Hi guys just a few minutes ago I went to the grocery store. I had my best clothes on hair nice wich already gives a big confident boost. I even just talked to the casshiere cozz I had enough confidence. In the line was a nice girl I saw her before in the store, she smiled. As we went out of the store she biked away. I biked behind her. Now I really WANTED to go next to her and say something. But yes after 3 seconds all of sudden you get all these negative thoughts..

Just wondering I am sure many of you had this in the beginning. How long did it took you to just go and say something in the first seconds you see someone. Theirs no point of pretending like you go the same direction for many minutes and keep thinking:'' Ok now I'm gonna say something'' and still not do it!..

And what made it that you just made the transistion from not doing it to do it?

The number 1 thing I always tell my students is NEVER underestimate the power of opening.

Here's the problem and why the "3 second rule" works so well... You see a girl and you want to talk to her. If you wait too long, your mind will start making up excuses as to why you shouldn't approach. If you just do it, you never know what could happen.

Honestly, for me personally... that's the excitement I get from game. Is not knowing what's going to happen next. This is why you should calibrate AFTER you open instead of before. Because the truth is, no matter what you THINK, you will never KNOW until you actually try! Dude, I can't even tell you how many girls I've approached and thought to myself "there is no way this is going to happen" and they wind up absolutely loving me. Being completely receptive. And other times where I've thought "This is going to be easy" and they wind up completely blowing me out. Because no matter what I thought... I didn't actually know what the outcome was going to be. Game would be BORING AS FUCK if we always knew what was going to happen. Enjoy the excitement and thrill of not knowing what is going to happen next. Let go of control and just roll with it. See what happens... otherwise, you will never know.

As far as "breaking yourself" and automatically implementing the "3 second rule" ... it just takes experience. They say it takes 28 days to make a habit. Consciously force yourself to open everyone you see once they first come into sight at eventually it becomes habit. You won't have to think about it anymore. And the best part about that is you will have enough references to look back on that you will know what you need to do after the open to keep the conversation going, escalate, and close.

Thank you!! That is like the best answer I could possible get!

Will try to work on it.. The strangest thing is that usualy it ends up good and nice.. But dam stupid brains!

Anyways thanks again! Next time I see a nice girl and have something in my mind to say I just do it.

One thing thought.. The girl today.. She was wearing like really nice panty's. I knew it where panty's.. But I wanted to just ask her verry seriously if that nice thing on her legs if it were called panty's or something else. And then just go over on something else.

Would that just have been 2 stupid?

It is good to see that you are observant, and that you've noticed the subtle signs that the girl was interested in you (signs that most guys miss)...

But you should have approached her the moment you noticed her smiling at you in the grocery store.

It's as simple as making eye contact, smiling, and saying 'Hi' in a confident manner, and transitioning should be quite easy for you as you have good 'observational skills' - you can simply comment on something she is buying at the grocery and take it from there

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This is actually some really great advice! I've had this sooo many times.. The next step then is to be confident and believe that when she looks at you and smiles she would definitly not be botherd if you said something..

I think that if you do dare to make that step.. Thats why daygame is so much better then nightgame. Because girls don't expect guys to do that to them during the day. The probabbly appreciate it more.

Thanks! I will build up my skills slowley and I shall try to simply start with these small things. Just say Hi and ask a question about what she buys and leave it their. And if I see someone on the street I like just go up their and simple ask :''Where is bla bla bla'' . And stop their first. If I can do this each time I see someone in 3 seconds I think I can build my confidince!