Met this girl over a month and a half ago and she has been texting me first almost everyday... She was really into me, we live about an hour apart so we didn't see eachother much but after a week or so of texting we went out on a first date and it ended very well, ended up k-closing... We then went on a second date last week (we have been texting the whole time up until) and it ended up well i think, ended up making out in her car, probably could have escalated more and f-closed but i didnt... but we had a good time and me and this girl really connect...

Anyway, she texts me the next day (sunday) and everything seems good... I even pushed to go out Tuesday and she said to let her know the details...
The following day (Monday) I text her back and I get a reply hours later (she was working) and we ended up only exchanging a couple texts and nothing was set on Tuesday... Tuesday neither of us texted eachother... So I text her wednesday and she doesn't reply till i send her a second text hours later (i know i messed up here but she has done that to me a lot so i caved)... She ends up replying (saying she was really busy and tired) and we talk for a bit then I ignore her last text and went to bed... Thursday I send her a text just before bed, no reply... Friday I send her another text, no reply...

Now I'm fuckked and I look needy... Is this a loss cause? This one hurting me bad, I wasn't really into her at first but she texted me everyday and now I miss it and worried i'll lose her...

Is she just upset I ignored her text or do you think she could really lose interest that quick?? appreciate any advice....

Ok so I just posted about something really similar. Girl was literally chasing me, constantly texting etc. and came onto this forum to look for advice. What ended up happening was the girl in question was she got back with her ex boyfriend. I'm guessing if you didn't fuck anything up then she stopped responding because there is another guy in the picture. I would definitely stop initiating contact and move on.

This is a good example of why the old saying "Strike while the iron is hot" holds true. You had the chance to have sex, but missed that window. But it's not as big of a deal as it feels. There are plenty of other women and plenty of other windows.

There are hundreds of different possible reasons why she isn't texting you back. Trying to figure out "Why?" is usually just mental-masturbation (not to mention emotionally exhausting). Yeah it's possible that she thought you were too needy. If you feel needy, you need to work on that before pursuing a relationship with a girl anyway. Or maybe she backwards rationalized the lack of sex and concluded she wasn't super interested in you? As insane as that sounds, it occasionally happens.
But judging by how well you did with her on the dates, I doubt you were acting all that needy, if at all. So I wouldn't be too hard on yourself. Many guys out there can't even get dates.

I agree with Odyn that it is definitely possible that she just got back with a boyfriend or is dating some other guy. Or maybe she broke her phone. Or maybe she is on vacation. I mean we could probably sit here all day and list possible reasons.... But it's pointless because she is the only one that knows the reason.

I know it really sucks when a girl you have been talking to for a while suddenly drops off the radar like that, with no explanation.
All you can really do now is perhaps send her an honest message. If it were me I'd wait a few days to make sure, and then text something like genuine like, "Just wanted to say I enjoyed my time I spent with you and was honestly starting to like you. I'm disappointed you decided not to pursue this further, but I hope whatever path your life takes you on brings you nothing but happiness. Take care." At that point I would know I gave her a nice last impression of me, I kept a positive attitude and didn't act like a bitter, angry bitch like many guys do in that situation.
One last thought: if she doesn't ever contact you again than you two weren't as compatible as your emotions lead you to believe. If you truly connect with a girl, and she likes you in a meaningful way, she won't mystery drop you like that. Your best bet is to learn from this and to not allow yourself to become so emotionally invested in a girl before you two are actually a couple. Believe me, I've also learned that lesson the hard way. Eventually you will meet a girl that is much more into you than this girl ever was and you will hardly even remember caring about this situation.
good luck

Ya I am REALLY surprised she would just ignore me like that, especially without saying a word. But she was mad into me and it felt like we were in a relationship the way we were texting eachother and even in person, she kept talking about the future and was showing me her friends on her phone and shit... And that is exactly why this is hitting me so hard, I mean she couldn't even let me know? Do girls do that shit when you've talked almost everyday for a month and a half?
Isn't that very AFC to say? Isn't it better I don't give her any closure and just message her again in a couple weeks or even month?

