Hey there guys. I had a question. I was wondering what your opinions were on telling girls how you feel too early. I wrote an article in response to a younger guy who had a problem with this telling him he shouldn't just go and tell the girl he likes how he feels too early.

That it's way better to just create that fantasy of serendipity for girls cause thats just what most of them want. I see a lot of guys have this issue of getting rejected after letting their feelings known.

I posted the article on a facebook group and got a lot of disses on it from guys saying only pussies don't tell girls straight up how they feel. One guy said girls want to see you that weak part of you and that it should be ok to show it all. I was kind of dumbfounded.

Wanna see what you guys thought about this?

TIMING + ATTRACTION.

"Early" in this case is a really relative term. If "early" means you are confessing your love before she has time to process the info and she backs away, that's BAD.

If "late" means she had feelings for weeks but is over you and now you want to date, then that's BAD.

So you have to find that sweet spot right? There are no strict rules in the relationship world, and that is good news.

*Personally, I would refrain from being too liberal with your "feelings." Think of it like this: Women, while they may think you're attractive, are trying to build that attraction even more by finding things out about you. So by withholding some information in the beginning you can hold on to the mysteriousness. This is GOOD.

Here are some cues to determine whether its a safe bet to tell her "how you feel":

- She is talking about how SHE feels, about you.
- She asks about how you feel.
- She voices frustration about how she wants to know more about you.

This all means she's really into you. She wants to know MORE. The more you trickle this information in, the more she is going to feel like you are opening up to her. Just DON'T DO IT AT ONCE!

Hope this helps.

Yeah bro this helped a lot! Thanks! I was wondering if my thoughts on this were wrong or not. All my normal guy friends said I was wrong. And to "Be a man" and tell her I like her right off the bat. Don't get that one.