took me thirty minutes to muster up the courage for my first approach, and I did open by asking for directions, but that was a good warm up and I still managed to get a compliment in. After that, I opened a further 4 girls, one of which I couldn't find any way to compliment her, by asking if they knew of any stores in the area which sold DVDs. It's worth noting that all girls were at least 7s, a couple 8s. All went well, what I noticed is that I only gave the compliment as we were parting ways, probably because I was scared of how she'd react. This is something to work on in the future. All in all, I'm pleased with how today went.

Day in Review

Compliment 4 girls [4]

Notes

- I approached 5 girls in total
- I need to compliment while the girl is still engaged, not wait until she is walking around and saying after her 'oh, by the way, I like your _____'
- Asking if there's a certain store in the area seems like it has potential as an opener, especially when you know there isn't. It makes the girl think and gives you time to compose yourself. Opinions, anyone? I'll field test it when I have more confidence.

Anyway, this is JayBo out for a few days. I'm not sure when I'll be set up, unpacked and what have you, but expect an update sometime next week.

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Long Term Targets - My Dream List

Make an effort to open up and display my full self to people once a week. This could be acting, what a certain circle of friends may consider to be, out of character for me [ ]
Go to they gym three times a week until I achieve 10% bodyfat with a physique like this - http://www.glamour.com/images/entertain ... m-w724.jpg [ ]
Study outside of class for one hour a day, five times a week [ ]
Go to a yoga class twice a month [ ]
Read two interesting books a month [ ]
Figure out what job I want within the next three years [ ]
Move to Canada/Australia for at least three months within the next three years [ ]
Organise one party/night out/social gathering per week and invite at least three people outside of my main social groups [ ]
Attend at least two further parties/nights/social gatherings out per week [ ]
Have at least 5 'go to' numbers in my phone at any one time [ ]

How are these looking now? I've tried to make a quantitative target for each bullet point of my dream list. As for choosing when your career starts, what I meant by this, is that I don't want to get a long-term job for a few years. I wouldn't consider getting into a career/long-term job successful for me at this point in my life. I equate success with happiness and a career focused job would not make me happy right now.

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Done no 'gaming' as such but just a quick update regarding my journey.

Overall, including trains, planes and buses, I spent about 46 hours travelling and I was alone. I said to myself that I'll make and effort to talk to a few people to try and boost my confidence with talking to strangers. One of the trains I had was an overnight train and I ended up meeting a guy at the station and talking to him for a few hours, the ticket guy thought we were already friends and arrived together. On the plane, I asked the air hostess where she was from as she had both a really good Spanish accent and a really good English accent. We fluffed for a couple of minutes but had to get back to working. I noticed when leaving the plane she was saying 'bye' to everyone in a fairly monotonous way and then when I walked past she smiled and said 'bye, have a good trip'. Could have just imagined that though.

Finally, when on the bus, I started talking to these two Romanian guys, asking them if they're going to the same place as me. Ended up giving one of them my Facebook and we're gonna meet up. Feels good to be extending my circle of friends. I'm not sure when I'll go out to work on 'game' as such as I start work later today and will spend the next few days meeting up with old friends but I'll keep this updated when I can.

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Hey Jaybo,

How's your progress going?, I've been following this Journal and its a shame to see you haven't posted for a while.

Thanks Monty, means a lot that someone's following this. It's not dead, updates are just going to be few and far between until September.

Long time since I last updated so here goes.

Over the past few weeks I've started a new job working 55 hours a week and have been catching up with friends I haven't seen in about a year. When I haven't been working, I've been hanging out with people, doing shit and practicing game has taken a backseat. However, I did meet a girl and I've got her number, she lives in the same apartment complex as me and has shown signs of IOIs. I kino escalated on the first night and since then she has shown some signs on interest, only talking to me when there's a group of us, holding eye contact with me while she's addressing the group, asked me if I wanted to share her seat with her when I didn't have one.

However, I don't know where to go from here. Past few times I've seen her I haven't really done much, once again because of my fear of rejection and I think she's starting to lose interest. Any tips on how to pull this one back?

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Hey Jaybo, Rush here replying about your question... never mess with girls in the same building as you....Ever. it always ends up awkward and weird and you have to see that person everyday. Do yourself a favor and learn from my mistakes (I did it twice and almost went crazy) read my journal I was just in the same situation not too long ago. my-story-from-afc-to-the-coveted-pua-vt162065.html Drop this girl! There's so many women in this world!

It's been nearly two weeks since the last update and I'm just going to give a summary of how I'm feeling and a couple updates on what's been happening and what I've been doing. I'm kinda high right now so I have no idea how this will be structured and I apologise if I start to ramble on and end up with something really long.

