Wow is it still over?

And was it confirmed she did stuff with other guys?


It's weird that she WANTED you to get jealous. It's just odd that if she did cheat, that she would text a picture. Obviously it wasnt you, it's her and her ways. But that really confuses me.



Edit: I also agree with all the "non-reactive stuff, dont give her attention" like it says in all pua books. I think for pick up, being non reactive is the best. But in a relationship, things start to change a little.

so yeah basically i'm just doing a lot of things to keep my mind of her, such as:

Muted her on facebook ( so she won't appear in my newsfeed)
Meet other girls
Watch series ( Prison Break)
Work out
Read ALOT of articles about breakups lol

She's still texting me, saying things like how much she misses me and asking me if I made the right choice.
I've been ignoring her since the day I told her we couldn't be friends anymore and that I wanted to break contact.

apparently she graduated yesterday. I did not know she graduated because I muted her on facebook, but she texted me and got mad that I did not congratulate her. She's also keep changing her photo on SPAM with different boys to make me jealous. haha what a silly girl...

Stay strong my friend.

This girl doesn't want you as a friend. She wants a puppy to hop for her every whistle. You're doing the right thing to ignore every pathetic attempt of hers. You will find a girl that deserves you sooner or later my friend. Good Luck!

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Add my name to this list.
Good work on ignoring her. Many would cave (and then get stomped again). Now watch your dignity come back while she uses hers up trying to get you to notice her again. Just don't slip up by going back to her (in any capacity).

Hi all,

Interesting topic this is. I really feel sorry about the break-up rhidadi had. However, from experience I found out that a girl likes to see her man as a small god. A god isn't insecure and is forgiving. She would expect you to laugh over those flirtatious pictures and even make funny comments about them. It all goes to show how secure you are in yourself. If, on the other hand, her seeming promiscuity is getting you mad, still continue to act calm and steer conversation to other topics. Turning into an emotional wreck over her behaviour isn't manly. She will love you more for being secure in yourself and trusting her.

@diamen I'd reconsider what you have written...

First of all I think some religions would argue about a god being forgiving, but that's not really my point.

I don't want my girl to look at me like I'm a God because then she will have expectations that I just can not fulfill. I just want to be perceived as a MAN.

Also, OP's (now ex) girlfriend is one of the most immature pricks I have ever come across on these forum boards. She doesn't deserve a man. She deserves nothing until she grows up. It may be true that OP screwed up too, but still it tells a lot about this girl that she's still texting him with all that BullShit.

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Man dude.... i just read this whole thing

Make her your Fuck buddy.... dammmm . Next time she texts say come on over and sex me...

Then find some other girls too get some menage going...

Fuck buddy? HOW??? Geez this girl has the intellect of a 12 year-old. How on Earth do you think she'd be capable of maintaining a friends with benefits kind of relationship...

Also making a fuck buddy out of your ex is generally a bad idea, quite irresponsible, with very few exceptions(this clearly not being one)

Also OP has yet to obtain an inner game strong enough to back something like that up.

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I gotta admit I thought exactly the same.
It'd be so easy to get that girl again for sex.

The thing is that he still has feelings for her, so the time she'd show up they'd be making love and then hugging and kissing... And the whole thing would drag out and NOT as a friend with benefit, but as a dysfunctional relationship.


I also think that she really liked him, and the pics she was sending, it was only to get his attention.

The "your feelings don't matter" and the "I hope you die" are overblown, she cared a lot about him in that moment and what she was saying were just tantrum fits, possibly it was also a bad period in her cycle, she just couldn't control her emotions.
I might pity a girl saying that more than being angry about it (and I had a girl with huge mood swings, not easy being in relationship with, but you gotta be stronger than that if you even wanna try it... )

So basically what you're saying is that I should try it again? Give her a second chance?

No you shouldn't.

