hey guys, im a shy guy and just like most people here, i want to change it.just started doing day game, today was the first time and sadly i could only do 2 approaches.but its ok,i will keep improving that number.but there was a huge problem,i had to approach the girls when we were alone in a street where there were no other people walking by.or they are from a distance so they cant hear us.why? because im afraid that they will judge me.i know this sounds really silly but this is a HUGE problem for me, if i can manage to think around that, things will be a lot better for me i believe.so please help me out guys,how do you guys dont fear what others will think of you when you get blown away from the set?or she keeps walking and you are standing there looking like an idiot? thanks for the help guys

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hey there is no shame in being shy, I used to be the most shy guy out there. Until I just started going for it and succeeding. Improve your lifestyle, work out, get new hobbies. When you enjoy your life, so will others. What you have to learn is that a lot of the stuff going through your head , like you actually know what they are thinking IS JUST in your head! Clear all that junk out and just go out there and have fun, you want to show women a good time even if its for 1 minute. Women remember the good who make them feel special and good. Ask open ended questions. Smile and be sure that even if you do or dont get her number , it's not the end of the world and it takes guts and balls to flirt with a girl infront of everyone. But at the same time everyone won't even notice and if they do they will soon turn around and go on about their business. Put yourself out there , go for it man.

thanks alot for your reply man,today i did 3 approaches(again when we were alone in the street),i got rejected in the sets but its ok.i dont have a problem with rejection, i know that it shouldnt be taken personally and im really new at this day game so i know that it will be a long time before i succeed.but when i go out,i dont go to get the numbers,i try to keep myself at the set as long as i can so that i can improve.yeah i just lose all the negative thought in my head,its hard but in time i hope it will get better.and you are right,people are in their own heads mostly so they wont care much.i just have to change my beliefs haha.

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no problem just be Confident and just be different from all the other guys.

is it just me? I find it much easier. Waiting for a bus I can easily chat up a girl. Walking down the street, in a shop, at the uni,... it's just so much easier. There's 100s of people around but nobody cares... everyone is looking at their phones and looking around. As far as I'm concerned I'm doing these girls a favour by talking to them and making the whole situation more interesting. I should be paid dammit!

Brother I completely agree with what the other guys here have said. Im just going to put it in another way that helped me more than anything else. Lots of guys want to go up and talk to that girl but wont because theyre feeling excatly what you are. Do you want to be the guy who went for it and possibly got rejected or do you want to be the guy who didnt take any risk and wished he did? Your call bro. Risk or regret, its all up to you

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Two words of advice:

1) When you have a presentation, do you just look at your PowerPoint slides and read what's on there? Or do you rehearse and practice what needs to be said verbatim? Hopefully you do the latter. So rehearse. Practice in front of the mirror. The more you practice, the more your stories will be entertaining, and the more entertaining your stories, the more people around you won't mind listening in. Eventually, you won't care what goes on around you to the point you create a bubble between yourself and the HB and no one can come in.

2) As someone else said, people walking around actually don't care... They are busy on their phones. For those that are actually semi-paying attention, they assume you two know each other from some place.

Success breeds confidence!

No one on the street should matter except for you and your target

Brother, the only reason that you are shy is because your brain has learned to be shy and it's automatic and <<hardwired>> within you. Every time you try to approach a girl this <<hardwiring>> kicks in (whether it's because of the people watching or any other reason) and makes it difficult for you to do what you want. But the good thing is that you have the capacity and self knowledge to recognize what is keeping you back and you are already taking steps to overcome it.

The human brain is an amazing tool that is dedicated into learning. But have in mind, once you start doing a new thing you are very self-conscious and you find your self thinking constantly. This is only normal and it's part of the process of learning. Once you practiced something however, again and again and again and again, something amazing happens and the whole behavior/pattern becomes automatic and it feels that you are doing it without even thinking, it becomes natural and fluent. like riding a bike

I am sure in a month you will no longer be shy and in 2 months you will start sharing with us your achievements with women..... and in 6 months you will not even bother to do so

Hey, man. WE have the same problem at 1st and i still have it but not so much as the beginning of my gaming. I 1st started out wanting to really talk to the ladies but my brain is telling me no so i just refuse after a long fight with my brain vs my intentions.... my brain normally wins. Now i started to approach a girls in buses and at bus stop are so even when people are around because i just said to myself that i will actually regret it if i dont and it will probably haunt me forever knowing that girl could have loved me for a thousand years and i just screwed up destiny by being shy. I actually created an another me, and i call him "Mercinary" and whenever i go into Merincary mode i refuse to be shy and i refuse to hold back on my confidence. I let Mercinary be whoever he wants to be at anytime so i let him be the most confident man on earth even if she doesnt seem interested i let things look interested between her and Mercinary. This is a way you can forget about how shy you are until you get primed in this game man. I hope to see your outcome man i really do just keep posting

is it just me? I find it much easier. Waiting for a bus I can easily chat up a girl. Walking down the street, in a shop, at the uni,... it's just so much easier. There's 100s of people around but nobody cares... everyone is looking at their phones and looking around. As far as I'm concerned I'm doing these girls a favour by talking to them and making the whole situation more interesting. I should be paid dammit!

And when you walked away feeling great she probably thought 'Christ, what a loser!' Honestly you guys really think you're all that. Girls are just far too nice and polite to tell you to fuck off, that's their biggest problem. You make it sound like they should be GRATEFUL that good old wonderful you spoke to them. It's pathetic dude.

[quote="Gapi182"]is it just me? I find it much easier. Waiting for a bus I can easily chat up a girl. Walking down the street, in a shop, at the uni,... it's just so much easier. There's 100s of people around but nobody cares... everyone is looking at their phones and looking around. As far as I'm concerned I'm doing these girls a favour by talking to them and making the whole situation more interesting. I should be paid dammit! [/quote]

@Gapi182: Totally agree. Most people (both men and women) are often too shy to strike up conversations with a stranger even though they would like to, so you're doing the hard part in making the introduction.

@Digital_Spy: Well, that's a really negative and unhelpful world-view. Do you walk away from conversations with strangers imagining them saying this about you?

Listen mate. Many guys walk away thinking they're all that and big themselves up but if we're honest with ourselves, a lot of the time the girl is just being polite and is not that into us. The next stage is texting and even then it leads nowhere. So many guys think they're cool because they got a phone number but the girl is unsure and just sees us as wanting to get into her knickers which most of us do. Christ they can see so many of us coming a mile away. I love how we want to fuck them and then think they're sluts afterwards. We need to be sure what we want and stop bigging ourselves up. Girls are seeing that men aren't ALL THAT because they can see through our BS.

@Digital_Spy: Have you heard of "psychological projection"..? Just something to consider in relation to your assumptions regarding other's thoughts and motivations.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection