This weekend, I went out with some friends and my girlfriend of 6 months went to a wedding with her sister and a bunch of friends. I was fine with this but before she left I noticed she wasn't wearing panties with her short dress so I made her put some on. Sounds weird but this happens a lot when dhe goes out with me... more of that to come. Around 1130 she invites me to the bar they all ended up at but I didn't want to ditch my friends so I said I couldn't make it and my phone was dying. About an hour later I went to see them and as I was walking in all of her friends were on the front patio and we talked for a sec. All was cool until... I walked into the bar and right by the front door was my girlfriend full on making out with someone she told me she had made out with prior to us. I walked past them and calmly said hi (she looked at me and said "oh fuck") as I made my way to the bar. At the bar no more than 30 seconds I turned around and left and she chased after but i drove off. I went back to our house, took all my shit, my dog, etc.. and went home. Soon as my phone was charged it immediately rang and filled up with messages. I answered and said it's over then hung up. I ignored the next 10 calles then answered yhe 11th to say stop calling. I was home for 5 minutes when a cab pulled into my driveway and she got out. I told her to leave, I called her a cab, she grabbed my phone and ended the call.
She eplained that the two of them went in to get a drink and on the way out he grabbed her and kissed her and she didn't want to do it but it just happened. Supposedly there was nothing leading up to the kiss and they were both really drunk. Supposedly none of her friends new they were making out but about an hour after the cab dropped her off one of our friends (a lawyer) calls and tells me to go with my gut, it's probably right. I didn't ask questions because my girl was right next to me. A few minutes later she starts giving me a bj then we had sex but guess what, no panties. She said she gave them to her sister because her dress was way shorter. I'm thinking there's more to it but I don't know if I should call our lawyer friend, end it completely, of just forgive her and work on it. She says she is in love with me and wants to marry me and has said this a lot way before this happened. She never cries about anything (ever) but last night she cried uncontrollably for hours. I have no doubt that she thinks she does love me but since the beginning I told her the only thing that will end us is cheating. I told her I've done it in the past and I would do it with her, I'd just drop it and once that happens trust can't be rebuilt and the relationship will never be the same. I also got the classic "I'll do anything to make this up to you and ill stop hanging out with my slutty whore of a sister" (her words, not mine). (Her sister comes into town and stays with my girl to cheat on her husband.)
So, guys, what should I do? Call our friend and get more info, drop it and next her, or try to work it out with the info that I have. I feel like if it was just a quick drunk makeout I can get over it but if there's more that required actual though processing, it's a definite next.

NEXT!

Seriously, she cried because she was caught. There's ALWAYS more that you'll never know about. If a monogamous relationship is important to you, then run far, far away from this girl.

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I think you're right. I told her last night that we could still be friends and date casually but she kept saying she doesn't want to date other people. I told her "I"m going to regardless" but honestly, I don't want to. I think I'm going to call my friend and see what he has to say to at least solidify my reasoning.

C'mon, are you thinking about working on it? Really? As a side note... do you want to marry that?
She told you she didn't wanted to kiss the guy, right? Can't you smell the BS? Her panties were gone, even though you had her put them back on. She gave 'em to her sister, huh? Touching. Also, unlikely.

Walk away and never look back. Definitely not girlfriend material.
IMHO, you're not going to like what the friend has to say.

A few red flags here.

1) No panties? Shes getting around behind your back or is trying 2 (AND HAS--not your fault its just how she is...)
2) "Oh Fuck" when you catch her. I mean really she said that? Lol Ya she doesnt seem to smart... sry
3) Crying and super emotional-- you need a stable girl who is reliable and can control her urges. This one seems like she has 2 much baggage. Not marrying type.

NEXT her... I know that might be hard.. but in the long run you will be much happier. All the best.
Duke

I felt sick when I've read that you've had sex after all this.

Dump her. Nothing else here to add.

Just talked to the friend. He said the panty thing was legit, she actually gave them to her sister. Gross but whatever. He slso told me the sequence of events which is congruent with hers. He's been hanging out with her since the beginning of us and before us and says this guy (who's his best friend) never had sex and that there were no other instances that he's aware of and never actually saw them make out. He's saying that he wouldn't put up with it though and I don't want to either but it's difficult since I've only felt feelings for one other person in my life... and I'm 32.

You can use all the objective support you can get here, so I'm going to keep sounding the drum.

She sees her sister partying it up behind her husband's back, no consequences. She ends up trying to pull the same.

You taking her back just teaches her that if she does marry you, that's what she gets. She's sorry now, because the wound is fresh. Don't reconsider now. Get out and stay out. Casually date and fuck some other people, and see if you still want to make it work a few months from now. That will tell you really whether or not it's worth the effort to start all over to rebuild trust and a new relationship with her.

If you take her back under these circumstances, you'll regret it. You hurt, upset, and confused, and that is why you're even thinking about taking her back.

Stick to your gut. The more you have to talk yourself into something, the more you'll likely regret it.

Why would you live with a 6 month gf?

Yeah no doubt why? my girl got mad when were together 6months, she was talking about moving in togther at 6 months. I told her it was to early. Just moved her into my house last week, and rented her house out. We have been together for 14months now. She was going to sell her place but i told her it would be best if she just rented it for a year or two. That way if we dont work out, she still has a place to go.

Taking her back would be rewarding her bad behaviour. She used sex to try and get you back and you fell for it. You let her give you a BJ and you fucked her, you already rewarded her bad behaviour. She doesn't give a shit about you, she uses you for her own comfort. Girls who are really in love show it with actions, not words.

A girl who uses sex to get what she wants. What makes you think yours is the only dick she sucks to get what she wants? No pants is a deal-breaker for me. You need to set boundaries early in the relationship. No pants = No shame = No boyfriend.

I think your getting the picture here, as much as your brain does not want to accept it.

Hard truths

1. No panties-short dress = DTF every-time! (fuck the lame ass Sister excuse, her Sister likely put them on to take the blame.)
1a. (God Bless the little girls that do that!- except in this case of course.)

2. She was fully aware Bro #2 would be where she was going.

3. She had a goal. They ALWAYS have a goal.

Follow your gut, stick to your guns!

Can be used as FWB (casually dating, LMFAO), IF You can emotionally handle it.

The good news? She just gave you free reign to bang whoever you want. DO THAT!

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Dude you don't want to know more. Just next the bitch. She feels bad that she got caught. Not for what she's done. Could her sisters actions tell you about her character?? That's all

Next!

You guys are mostly right. Sucks but she's a duck I guess. She had no idea he was gonna be there but that's besides the point. She disrespected me so it's over. Going out with an old fb tonight to "catch up" but I think I might keep the ex around for rainy nights.