I have registered purely to ask you folks for your opinion, need advice bigtime.

I have been chatting to this girl (texting etc) for about 1 year 5 months. It has been as friends, I have been at University but now I have been back in my hometown (where she lives) for 1 month. She broke up with her boyfriend 3 months ago, and see's extremely little of him. This is a genuine break-up, she has removed all evidence of him off her Facebook and Twitter. However, she has admitted to her friends and me that she is still attached (although my friends don't think she is), I do however.
I took her out for 2 hours 10 days ago, it was great, she didn't mention her ex and I made her laugh a lot, her interest level had risen. I had a houseparty the following Saturday, I got way too drunk and was being sick, telling her to go home/I never want to speak to her again etc, and she stuck around looking after me. Later that night, she got into bed with me and was very touchy and eventually started kissing me. Great. A few days later I wound her up about a mutual friend who I have been with in the past, and she was annoyed and upset (she told her friends and me a few days later). She seems to be a bit more flakey and blunt now, but we are still texting, generally on good terms.
Another thing I feel is important to mention, she texts me ALL the time, cannot leave me alone. I even told her I no longer wanted contact and she still text me. But she is hard to make plans with, she won't give a exact time or place and makes it very hard despite enjoying the 2 times I've seen her. I wonder if this is because she doesn't want to see me or is playing this hard to get thing. She is hit and miss in this subject, she has recently said she want's to do a particular something with me - but she hasn't followed it up.

So to summarise, I am falling for this girl, she is attached to her ex (although I believe she is getting over him and isn't far off). I am sure if I saw her a few more times things could advance and she would feel the same way about me that I do about her. She has previously said she is worried about 'falling' for me because I move back to Uni in 4 months (although I am home all the time). I want this girl to like me quite badly, and am making mistakes because of my vulnerable state! (despite the nature of this post, she knows I am not a pussy and am actually quite confident).

Please share your advice, I've been struggling recently, and any further questions or info you need to know, please let me know.

Thanks guys

What EXACTLY is your objective? Do you want to fuck her? Do you want to date her? Or do you want to forget about her?

And what EXACTLY is the issue?

I want to fuck her, date her etc. I want her to forget about her ex and I want all this without getting attached too much myself! I think the last week I have been over-investing and hence these new feelings..

I guess what I want is the following:

Her to NOT WANT to talk to her ex anymore
Her to continue seeing/talking to me regularly, once the ex is out the way I am sure I can do what I need too..

So she's texting you all the time and you told her you don't want her contacting you. Why? Why would you want her to stop texting you to begin with, and how would that help you date her? Are you asking to hang out with her or is it her asking you? Can you go into more detail as to how she's dancing around going out with you? Have you told her "meet me HERE at THIS time and date?" Post a conversation about you or her trying to set up a date. While it's a respectable objective, you have to keep in mind you have no direct control or say in this matter. Even if you two grow close, it would be unreasonable for you to tell her to stop talking to her ex. Instead, you should see this as a red flag. One that says she's obviously not over him. And if she's not over him, she could potentially want to use you to get over him (which would make for some nice fucking... but not sure about dating).

So you want her to forget that other guy and think only of you yet you wound her up about a mutual friend you'd been with in the past and she was annoyed and upset? Can you blame her? Grow up dude. It seems you want to be with her but you're not showing any maturity. I think she really likes you but stop fucking up to try and make her jealous otherwise she'll start thinking more about the other dude. Be a man, take her out, be romantic, pull out all the stops to show her what a good catch you are. She needs to be able to trust you. She doesn't want to feel used so treat her like a lady. If you are really into her, you'd pull out all the stops without needing to be told.

I wanted to stop contacting her because I felt like I was getting too attached, and it wasn't a good idea.

I guess I am quite vague when making plans, I will start being more exact and see what she does.

The reason I wound her up about this mutual friend is because, rightly or wrongly, I am trying not too show TOO much interest in her, and letting her know I have other options. I tried this extremely nice tactic 2 years ago and got absoloutely screwed over, so I am trying not to do that again.

Not sure what to do, guess I will just try and make firm dates and if she rejects I won't contact her unless she contacts me (what I do anyway).