| Field Report, failed report.
Venue: Bar, Lounge, Club
Started the evening out great. Gave myself a couple pep talks, had some good music going, did some reflection, and prepped some openers.
Made a good phone call, got an idea of my goals and intentions of the night.
Drove down to the so called "city" in my area.
Went into the bar and took a peak around. turtle necked to see if there was anything. Not that I could see.
started walking out...as I was leaving I saw a two set @ a high top. Since I was already headed out, I (thought) I couldn't just bust a U'ee and approach. So I went outside, made a phone call; went back in.
Some stupid gorilla of a staff member was talking to the two set, so I went back towards the bar.
I spotted another two set and approached.
I struggled through the opener.
I fluffed a bit
went for a number close, was told "you are too young sweetie"
I am 22
they were 30ish (give or take two years)
Went down to a lounge. hesitated to go in.
after about 5 minutes, i decided to cross the street and go in.
once I got in I took my jacket off, threw a big smile on my face and did a quick glance.
I saw a three set sitting at a table about 100 yards to the north west of me. Two were giving me a glance; I smiled, one smiled back.
I began to walk. Unfortunately my steps were headed in the northeast direction...to where there were no girls, and as a matter of fact, nothing for me to social proof myself on or with. I stood there for a minute AGAIN turtlenecking trying to see what else was around. But, realizing that I just went the wrong way, and should have opened them....I just left.
Drove to the club.
Walked into the place glowing.
Shitty music blaring, and women that were being used as hump pillows.....yay! a club.
opened two girls that were walking in with me
did a little kino, fluffed a bit; moved on.
opened two girls that were down the bar from the first set.
did a little kino, fluffed a bit; moved on.
went to the other room, opened a three set
did a little kino, fluffed a bit; moved on
came back, opened another three set that seemed only to be three, but then realized the two guys in front of me were with the women. They were respectable about letting my talk to the women - fluffed a bit, didn't kino. Should have hung out with them for and their manz for a minute, but I didnt; moved on.
opened a two set that turned to four. fluffed a bit, did a little kino. the leader of the pact IOIed the shit out of me, then took the set to go dance. I followed but then broke track and went back to the other room.
Ran into the first set that I opened, asked em if they were going dancing, they said yes.
I went to the restroom.
I went to the dance floor, and approached the first set. They were leaned on the mirror dancing in place. I started dancing in front of them to lure them out. hahaa. lures should be shiny and appealing.
Got looked at by them with the "stupid white boy dancing" face. Moved on
Went up to the four set (last one I opened) tried dancing. Got Cold shouldered. Left the dance floor to go to the other room, no one there.
Went back to the dance floor and danced up to two other groups. Got cold shouldered and shut out of each again.
fuck this kept pulsating in my head. I left the club.
between each set I opened, I looked like a lost child in search of his parents.
when dancing, I looked like a baboon in heat
after opening each set and ATTEMPTING to fluff (because where I say "fluff" above, I mean I struggled through small talk), I couldn't keep convo's going, so I thought up something to say and ejected from each.
I was planning on going into each opener, response, and attempted fluff...but looking at the outcome, i don't think it is relevant.
hmmmm
what I did good:
openers were smooth, friendly, and interesting (thanks to those who donated them).
my energy was AWESOME, I was in a great mood.
no real approach anxiety - knowing eyes really were not on me
the kino that I did was perfect and
what I did bad:
was unable to get past A1 in all the sets
kept looking like a lost child when not opening a set
kept trying to dance like a douche.
unintentionally kept running into the last set I opened - they called me on it; oh well - the club is tiny.
bailed on the entire night too quickly.
allowing shit like this to fuck up my frame.
fluff talk was twenty questions
what I took positive from the night:
I am getting better at opening.
When in an SPAM that is more relaxed, I have no AA.
My kino is becoming more natural; when it's natural, they are comfortable with it.
the women were either willing to talk (in which case I wasn't advancing the conversation) or going to dance (in which case I wasn't able to do). If I just would have gotten past A1, I am sure not all of the sets I opened would have gone off to dance.
Push the stage development, hook, and then they won't need to dance.
If I stopped putting so much pressure on in these scenarios, I would have no doubt been able to at least HANG OUT with one of the sets.
how do you hang out with a set that keeps moving, without seeming like a puppy following up the rear? _________________ [color=red:7c51ae7520]email is a better option: thelockestar@gmail.com[/color:7c51ae7520][/size:7c51ae7520]
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