Hiya,
Sit tight, I’ve got quite a story to tell you guys
I'm such a beta guy. I gave her another chance while she wasn't even worth it. I went out with a couple of friends and there she was.
She graduated earlier, but I did not congratulate her, so I went to her to congratulate her. She said she was happy to see me again and she missed me. She said she was sorry for all the things she has done and knew she could be a bitch from time to time. She also said she has been thinking a lot about her behavior and knew things would work out if she worked on a couple of things. I was confused. I didn't know what to say. Sure I wanted her back but was it the right thing to do? I said nothing to her and she went to the dance floor. She danced with a couple of other guys and it went from dancing to humping. Humping him while he’s touching her in different places. I felt miserable. How could she play me like that. First say things to give me a feeling everything is going to be alright and then (in front of me) humping other guys and giving me that weird ass smile. After a while she came to me and wanted to dance with me. First i didn't want to dance with her, but she kept pulling me so eventually I went to the dance floor with her. We dances for a while, but after a while she went to another boy to hump him and came back like nothing happened. I told her I was about to leave and grabbed my jacket. She said "wait, I'm coming with you". So when we were outside she grabbed me and said she wanted an hug. So I gave her a hug while keeping my distance. She said she loved me. I said nothing back. There was an awkward silence and after a couple of minutes she asked why I didn't said anything. I told her if she really loved me she wouldn't play those fucking games with me. I said: "First you come to me to say you want to make things work, which is quite something for me to think about after everything that has happened, but 5 minutes later you are already humping some other guys. If it was me I wouldn't even think about doing something like that. I don't want to hurt your feelings, but clearly you weren't thinking the same. If you really love me, you'll have to prove it." She stopped hugging me and walked away crying. She came to the club walking, but It was already 3am so I offered a ride home, because I didn't want anything to happen to her. The same evening my other ex-girlfriend (let’s call her R) texted me because she had some tickets for a party I wanted. When I was about to take her home, I felt my Phone ringing. I got my Phone out and saw R was calling me. The other ex (the ex about this topic) knew her also and saw that she called me. She Raged big time and ran away. I was about to explain the situation, but she kept calling me bad names. I Told her to relax and tried to calm her down. She screamed that i could go fuck myself and scratched me in the face. I let go of her and went home alone. I was pissed, sad, confused. I just didn't know what to do. I went home and was about to sleep, when she called me. I didn't answer and put my Phone on airplane mode. She texted me and kept calling me for how sad she was and how sorry she felt. She asked multiple times for a second chance and that she changed. I said I didn’t know it just yet. She asked if I wanted to come over the next day. I said I wasn’t sure, I needed to think about the whole situation. I eventually said I was coming over. I went over to her house, we talked about what happened in the past, but I felt like she wasn’t even sorry for what she did, although she said she was. I said I wanted some time to think about it. She was okay with it. We eventually had sex and everything seemed to be alright again. I had this strong feeling for her. We went to do different things over a couple of weeks. We went to the movies, went swimming together etc. I finally told her I wanted to try it again, so we tried it again. We were like a normal couple again and everything seemed to be perfect, until I caught her texting with the Boy from Ibiza. I found out he also lives in our neighborhood. I asked what she was doing with him and told her I didn’t like the fact that she was talking with him after the Ibiza incident. She got mad and told me I needed to trust her. I told her it isn’t about trust, but about things that I feel good about.

I asked if I could read the text messages she sent. She said no and turned her phone off. I know I shouldn’t be beginning about that stuff, but after what happened in Ibiza, it’s just hard to trust her fully. Fast forward to a couple days later. She had a graduation party. She asked me to come, but later that day we got into an argument about why I left my phone off. It wasn’t really a big deal but eventually I told her to stop whining. She got a little grumpy and said “do you still want to come tonight? Btw I’m going to dance with a couple of guys”. I was like wtf and called her. I asked why she would say and do that when I’m going with her to the graduation party. I got really mad and kind of said some things I didn’t want to say. I said I didn’t want to speak to her for a while and hung up. I felt kind of bad about it because I basically ruined her night just by saying that. I called her an hour later to apologize and said that I am willing to give her some space and time to do the things she wants to do(like dance with her friend). She got mad and said that I didn’t need to come to her party. So she went to the party and I went to bed. The next day she texted me if I was asleep. I replied with “good morning bella” and acted like nothing happened. I asked how yesterday was and she replied with ‘great..’. Then she began about yesterday and we talked for a while about what happened. She said she wasn’t happy with how I acted and I said she was right. It was her mother’s birthday that day so I asked if she was home so I could come over and bring her some flowers. She replied yes, but we are going to a party soon and a friend is also here (the friend she also mentioned with who she was dancing yesterday). I ignored it and came over. When I came over, everybody was in a bad mood ( so it seemed). There was a weird vibe and her parents weren’t so happy to see me. I went to her mother to congratulate her with her birthday and she shortly said. Thank you.. I knew something wasn’t right, but I was like fuck it. So I sat together with her parents, the friend and her. They started talking about all kind of stuff about the family and friends of which I don’t even remember the name. I was just sitting there like wtf am I doing here?.. So a while later her mother told her husband to go take a shower, because they were about to leave. He said in a grumpy way “yeah I will”. My (then girlfriend) started about an argument her parents had last week about something that happened 30 years ago. She said her dad was a marine and had a relationship with her mom at that time. Her mom was brought home by someone else and her dad didn’t like that so he got mad. I said in a funny way “finally someone who thinks like me”. She got mad and left. I followed her and asked why she left. She got mad and started talking bullshit. Like how I did yesterday and now act like nothing happened. To make a long story short. She was trying to make me mad but I didn’t bite. I eventually went home to stop all the ruckus and let her have a good evening. She texted me a couple of hours later that we were done. I was confused, but I didn’t say a word. If she is going to break up by text, so be it, but don’t expect an reply. The next day I heard from a good friend he was in the same club as her. She was humping guys again. On the same day of the breakup….

No Words to say after what you've done. Good Luck