Few days after I posted on here, I served a girl at work who gave me her number. I didn't intentionally game her or anything, she just came back and handed me a piece of paper which said 'i think your cute' and her number. I didn't text her. It was a nice little confidence boost though

I was invited to a house party on July 4th by the girl I briefly mentioned earlier, who I was talking to over Facebook. She picked me up from work in the day and we went over to her co workers who were also having a party to celebrate. I thought now's as good as time as any to start trying to put what I've read into practice. Since starting this journal I haven't really had a chance to night game, this was going to be my first. We stayed at this party for about two hours, had a couple of beers and I took a few shots. She didn't because she was driving. The whole time, we stayed together and talked. I started teasing her after a little while and tried to kino escalate, lightly punching her on the arm and telling her she should stop drinking because shes driving, flicking her head when she said something, holding her hand to look at her nail polish after she mentioned she just got them done. She was very receptive. She moved closer to me on the sofa and our legs were touching. It sounds big-headed to type, but I knew I was in tonight.

During the drive back we just talked and joked a little more, nothing really important to note. We got back to the house pretty early, only the people she lived with were there, and she told me I could drop my stuff on in her room. Again, we just talked in her room as she started to get ready. She came over to show me something and we made eye contact. I went in to kiss her and the rest is history. When we came out, the party was in full flow. I had a good night.

We didn't talk about it on the ride home the next day. It wasn't really weird or awkward. I text her a few times since then, not really saying much and she responded. We haven't spoken in a couple days. I'm not reading too much into it, but I would like some on advice on getting her to become FWB.

I've also just pushed myself to be more sociable in every day situations, talk to people, ask them questions. I'm enjoying it. I feel better about myself and I feel so much more confident. I can feel it. I don't think going out and doing planned exercises is the way to go. I haven't really been practicing game for the past month, aside from putting what I read into practise, and have had much better results than when i was going out and doing daily tasks. Coming here has been a real eye opener.

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Long time no post.

Quite a bit has changed since my last post. The old girl just flaked every time I asked her to do something so I just stopped texting her and we haven't spoken since.

However, I've been speaking to another girl who I really like. We've been friends for about a year and about a week ago she told me she liked me. I told her I liked her too and we ended the night by kissing, nothing more. Since then, we've kissed a few times and a few days ago I managed to get her into bed but again kissing was the farthest we got, every time I tried to escalate she'd resist.

Then, she text me saying she feels guilty about doing this to her ex-boyfriend who she hasn't officially broken up with yet. She goes to school and rents an apartment with him, the lease is already signed and she couldn't afford it on her own so she needs to get back with him to be able to go to school. She also said it's not what she wants to do but what she feels she should do. I told her that what she was doing is fucked up and that I'd be pissed with her if she didn't tell him how she felt. She agreed, told me everything she said to me about her liking me and me making her happy was true and went to bed.

The day after this happened, which is yesterday, a friend told her that her ex had been talking shit about her, hooking up with girls and that she shouldn't get back with him. She was obviously upset all day and we didn't really talk much.

Like I said, I really like this girl. We click. I want to be with her. But I feel like I've been friend-zoned. What would be the best approach to take in this situation?

Any advice is appreciated.

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Hey dude, I actually bookmarked this thread so give yourself a kick in the ass and update!!

To recap what I've read: You started out not even talking to old people. You found out a bunch of openers that didn't work and you know you moved on super quick. Some of your best conversations have been when you weren't on a mission. You didn't return calls to women that gave you numbers. You were used a couple of times as a rebound but that's not a bad thing, it's still a lesson. How has it gone with the friend-zone since?? that shit can destroy a man!

I'm a beginner also but as a salesmen I'm probably a little further along, less AA but it was there to start with, I think i'm over that though. One thing that stands out is that you love the chase, you love the challenge. Any girl that you mentioned giving you their number with no game did not validate you, these could of been doors to many more or the girl who approached you might have a surprise or 2, I really want a librarian that is a minx in bed for example. You should of remember reading about social proof? Girls love what other girls have, and if you're cool enough to be all, "oh she hit me up and is a surprise, did you know she can.....(some talent that is cool)" It shows you're open, supportive, and don't just take people for granted, its DHV, I bet other women will want to proove they're even better than that!

Pick yourself up, be your own best friend, your own wing and get back out there but add to your research and delve deeper! faster! get bigger and badder! just don't comprimise, you don't have to be an asshole, it's not lying, it's flirting

Brisk, I love your concept of a naughty Liberian. For me the perfect woman would be somebody who was well read and clever but also incredibly hot. The two traits of intelligence and beauty would compliment each other to no end.

Jaybo, sounds like your making progress man. Update more though!.