I last talked to her Saturday... We only texted a bit and then she cut the convo short... I'm assuming she left Sunday sometime and I didn't expect her to contact me while she is on vaca either...

Do these girls ever let you know they don't want to see you anymore? Like wtf... We talked for 2 months everyday and she just disappears...

From my experience they usually just faze you out...stop texting as much, not answering calls...again I think I would just move on.

Just seems odd because out of all the girls I've dated she seemed like the most "clingy" at first.. She was literally all over me and couldn't leave me alone... Now she disappeared and I miss it

There is a good chance she is just mad at me because I bailed on our 3rd date without really telling her... I mean she texted me first after our 2nd date and when I tried to plan the 3rd date she was more "busy" so nothing was set out and I just didn't bother. But maybe she was expecting me to set something up and let her know? Ever since that day everything went downhill

Even if a girl gets mad at you and decides to ignore you, it's not for more than 1-3 days. More than that and the problem is far more serious. For a girl to do a rapid 180 like that, there's usually another guy that came in the picture.

might as well if you would like to see her again, if she's not keen just give her directions to call you when she's free, then delete her number so you don't obsess and start calling/texting her and find some hobbies or meet some more girls or something so that you don't stay so focused on a good dates and end up all hungry for your next date fix, people will come around if they want to come around, just got to give them some good reasons by being of value to them, even if she met some other guy or something she will probably eventually hit you back up again if she likes you when she's high and dry, just don't burn your bridges down and don't go all in love stalker 24 hour contact on her, give her some space and less attention to miss you like you miss her

Is there a reason why she wouldn't let me know she isn't interested at least? Or is she just trying to keep the door open here?

Assuming she doesn't pick up the phone, should I still send her a text or ask her to call me and then delete the number?

Or should I just be straight up and throw the ball on her court and say that I would like to see her again and I'm deleting her # so she knows she has to contact me to see me again?

Good or bad approach there?

just gotta do something else to get your mind off this, this seems like an extreme priority to you right now and you might be a little bit too emotional right now to think straight cause this girl is on your mind to a very high degree

if she doesn't answer, then just give her a few weeks to call you and give it some time and space, you don't need to immediately do anything, you gotta get your mind off this so you don't just call and call and call desperately trying to make something happen, if she is interested you don't have to hunt her down, she's not going anywhere unless she mentioned something about moving to another country

if she likes you she won't just leave you be forever and at some random arbitrary moment decide now she wants you but you have to contact her, there might just be something else going on in her life right now (like maybe a vacation and work) and seeing you RIGHT NOW! RIGHT NOW! RIGHT NOW! isn't her top priority when she knows you aren't going anywhere, she texted you before, she will probably text you again, just be more patient and find something to occupy your focus so you are less needy (like playing a sport, or going on a few other dates or something), if you continue to just ruthlessly hit her up all you are doing is showing her that if she dates you, you won't be able to live without her and as soon as she wants some time to herself you will be on her 24/7 with an extreme need for attention

I really do believe she likes me, she went pretty overboard on the texting. When I took hours to respond she would sometimes send me a few texts till I did respond. She would even drunk text me at times and over the past 2 months she initiated at least 80% of them. And it isn't just the amount of texting but the texts she sent were very relationship based... One thing that always worried me was that she said she broke up with her ex a year ago but it was actually only a month since we met, I don't know if she was using me to get her over him or what or if that means anything at all... Also on our dates you can just tell she was feeling me, I really don't understand what went wrong and how she just pulled a full 180...

Anyways, I do hear you and I appreciate the advice... I'll give her a call probably wednesday/thursday night, if I don't get a response I'll call her again in a couple weeks more...

Also, is there a reason why she didn't tell me what was going on when she suddenly disappeared? Is she trying to keep the door open or just trying to avoid the drama and taking the easy way out? I never been in a situation like this before so I'm just trying to understand... At the very least I learn something valuable...

man you sure got a lot spinning around in your head, what if nothing is even wrong from her point of view and nothing wrong or bad is even happening she is just contacting less
you can speculate all you want, you're not a wizard and I'm not a wizard, all this overthinking can drive you crazy, sometimes you just have to except the unknown and know it's just going to be ok, with or without this girl life goes on and you're probably just going all crazy over nothing because you're a bit love drunk, just take a step back and do something to distract you from this so that you are not so girl crazy and she will probably just hit you up after she has some time to think and start missing the attention you were giving her

You're right and I understand... I just really don't want to lose this chick but I do know it'll be ok... And I can't really help myself, I am thinking about her all day asking myself wtf happened... If I had some closure in the situation it'll be a lot easier, I'm just going crazy not knowing if I will ever see her again or not... And I even did set up another date with a different girl for last night but she bailed on me so that really didn't help.. I guess the best I can do now is wait it out and see if she decides to contact me until I try and give her a call...

I know your problem & it is the same problem many many people have.

You do not understand that you DO NOT MISS THE LADY.

How so?

Easy... what we truly miss is what we gain from those we spend time with.

You had fun chatting/doing things together/how you thought you could get something...and so on...

U dont miss her smile or squat.... you instead miss what she brought you... company, attention and so on...

These you can get from anyone.
So look for someone else, to get it from.

Also... I'd say you need to escalate...no escalation = adios pussy. 70% of cases of ppl not getting any is lack of escalation....43% of statistics are made up on the spot But im certain the 70% is correct.

thte point of a phone/texting is to arrange a time and place to meet...so you can make out and fuck like jack rabbits on the hood of a car in the movie theater parking lot at 3 am in the morning (my personal favorite ).

Yeah I just got use to her texting me everyday so the few days she didn't text me first I did... It was going on for two months so I obviously miss it now... The situation gets a little better everyday but If I had a choice I would still like to see her... It makes shit worse than I really don't have the time to meet many girls with my lifestyle anyway, I'm busy as it is.

- how old are you ?
- why are you so hung up on TEXTING? Like it matters anything
- what have you done with this girl so far ? kiss, bj, sex ? If not, why not ?

my gut feeling is that she's got fed up with you being a pussy that only texts her and can't escalate properly and behave like a man should.