I know for sure that her ex boyfriend keeps texting her but she said she hated him and that he was very clingy and all that shit... It was so bad to a point where the ex was saying he would commit suicide and shit lol... So I don't think she would go back to her ex the way she was bashing him... And a new guy? That fast? Possibly...

She didn't seem like the girl that would sleep with a guy on a 2nd date, so I didn't even bother trying. Although I probably could have gone for it, which I regret now...

Another note, she did mention she was going on vaca for a week (next week) but she hasn't been initiating contact all week anyway... I know for sure if I show her I'm weak or clingy I'll lose her for sure (like her ex) so I'm gonna freeze her out for as long as I can or least try to move on for real...

Any other advice or anyone been through something similar? I would never run into this girl ever since she lives an hour away and we don't even have eachother on FB...

I'm going to reply again because your story is so eerily similar to what I just went through. The girl mad into me, texted first everyday, wished me good night and even showed me pics of her friends on her phone and talked about how crazy they were and told me I would see for myself soon. I too didn't close etc, Two weeks later there was another dude. Let us know what you find out...but my money is on someone else. Also I wouldn't send another text unless for some reason you need closure?

How could I find out? I don't see this girl in my daily routine at all. We have no mutual friends too. It would be really easy to lose contact with her since I didn't even bother adding her on FB.

I am positive there is another guy only because she was texting me 24/7 then suddenly stops, she loved and needed the attention. She wouldn't have stopped unless she was getting it somewhere else.

I really do want closure here, only because it hurts to lose a girl like that... I know she is on vaca for the next week (also she said during our 2nd date) so if I ever do text her again it'll be in a week or 2...

Unless you think I should just let her go, or wait longer?? I really want to get this girl back and this time be a little 'different' knowing I could lose her, I slipped because I thought I had her on lock...

This sums my situation up perfectly. Live and learn, there is always another guy which is why you better fclose asap or she is going else where.

But the problem is i was very high value... I really doubt she could find a better guy in that short period...

-She found me attractive
-Liked my personality
-Same taste in sports/music
-She knew I was financially secure (Good job)
-She found me 'unique' and loved that we were both Capricorns
-She loved the fact that I kept in shape, played basketball (a sport she loved) and that i work out 5 days a week
-She knew I was social, i actually made her think I was more social than I was and I even let her know that I was 'chased' by other girls indirectly

And this is why I don't know what went wrong... The dates went well but she just got cold on me...

On second thought, the text is genuine but I don't think it will do you much good and might validate her shitty behavior. Now that I've thought about it more you probably shouldn't text her at all. If she suddenly stops texting you she really doesn't deserve your time. What's likely is she thinks you were investing too quickly and too much in her so the only way you can recover is to stop talking to her. Or perhaps after a certain amount of time you can send her something provoking or interesting like, "I just saw your evil twin" or whatever.

What you really should be trying to do is reach the point where you are going on dates with multiple women, so when one drops like that it doesn't hurt so much. Slow down on how much and quickly you like a girl.

Just because you were displaying high value, doesn't mean you'd have her forever. You're not high value at all when she realizes she can get you to text her several days in a row while she ignores you. You in fact destroyed any remaining value you had by doing so.

And no, don't text her anything anymore. Just move on with your life.

Yeah I really don't know why she just pulled that on me, crazy how much can change in a day or 2... She was all over me just a week ago...

The amount of "she stopped texting" theads on this forum is ridiculous.

Stop texting, for the love of god call them! I just recently resolved to keep texting to a minimum and its already paid dividends. Text is for logistics only, eg "I'm at the bar" or "meet me here at this time". You cannot build rapport and comfort through texting.

Stop texting, stop texting, stop bloody texting!!!

Ya I lost this girl, fucking sucks. Haven't heard from her since...

She has been in vaca for the week and gets back this weekend/monday... Should I wait mid week and give her a call?

If she was even slightly into you I think she would have responded to your texts or sent you one when she is on vacation. I know its tough to hear but you should just move on and try to stop thinking about it. Good Luck